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how can i pretend to be a virgin around my mom and dad ?
How can I pretend to be a virgin around my mom and dad?
I am afraid that they will find out
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I'm not sure I totally understand your question. No one can tell if you are a virgin or not just by looking at you. Even your doctor can't tell as a missing Hyman is not the only way to tell if you are a virgin. A girls Hyman can be broken in many different ways not just from sexual intercourse. Among the different ways are bike riding, gymnastics and the use of tampons to name the most popular ways to break ones Hymen.
If you are over 14 years of age you parents cannot by Federal Law force you to under go an examination to see if you Hyman is still in tact or if the doctor can find evidence of sexual intercourse.
Once you reach age 14 a federal law gives you total medical confidentiality when it comes to your reproductive system. You cannot be forced by your parents to under go any examination or procedure that you do not want to have.
You also can see your gynecologist without parental permission anytime you feel the need to do so. The doctor cannot release any information about any visit regarding your reproductive health to anyone, including your parents, without your written permission. No one can be in the exam room with you without your consent. Meaning even your mother will have to wait in the waiting room if she is with you.
Congress wrote this law in to the legislation known as HIPPA. They did so to allow young people the medical confidentiality they need to visit a doctor to get proper medical attention for their reproductive system. This law allows them to be open and honest with the doctor so the doctor can properly treat them. This law also allows young people over the age of 14 to ask for proper birth control. The doctor in consultation with you will prescribe the best type of medication for you. Parental permission is not required.
Your parents health insurance will continue to cover you for these visits even if your parents for bid you to see a doctor. By law they can't as the allows you to see the doctor without their knowledge or permission.
While honesty is the best policy only you know what your parents reaction will be to the knowledge that you are sexually active. They cannot tell just by looking at you that I am certain of.So you must decide when and if to tell them.
Since you are sexually active you should if you are ,and hopefully you are, over 14 years of age schedule an appointment with a gyn for a check-up. At that time you should discuss contraception with the doctor. Even if the doctor gives you birth control pill never allow a boy to have intercourse with you unless he is wearing a condom. Not only is the condom a second line of protection against pregnancy it also provides some protection against many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
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The advicenators advice above (to not lie) is probably the best advice you can get. But I understand that not all parents are rational when it comes to sex so if you really think you can't talk to them - just don't talk about sex with them. Virgins and non-virgins act the same - there are no outward signs or behaviors - there's no need to pretend at all.
Most parents however would be horrified if they felt their child couldn't talk to them about something so important -so I really think you should consider giving your mom or dad a chance to be there for you.
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Whenever you start trying to pretend about something, that's when it's time to TELL THE TRUTH. Most parents don't care about their children having sex as long as they are being safe and at least 17 or 18, but judging from your question I guess that's not your case.
Just tell them the truth. I don't know if the outcome is going to be good or bad, but I know that PRETENDING=LYING and LYING=BIG TROUBLE. So just tell the truth.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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