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hehehahahoho...ho ho ho merry christmas! we're off the see the wizard the wonderful wizard of oz!! 1,2, buckle my shoe 3,4 lock the door 5,6 pick up sticks 7,8 lay them straight 9. 10, big fat hen!! i love you, you love me, we're a happy family. With a great big hug and a kiss from me to you! ...i forgot the rest of the song...jingle bell jingle bell jingle bell rock ....forgot the rest of that song too...in the car i just can't wait to pick u up on our very first date is it cool if i hold ur hand? hehe i love you!!!

wow...lol...

thats all i can say...

wow...

i love you too!!! hehe

Love, Arielle

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OK, I have this friend and I think she likes the same guy I do. I'm pretty sure the guy likes her too, but both of them deny liking the other one. It's pretty obvious they do. But anyway, I don't want them liking eachother, because if they end up going out then that would put me in a really akward position, being that she's my best-friend, and I like the guy and all. I don't want to be mean to her about it, so I just laugh at the situation, but I don't want to anymore, it's really bothering me, but I don't knwo what to do about it. Sorry this isn't in "question format" but I can't think of any other way to word it.

Maybe your friend is denying it because she knows it could/is hurting your feelings because she knows you do like the guy. Does the guy know that you like him? Maybe he doesn't know so he doesn't really realize what he's doing. I think you should just tell one of them (i recommend your best friend) how you feel about it. There are other ways to say it, so that you won't come off mean. Just tell her what you told me, that you would rather them not like each other because you don't want to be put in an akward position as a result of them going out, or whatever. I think you get the point..hopefully?


I really hope this helped...

Love, Arielle

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okay so this guy and i have been hanging out a lot. he tells me he likes me, and says he wants to ask me out, but he still hasnt, he told me he was waiting for he right time...well i think he likes his ex gf, bc i was lookin at his phone and he had text messages for her...adn he said she just got a bf, and even tho he doesnt have feelings for her, its ripping him apart. ive already done a lot with him, which is pretty unusual for me, bc i have such a hard time trustung guys...yesterday he expected me to do tuff with him, and when i told him i didnt want to he figured something was wrong...i really like him... more then anyother guy ive ever liked... but i have no idea what to do about him... any ideas?? please help!!

Well from my perspective it seems as though he is playing games with you, and your emotions. He does stuff with you, but won't ask you out? That, in my opinion, isn't right. But do what you want. Anyway..I think that you should just tell him how you feel, that you think he is still feeling something for his ex, but that you really like him. If he really has feelings for you, he'll ask you out and put his past behind him. I'm sorry if this doesn't help...

Love, Arielle

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See i ahve this friend and she like sometimes like when she is at a friends house like she is so mean to alot of ppl. What should i like tell her or waht should i do???? Please help me!!!!

I think that you should ask her about it. Maybe her friend is influencing her to act that way. The best thing that you can do is just confront her about it. If she still doesn't stop then maybe you should stop talking to her for a while, so that she knows she is making you angry or upset.

Hope this helped.

Love, Arielle

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ok so im 13 and i have fallen head over hills for this guy. problem is hes 19 :( i havnt really told many people about it but do u think he is too old for me? we flirt a lot. and he seems to like me. plus his bday is in a few weeks. any ideas on how to hint him that im in love with him?

Honestly I think that he is to old for you, there are plenty of guys your age that would be happy to be with you. But if you're really in love with this guy, which is unlikely, but ok... all you can do to tell him is just say it.

Sorry if this doesn't help.

Love Arielle

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ok i have a friend who gets all mad at me all the time because she thinks that ive changed and idk how ive changed or even if i have so i tried to act like i did when she first met me and she seems happy but she doenst talk as much as she used to and never really tries to hold a conversations what should i do??

Does she think that you've changed in a bad way or in a good way? My personal opinion is that she should be happy with you, no matter if you change. She needs to learn to accept that people change and there is nothin that she can do to change that. I think that you should talk it over with her, if you haven't already. If she continues to act this way, I'd tell her that she can either accept you the way you are, or not be friends at all, because no one is worth faking for. You shouldn't have to pretend to be someone your not just to please one of your "friends"
I hope this helped, lemme know how it goes.
love, Arielle

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why should i ask u a question???

Because your nice like that :-D

I like ppl when they ask me questions.. haha, jp

Love, Ari

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its me with the huge dick again u wanna fuck ill do it

you wanna tell me who you are first?!

i may do blind dates..but i dont do blind sex hunny

haha....

lemme know ;)

Love, Ari

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this summer my penis grew to enormus stature.and every time i do someone they have orgasms for a week. what should i do???

Damn that must be some good sex...

Do Me?!

Lol...just playin

Sounds like a personal problem hunny....sorry I can't help!

