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Hello everyone. My name is Marissa Sage. Many call me by one of my many nicknames; Ritz, Rissy, Rissa, or Miss Sage.

I am 18 years old and I live in the state of New Jersey. Many of you might know it as the harborer for Great Adventure, the amusement park. For those that don't live in the U.S. it is one of the 50 states.

My education is mostly different from those my age. I am an early graduate of highschool. There is a program called Jump Start that allows us to graduate early and attend a community college not to far from my house. We are allowed to take 3 college credit courses that will be transfered to a university or the college of our liking. That of course will not happen until after two years of completing the required classes.

As for my major I am still trying to decide which path I wish to take whether it have to do with writing or another interest of mine. In any case I am poetic. I not only put words on the paper, I illuminate the page with the essence of my thoughts. A picture will evolve with just a few strokes from my pen. The words will have a life of their own. The rhythm of my words, flow as the streams of the mountains which drain toward the pool of dreams. Easily my emotions leak from my pen onto the blank pages, projecting the inner sight of my soul. The enthreal world, I enter, to capture the purity and truth. Eternally will the universe listen, with or without you.

I have a boyfriend, Alex, whom I care very much about. He is a musician, a bass player. Being with him is all that I really need, he has made so many drastic changes in my life. For that I am thankful. March 17, 2005 marked 2 years for us. Many of my friends are envious of the love that we share. Though we have learned not to let anyone come between us.

Thus, comes the end of my tale. If this is anything you want to talk about I will always be around to listen. I am glad that I could express myself, hopefully everyone will read it. Sorry if I made it so long.

Yours Truly,

Marissa Sage

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well my friend that i liked this year asked if i was coming to school the last day of school ...i said that there was no point becasue we get there at 8:00 and leave at 9:30 and were only going to be allowed in are first hour class and watch a movie ..he said that it would be my last time for me to see him and that he wanted to see me.i like him alot ..i was gonna kiss him but i think that would be to werid wat can i do ?! please help me

Maybe there is no point in going but maybe in this case school is not the point. It seems like he likes you since he wants to see you. I say go to school and see what happens. I hope I helped, good luck hun.

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There's this guy named Chris and he is sooo mean to me. He always says things about me that really hurt my feelings. He never says he's kidding..he's actually being serious. Today, he said something so awful I just wanted to kick him in the pants so he could fall..but that'd be mean..so what remarks can I say to get payback? Or what can I do? Everyone likes him so I can't convince other people to leave him.

Sometimes just ignoring him will get him to stop. If he starts to talk about you think of a witty comment. For example, "I love how you make me the center of your life. It goes to show that you really do like me." That should get him to stop talking. I hope this helps, good luck hun.

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ok.. i have this best friend.. he means like the world to me.. i love him soo much.. but as a friend.. not as a stocker obsessed way.. and i always talk to him.. and my friend.. like LOVES him.. like she wants to go out with him.. and whenever im with him.. she always gets mad.. so what do i do.. shes my best friend.. do i leave him alone.. or do i stay friends with him.. just never talk to him?? do i stay friends with him.. and risk loosing my best friend?

signed congused GIRL

Before completley loosing touch with him try talking to your best friend, explain to her that the feelings you have toward him are not those of love. Tell her that the situation she is putting you in is driving you nuts. Hopefully after you talk to her she will drop the subject. I hope this helps, good luck hun.

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I was going out with this boy for 2 months and I decided it was best we brake up and stay friends but when I broke up with him I thought he was going to doit and the same day we broke up he got together with his ex.When I found out I fell and started crying I still do cry about it when something reminds me of him I really want to stop and move on but I still see him at school and all I want to do it get with him again but I don't know what to do I miss him so much and I still care about him as much as I try to find a reason to hate him.Please help!!!

