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am i lesbian?
Well, I look at girls boobs and their bums and like I am really worrid!! I don't want to be lesbian. AM I?? Please please help me out ??
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If you like guys okay. If you like girls okay. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you are happy. I'm bi and proud. (Just need to come out to my family) If you're gay, straight, lesbian, trans, unicorn, fairy, Justin Beiber, what ever you are be proud of it.
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Don't worry. The world isn't made up of lesbians and non-lesbians. There's a lot of people in between (bi-sexual). All these terms - gay, straight, bi, bi-curious etc. are just labels. If you are getting aroused looking at other women's bodies then maybe you are gay, or maybe it's just a phase. You are young (I guess) try not to put labels on yourself as all you will do is restrict your growth and become a bitter person. Explore your feelings in an open minded way and see how it goes, if you are a lesbian - it will be better for you to accept it sooner than later (you don't have to tell people - just be honest with yourself).
Most likely though you are just a normal, curious teenager, who will go on to have normal straight relationships.
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Don't worry, I look at girl's butts and boobs all the time. I'm SO not lesbian though, it goes against my morals. Anyways, I compare my boobs and butt to theirs, and also wonder how they got theirs like they are. It's normal.
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Relax you are quite normal. Most all teenagers, boys and girls check out what someone else of their sex has. Part of it is comparison and part of it is learning about who you are sexually.
Now as for being lesbian. You do not one day just decided you are gay. Being gay is how you are born. It is encoded in your DNA. Being Gay is not a disease or is it a choice. Being bi may be a choice but being gay is not.
Checking another girl out or even having sexual feelings for a girl during early puberty does not mean your gay. I know many women who while in college engaged in lesbian sex almost exclusively. Why? Well for one thing it was safer; you can't get pregnant from lesbian sex and it does relieve sexual tension. For a second reason it was more available.
Once college was over these girls went right back to being straight and would not consider being bi or participating in a bi relationship.
What I am saying is in short you can enjoy looking at other women and not be gay. You might experiment in gay sex, many teenagers do both boys and girl. It is part of learning about sex and about sexuality in general. It does not mean you are gay.
I would say since being gay is not a choice but how you are born. At your age you would know by now and since you are asking this question I would go one step further and say you are not gay, that you are perfectly normal.
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You would only really know if you had sexual relations with another woman. Looking at another womas butt and breast does not make you a lesbian. I can assurre you that every woman has looked at breast from time to time its actually kind if normal.
Sure, I have looked at another womans butt and breast many times. I even have thought to myself " Wow!" But I can assure you I am 100% straight. Women all too often compare themselves and even when we do not realize it. No sweetie, This does not mean you are a lesbian.
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