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should steff go out w/ the guy looking at her from across the street w/ binocleurs??(aka brian)

well i would say no...

but whatever floats her boat

hopefully (and most probable) she doesn't like him

so i'd have to say NO

love, Arielle

wow robby..one original question u had there

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what does a turd taste like












from hungry hungry hippo

sorry babe...i wouldn't know, i dont eat shit...

lol...sorry i couldn't "assist" you

love, Arielle

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well, my boyfriend broke up with me and i still really loved him, and i never really know why he broke up with me. any ways, i cant seem to let him go, and my friends are like get over him already, but i jsut cant!!! i really do like him, hes the one who made me feel like i was the prettiest person in the world when i was talkin to him. what do i do?!?!?!

always
broken hearted 13 female

Well, I know what a loss like that can feel like. The only thing that you can do is just live your life. There's really no such thing as "getting over" someone that you LOVE. I don't mean to sound rude, but at our age, it is most likely NOT love, and just someone that you like A LOT. Around 13 and 14 is when we are learning more about ourselves as people, we're gaining more friends, and we tend to get up in a lot of gossip. We get so caught up in everyone "hooking up" and "going out" that we don't take time to appreciate him/her. When people are telling you that you need to get over them, its probably a sign that they aren't worth being miserable over. When someone makes you feel like your the prettiest person in the world, it feels good for a while, but then eventually you need to realize that you shouldn't NEED someone to MAKE you feel that way, that you should be happy with who you are in the first place. After losing someone close to me, I wallowed in misery, as i'm sure that you have done (everyone does it, dont be ashamed) but then I realized that i was better off without him, that i didn't need him so that I could be happy.

I am just trying to say...be happy with yourself. No one needs someone to help them be happy. You may think that you do, and believe that you do. But in the end, if you lose them, what is your support? How will you ever be able to live? You have to be an independent person, you need to learn how to be strong on your own. You can't sit and wallow in misery because he doesn't like you anymore. You have to move on, as hard as it is.

I apologize if any of this came off rude...please believe me when i say that it wasn't supposed to.

If you have any more questions, just ask me, i'd be happy to help. Let me know how this goes.

Love, Arielle

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hey all of this stuff really helps thanks. so yeah i think she has because i start conversations and everything and she acts nice so yeah. thanks for all ur help..

No problem. Thanks for asking me. If you ever need any help again, i'm here!!! Much Love, Arielle

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ok well I have asked my friend to do that but she wont.. so i dont know what to do about that.. maybe if i asked her directly. but if i did she probably would say she doesnt or something.. yeah thats what the problem is that she might not want to be my friend cause of some stuff shes told me in the past.. yeah but what do u mean start a conversation. i try as much to talk to her online and at school and be friendly and everything.. yeah this helps a bit. thanks.. any more advice?

Start a conversation...like, just talk about general topics. School, sports, ...or just tell random and completely idiotic stories, lol, that always helps. If she is being friendly back to you then she probably put some of her bitterness toward you behind her. She's probably realized that she didn't mean some of the stuff, or that it wasn't worth arguing over. I hope that this helps, sorry if it doesn't. Let me know how it goes. Love Arielle

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hey whats up? its me again.im not really sure if this girl knows i want to be friends with her. ok well i dont really know how to tell her that i want to be friends and put our arguments behind cause she doesnt really like me.. that much at least.. or i dont know .i want to know if she wants to be friends but i dont know how to find it out. yeah maybe she does feel ignored by me but im not sure.. yeah i want to come foward and become friends but im not really a talkative person i just keep my feelings to myself. and she does too.. please help.

Maybe ask one of your friends that knows her or that is friends with her to ask her if she likes you or not. It's not the best way to find out, but at least then you'll know and that way she'll have at least the idea in her head that you want to know and she'll want to know why. But according to what you said, she keeps her feelings to herself, so that might become a problem. She might also want to be friends with you but because of past arguments she might not want to go back on her word of disliking you. One way to come forward is just by starting a conversation, if you two don't talk much then this will also give her a signal that you want to start talking more, ya know? Well i dont know how much this will help, but i tried. Let me know how it goes.

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hey.. well lets see my problem is that i have this so called friend.. shes cool and all but she doesnt really like me. cause certain reasons having to do with my boyfriend. but anyways.. i was wondering how do i show this girl that i really want to be friends with her cause i like her and i want us to have a friendship. i want to be friends but idk if she is willing to try and see that i am a nice girl .. sometimes we act as friends and we hang out and i buy her lunch and we laugh about stuff and everything but other days she just ignores me .. idk what to do. please help..

Well...does she know that you want to be friends with her? Maybe she doesn't know that your friendly gestures are meant to mean "lets be friends" instead of "..i'm just bein nice." If you reallllllly wanna be friends with her, start a conversation with her, either in person or over the internet, about how you would really like to be friends with her and that you just want to put the past fights/arguments behind you. You say that sometimes she just ignores you, maybe it's because she feels ignored by you, but yet, doesn't want to get into your business by asking questions or whatever. Do you ever try to talk to her instead of waiting for her to come along? Maybe this is the kind of situation where YOU need to be the first one to make the first move towards a friendship, or she'll never even second think it. All i can really tell you is to try all of that stuff, but most importantly be yourself, don't try to be something you aren't just to become her friend, because no one worth that. Love Arielle