Even though you want to find a reason to hate him, right now it won't happen. Your heart still cares for him. Since he got back together with his ex so soon it is ovious that he was no good for you to begin with. It is going to take you time to get over him but you need to take it one step at a time. Try to keep your mind off of him by doing other things, read, hang out with your friends, write etc. Gradually you will be able to get over him. Trust me. I hope this helps, good luck hun.

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So this Saturday is prom and I am going with the guy I like. What is some small ways I could let him know that I like him like what can I do? Thanks!

You could always be honest and just tell him straight out, after all he is going to the prom with you and that is always a good sign.

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Me and my friend have been friends since Kindergarden. (currently in 8th grade) And in 7th grade this girl moved here and we've been friends ever since. But i try very hard to include both of them in all that i do.. and not ignore them. But then when she was in 5th grade here and this other girl became friends and ever since and it seems like i'm always being ignored by her. I understand that she has to have other friends and stuff but i feel like i should be indluded in some of the stuff she does. like occasionally go to her house. and when i invite her to my house.. it always seems like something 'comes up' and she never gets to come.. either that or she already has plans with the other girl. I don't wanna break the friendship.. but i just don't know what to do.. Any suggestions?

Talk to your friend about it. Expain to her that you are feeling left out and although you know that it is probably not intentional you just wanted to bring it to her attention. I'm sure that when the two of you talk it out all will be well again. Good luck, hope this helps.

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15/f. My best friend has been ignoring me for the past week. Well, not exactly ignoring. She'll talk to me for maybe 3 minutes then go talk to someone else for a long time. I know it sounds like I'm jealous or something but I'm not. She always talks to her other friends and I was never jealous of that, because I have other friends I talk to too. But lately she's been acting like I'm not even there. Then one day this week I had some of her make-up (I don't know what it was exactly) and it came out of the pen looking thing it was in and I told her I was sorry and I didn't think it would come out and she got really mad and said "That was the last of that stuff I had! Now I have to go buy some freakin' more" etc, but that's not what started it because she started ignoring me before then. I don't get what I did to make her act like that towards me. I know no one else would know either, lol. But I just wanted to know what I could do/say to find out why she's been acting like this. Thanks. =) And no stupid or rude comments please.

The best way to find out what is wrong is to confront her one on one. Talk to her directly and ask her straight out what you've done to make her start acting this way to you. That one you can fix it if you indeed do something. I hope this helps, good luck.

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okay...well i know this might sound stubid but i have no idea what to do. okay soo i was on aol instent messager and this thing kept popping up someone is on ur sn dadada and it was my other sn... so i went on my other sn and my sn was there and my cousins. and i was trying to get it away and my cousin was IM me to get off her sn soo isighned off and sighned back on and it went away....so??? i have no idea what that was about so i donno if she was on my sn...well anyway she called me and said why was i on hey sn and i was like i was not on it lalalal and now when she tries to get on her sn the password is vaild it was not on caps or anything what do i do i did not do anything!?!?!

Explain to her the situation maybe then she will understand what is the truth is. Hope this helps, good luck.

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Okay I am like head over heals in love with this girl. The problem is though is that she has this guy. And she loves him alot. But she Loves me too... What should I do?

This girl is oviously confused about her feelings, you should just give her time to think about what she really wants to do. It is going to hurt one of you but in this situation that is one of the outcomes. Try not to make it seem like you are coming onto her to strongly otherwise she might feel as though you are trying to get her to lean more towards you. I am sure right now she considers you a friend so don't let your feelings for her ruin a friendship, if she doesn't choose you then at least you can remain friends. I hope this helps, good luck.

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look,my best frriend just started dating my brother. I am upset b/c she tell's my brother anything I tell her and she yells at me jumps to defence and is acting like she hates me what should I do

Talk to her about it. Explain to her just because she is dating your brother does not give her the right to tell him everything you say because when she tells him it gets back to you from him. Ask her why is it that as soon as she started dating your brother your friendship changed. Hopefully this will help, Good luck.

