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ok, i have this friend, actually she is my girl friend, her name is kelly, and kelly is really good friends with amy. but amy is one of those people that her mom babies the HELL out of. and my mom keeps tellin me to try to stay away from those types of people cause in highschool and colage they are the ones who end up doing drugs-sex-alchohal (sp) ect... and i really want to keep kelly away from all that. But like i said, they are really good friends. i feel really bad for trying to break up their freindship, but i am affraid if kelly is exposed to all that, then she will too...im just really worried about her. should i go through with my plan to break them up (both friend wise and im posotive amy is atleast bi-if not completly a lesbien) or should i just try to ignore it and nothing will prolly happen. please help!
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no dont try to break them up, she will hate you forever if you do. your mom is wrong, those people are more likely to do drugs etc but thats no gurantee, and alot of people who arent babied do it as well. and why are you so worried about keeping kelly away from all that? jsut because she sees it doesnt mean shell do it too. just tell her you have a problem with that sort of stuff if it comes up in conversation. but yeah if your mom insists on you staying away from her then do so, but dont try to stop them from being friends
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don't be selfish it is nice that u care for yourg/f but u have 2 trust her she'll make teh right decision just don't pressure her
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It is a big mistake to pick kellys friends for her. I don't think it is necessary though. I don't know why you are so worried about something that is so far in the future. Chances are very good that you won't still be dating kelly by then. Even if you are, the chances of both girls going to the same college are small.
Enjoy your girlfriend and don't worry about weather or not she will get into drugs or not. If she is from a caring family and has any values at all, whatever her friends do will not cause her to become like them. :)
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Or just close friends...-__-..but friends don't let other friends go down.
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well well well.. your mom has no right rto predict anyones future shes no ms. cleo. =) if you girlfriend likes her bestfriend. why are you going out with her? anyways . dont break them up its not fair to them. just talk to her about what ever your feeling
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If my boyfriend tried to make me choose between my good friend and him. I would choose my good friends because they weren't the people that were making me make that decision in the first place. She'll dump you if you keep bugging her about it. Leave it alone. I'm a chick, I know these things.
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youre right, amy will end up doing stuff like that cuz shes never seem beyond her home town. i have a friend like that whose a good little girl and i swear shes gonna be the only pregnant teen in college i will know personally. its good that you care about kelly, she will realize what you will save her from in the long run. your mom is totally right...its bad for her, and you if your still with her. if shes exposed, she could get involved or become bi. by the way, i doubt amy would do anything in high school if shes anything like the girl i know...it wont be till college and i doubt theyll be friends then. and seriously, are they really that good of friends? some ppl are just pushed into it by family members, classes together, or just b/c they feel sorry for them. amy sounds pitiful...that may be why. *honest opinion guarenteed* <3
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I think that it is really sweet that you care for kelly that much. Most people don't care about who their friends hang out with. Anyways, I think that kelly might take it in offense because most girls feel that they can be friends with whom ever they want especially if it is a good one. One day kelly will see that amy isn't that good of a person and stop hanging around with her herself. It doesn't seem like the right thing to do but once she realizes it she will see how right you are and it will stregthen your relationship. Just let her learn her mistakes while she still can otherwise she will make the same mistake again in the future. Hope I helped!!!
~Linda
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I admire you because you care so much about your friend. However, you can't MAKE her do anything...she's got to do it on her own. Let Kelly know how you feel. If she realizes how much you care about what she does then she might change her ways. Kelly is lucky to have a good person like you as a friend...too bad all guys arent like you.
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I don't think you should try to break them up. Your girlfriend will only end up resenting you for it even though you have good intentions. You have to trust that your girlfriend is smart enough not to get into drugs and alcohol. If you're really concerned about it you should talk to your girlfriend and let her know that you don't really trust amy and that she should be careful around amy.
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Ignore it. Your mom is lying to you. Your mom is totally the devil homie! Dont listen to her.
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i don't think getting involved is the best idea. let them stay freinds. if kelly is brought to a decision like that, then hopefully she too will see how she should stay away from amy. if you get too involved, she may get uncomfortable and break-up w/ u. if u truly are worried about her and you are unsure if she will make the right decision, kindly confront her. if she does not accept it after you tell her, back-off of the subject. let her think about it.
~givinadvice
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First before you go through with any plans, sit Kelly down and express how you feel about the whole situation. Once you tell her I'm sure she will understand and have no problem with talking to you about it. Secondly, just because Kelly is hanging out with Amy does not mean that she will follow Amy's path, Kelly I'm sure has a mind of her own and will be the one making her own decisions about what she wants to do about her life. Good luck and I hope this helps.
♥ Behind Blue Eyes
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It's most definately the wrong thing to do to try to break up two good friends. So, I wouldn't reccomend doing that. Talk to your girlfriend and tell her what your mom said and tell her how you feel, let her know that you don't want her to get involved with stuff like that. It's better to speak before acting on something like that. -Think -Speak -Act. Think about what you want to say to Kelly about the situation, speak to her about it, then do whatever you need to do. But breaking up a friendship is not something you should do. Even if Kelly does get involved with that, it's her own stupidity. You need to do your part in warning her about it. At the same time, you can't be sheltering her from doing the things she wants to do because that's going to make YOU seem over protective and then she's going to want to leave you. Just tell her how you feel, what you think and everything should be worked out fine. Don't try to do anything before you talk to them though.
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