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I used to be best friends with this girl who is now hanging out with other people all the time. That's fine with me, but every time she has a problem with them, she talks to me about it and I try to give her the best advice I can. But then as soon as she solves the problem, she goes straight back to them and I don't find out about it for days until I finally ask about it and she says something like "oh, ya, about that...we're friends again". She also tells me about all her other problems and goes on about how stressed she is and believe me, I understand all about stress. But then when I need to talk to her about something involving me and her that is bothering me, she gets all defensive and acts like I'm being snobby, when I'm really only trying to talk things out. I hope you can help me! :D

Girls our age are odd about friendships. One minute we hate a girl but the next we're the best of friends. Don't think to much into how she goes straight back to her friends. It probably was helpful that you gave advice to her, and you should be proud of that, unless of course, you were trying to end their friendship...for whatever reasons you may have. It sounds like you're annoyed that she "tells you about all her other problems and goes on about how stressed she is." She's just confiding in you so don't take it to personally, be happy that someone feels that they can trust you that much, but if it's getting to much for you, then ask her to please stop talking about it for a while and start a new conversation about a lighter subject.

Now...there are two types of girls these days.
1. doesn't like to start anything so avoids confrontation
2. doesn't give a shit if the whole world knew about every single argument that they had and spread EVERYTHING around

You're friend seems to be like the first type of girl, she doesn't like to start anything so she avoids confrontation. Girls like this tend to be defensive and pretend like nothing is wrong, basically, they are in denial. If they are saying stuff about you, then they are obviously not happy about yourself. But then again, think more about how YOU'RE acting before you go and blame HER attitude on something other than YOU. Because you CAN be the cause of it.

Let me know how it goes. Love Arielle

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. We tell eachother everything. The other day I was talking to one of our friends and he was saying that there was rumor that my bf kissed another girl. Should I ask him or should I leave it because I trust he wouldnt do that?
Female 13

I would confront him about it instead of just assuming for the worst. Or giving him the chance to do it again.

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hey.. whats up? well lets see i dont try to hang out with my guy so much he just likes being around me and he walks me to my classes and everything and i think its sweet. im not stopping him from hanging with people cause if he sees his friends in the hallways ill encourage him to go and talk to them that ill be fine alone lol. ive tried not making plans with him on weekends but he just wants to be with me.. i love him and all but i want him to stay close to his friends. yeah it may be likely true that he may not hang out with this certain girl cause shes drifted away or not tried to talk to him. it may also be because he doesnt really like it that this girl is making me her enemy when i just want to be friends .. yeah most junior high relationships dont last long but i hope this one will.. well w.b.s .thanks.. stacy

Personally I don't think that you and him have a very good relationship. Because it seems that a lot of people are suffering because of it. Even though YOU are the one asking the question, i need to know a little more about you and him. Are you and him going to the same school next year? Have any of your friends tried to tell you that he's a jerk or he's done something wrong? Let me know about this..but in the meantime i'll try to give you the best advice i can. You said that "it may also be because he doesnt realy like it that this girl is making me her enemy when i just want to be friends", has he actually told you this? or are you just assuming it? She may have also TRIED to talk to him but he's not giving her the time of day because his whole life is revolved around you. Second think yours and his relationship and ask yourself if its really worth not being friends with this girl that you obviously really like. You may see that what you think is right, may not necessarily be the best choice for this time in your life. Let me know how it goes.

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hey well ur advice really helps me thanks.. well i dont think they have any history i just think she just wants to keep there friendship. but its not really my fault that he isnt really being friends with her. i dont know what i have to do with this and why she has to hate me cause of it..i tell him to be friends with her and to hang out with other friends so he wont lose touch with them but he wont listen. he apperantly is to inlove with me.. i love him and all but i want him to keep his friends and everything. i dont like losing friends or gaining enemies. well today i followed ur advice and was nice to her and everything hopefully shes getting the message that i want to be friends..

Maybe if you didn't hang out with him as much, and give him no opprotunity to hang out with other friends, it would give him a chance to hang out with his friends and strengthen those relationships. Yeah, that might be hard for you if you two are inseperable, but there IS such thing as seperation. LOL. No offense to your guy but he doesn't seem like a very nice person, most guy's would "love" their girlfriend but still hang out with his friends, i'm sure that this girl isn't the only one feeling unwanted by him. Maybe try to NOT make plans with him one weekend and tell him to do something with someone else for a change. If he loves you, then you won't have to worry about him messing around with anyone else and there is trust there, unlike in some relationships. The con to junior high relationships is that they don't last and you get an overwhelming amount of enemies because of them. There's ALWAYS someone getting hurt even if you don't notice it. I personally don't get into relationships until i'm absolutely sure that I won't be effecting anyone else's emotions, because i don't want to feel guilty about it. But enough about me, this is about you, this girl, and your guy. If he doesn't want to hang out with other friends, there's more to that, it may be because his friends have drifted away from him because of yours and his relationship. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, but it is most likely true. Sorry that this is so long, it may not have made sense to you, but it made sense in my head. lol. hope i helped, let me know how it goes and ask about anything else you need help with

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