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So this kid Robert and I were "talking" for a while, but now he goes out with Emily, who's my friend. And Robert still calls me. And he always talks about how stuff Emily does annoys him. And he always calls and we end up talkin about Emily and how he doesn't wanna call her. And he gets mad at me when I don't talk to him at school and stuff, but he says he doesn't like me.. It confuses me... HELP!!!!

You need to explain to Robert that he needs to get his feelings straight. If he claims to not like you then why does he call you and talk about how his girlfriend annoys him. Tell him that if he is not happy with Emily he should tell her not be talking to you about her. Good luck, I hope this helps.

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Well me and boyfriend have been goin out for 5 1/2 months. He comes over sometimes and when he does we always go out on the back patio, by ourselves, before his parents comes and gets him (we're both 13). And of course we always make-out... but sometimes it seems that someone is watching us. Like my parents are peeking through the window and i dont want my parents to sit there and watch me and my boyfriend make-out!!!!! I dont know for sure if theyve seen us or not but my mom said that from now on that we have to sit on the front porch and turn on the light. Kinda obvious, huh? Should i say something to my mom and/or dad or not? I just dont want to say anything to them if they havent seen us... :/

It seems to me that your mom might have seen you either that or I'm sure they can tell what you would be doing. They have already been through dating. It might be a good idea to just sit down and have a discussion with your mom, that way if it turns out that she hasn't seen you it won't look as though you are accusing her. Good luck, I hope I helped.

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Ok. First, my sister is graduating this year. Second, im getting ignored a lot lately. Its been really bugging me and i cant stand it. All my parents talk about is my sister and how shes growing up. Im not jelous but it would be nice for my family to acknowledge me once and awhile. I love my sister and im gonna miss her when she goes to college but shes not the only one on the planet right now... should i talk to my sister and parents about it or what??? UGH!

You shouldn't be mad at your sister. I'm sure that when the time comes for you to graduate your parents will act the same way towards you. Just let your parents do there thing but mention that you are feeling somewhat ignored and you know they aren't doing it intentionally and that you would like to be acknowledged every once in awhile. Hope this helps good luck.

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ok, i have this friend, actually she is my girl friend, her name is kelly, and kelly is really good friends with amy. but amy is one of those people that her mom babies the HELL out of. and my mom keeps tellin me to try to stay away from those types of people cause in highschool and colage they are the ones who end up doing drugs-sex-alchohal (sp) ect... and i really want to keep kelly away from all that. But like i said, they are really good friends. i feel really bad for trying to break up their freindship, but i am affraid if kelly is exposed to all that, then she will too...im just really worried about her. should i go through with my plan to break them up (both friend wise and im posotive amy is atleast bi-if not completly a lesbien) or should i just try to ignore it and nothing will prolly happen. please help!

First before you go through with any plans, sit Kelly down and express how you feel about the whole situation. Once you tell her I'm sure she will understand and have no problem with talking to you about it. Secondly, just because Kelly is hanging out with Amy does not mean that she will follow Amy's path, Kelly I'm sure has a mind of her own and will be the one making her own decisions about what she wants to do about her life. Good luck and I hope this helps.

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I have found my self bound into a life of disgust, everyone I get close to uses me or hurts me, I have even started to wonder why life is so important. I wana get rid of all the hate I have for the world and try to move on with my life

Everyone feels that way at one point or another. It could even be because at this particular moment you are just feeling you regret something that you did, or didn't do. Try talking to you friends about it, they are the ones that can help you through these kinds of issues. Let me know if this helps. Good luck hun.

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this is a really long story. to start out, were all 14, in 8th grade and catholic. well there its this couple (Anne&Bob). theres a girl(cat) whose a friend of ours...ive never really been able to stand her but i do to be nice. well Bob and i think thats Cat is hitting on Anne in a lesbian kind of way. shes always hugging on Anne (well on a lot of girls but now mostly her) and sitting on her lap and playing with her hair.shes kissed her on the cheek before but she never kissed her bf.. she dumped him last b/f for no appereant reason, shes constantly telling Anne that she loves her (anne thinks its just "sisterly" love) but basically, Bob and i have decided that she is bi but isnt going to come out anytime soon b/c her family is full of strict catholics...how should we/i approach Anne about this? Anne and Bobs relatioship is changing b/c anne feels like she needs space after being crowded by Cat all day long. they are good friends and Anne is one of those very emotional type people that is very concerned about being fair and looking at peoples feelings....i just dont want her to get into a situation like that and i doubt her bf would want her to either. btw, anne would never be gay...ive known her about twice as long as Cat. if you have any experience with this please help!

First before approaching Anne you need to go confront Cat, it's not nice to make assumtions without actually talking to them about it. See if you can find the reason why Cat acts the way she does, she could just be a friendly person. I hug all of my friends, we joke around and sit in eachother's laps as well so she might just be the kind of person who is just as friendly to males as she is to females. I hope this helps. Good luck.

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So my good friend got a job at this place where each summer performers come and perform their music and stuff, like a concert everyday. And I kind of want to work there too. But I kind of like this friend of mine. If I got a job there, would he be all like, it's just because he's working there and stuff? WE used to be really good friends, but now we haven't spoke much to each other. What should i do? I mean i could get a job somewhere else. thanks

If it's a job that you really want then go for it. If he questions you just tell him that you are allowed to have the same interests as he is. Good luck hun.

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Ok. My mom just had surgery on her foot yesterday and since then its like everything I do is getting on her nerves. Its like I can't do anything right anymore. And I understand that she is tired and hurting but I have been trying to do all that I can to help her and make her comfy without getting on her nerves but she gets mad at every little thing and she never says thank you or anything when I do something for her. Now its starting to piss me off. I know that she is not her normal self right now and is on pain meds and stuff but its like she has to complain about every little thing and she neverd 'asked' me to do something...she yells at me to do it.
I have been trying to just let it pass but it seems like its just getting worse and worse and I don't know what to do. A little while ago she fell on her foot and I heard her screaming and she never told me to come in there and help her or get her anything she just tried to do it on her own then she ended up blaming it on me....like its my fault that she wanted to get up and didn't want me to help her...I don't what to do...I feel guilty about staying in my room because she might need something but if I stay with her she finds something to yell at me for...
what do I do!!!!????

Try to help around the house as much as you can and although she says that everything you do is getting on her nerves it's probably because she feels incapable of doing anything for herself. Try to talk to her calmly about how you are feeling and that you are really trying hard to help her out but her constant yelling is only making it worse for not only her but for you as well.

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Ive got 3 groups, and I dont know which one to hang out with...I dont want to reject any of them. 2 of the groups have only girls in it, and the other has 3 guys and 5 girls. I kind of want a group with guys in it, but i dont want to tell my other friends, because they'll think im crazy.
And if I ask them to all hang out together, they wont want to, because Sarah (one of my friends) and 2 other friends, dont like one of my friends from the other group. And 3 other friends, dont like Sarah, because they think she's too much attention. Im in a bad situaton! I dont want to diss anyone, and i dont want anyone to hate me!
Help!

Alternate between groups so that no one feels left out. For instance, hang out with one group one day and the other group the next day.

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Theres this guy that i like. I see him usually twice a week. Well the think is his mom, she looked find last week but then when i saw her today she looked kinda pale and yellow. Maybe even a little tierd. I dont think shes worn out or anything but i have a feeling she might be sick... does anyone know any sicknesses that have the symtoms of pale/yellow skin?
thank you for those who help :)
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There are various illnesses with these symptoms, if you are really worried about her well being I would mention it to your guy friend and have him check into it. If it turns out there is indeed something medically wrong with her then she should be treated and taken care of by a doctor.

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