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hey guys this is stephanie! i think it would be fun and interesting to see how my advice helps everyone. people have told me i am a good advice giver and i hope i am too. so ask me anything and i'll try my hardest to help you! I may be going thru some of the same things as you, so by you asking me i can find a way to help you and help myself at the same time. So if I don't answer automatically give me time and i'll answer it.

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My friend likes this guy, right? And this guy likes another girl. The other girl doesn't like the guy, and so there's this whole love triangle thing goin on. The other girl likes this other guy. And all of these people are friends. What should my friend do?

Wow...That's confusing. Um let's see here...Does your friend know that he likes someone else? If all these people are friends then there's going to be some harsh feelings no matter what happens. Some people might end up happy, and others will end up disappointed. If something is meant to happen between your friend and the guy she likes, then something will happen. If your friend wants to find out if there's anything going on between her and this guy, she can tell him she likes him, or just talk to him more than usual, he might get the hint that she does.
I hope this helps some. Lemme know how it goes.

omgosh isn't liz awesome?

omgosh yes liz is totally awesome!!!

how much do u love ur best friend Arielle?!?

tell me now bitch! nowww!!! hahaha

hmm...i might needa think on that one for a lil while..haha JK! i love arielle lots and lots and lots and lots and lots...i could go on...but i don't wanna. lol but i love herrrr!! haha

my best friend died one week ago and im very upset im not gunna do nethin dumb but my fanily and friends dont belive me and im really gettin mad that i cant do nething with out the feelin like im bein watched i mean i mis my friend soo much she was my best friend and i want her back but i no that isnt gunna happen so i need to find a way to get over this but my mom is like buyin me all this stuff about greif and my family r send me laters and callin me whne i uesly nevre talk to them and im gettin really really upset and i cant stand it

I'm really sorry you lost your friend. Think of is this way, if you had a child that just lost a friend, wouldn't you have the feeling that they might do something when the pain takes over? I can understand why it's bothering you that they aren't leaving you alone, but it's just to help you. Try talking to your mom, or another adult. They'll listen to you. Tell everyone that you're just fine and that you'll talk when you need to but by them pestering you about it, it's just making you even more upset. They probably don't understand that they're making it harder for you. But if you bring it to their attention they may stop. Hope I helped a lil...lemme know how it goes. IM me if you needa talk.

hey..its me again...i asked the question about incest...

my sister and her/my cousin are dating....

what is your opinion on that...?

This must be really akward for you. I think it's really gross that someone could go out with a family member, even if it is a cousin. It's just wrong. Third cousins...that's ok, but anything closer in the "family tree" now that's just plain sick. I'm not sure what else I should tell you about it. If you need to talk my sn is ImNotPerfect215.

whats ur opinion on incest..?

um...that's really gross...sry to say it..but it is

okay well im 14 and like ive been going out with a guy for a year now and its getting to be a little boring in a way. so i really like dont know what to do. i like him a lot but we have done everything and talked about everything and there is just nothing left and he is getting really boring. ive been doin stuff with other guys behind his back because i really want to break up but i dont kno how. just like what should i do?

If you really want to break up with him then just start talking to him and bring up the fact that you don't think you want to be with him anymore or something. I haven't been in this situation before so I don't know what you should do. But if I was, then I would talk to him and just be calm about it. I don't think you should be doing stuff with other guys behind his back even if you don't want to be with him anymore, he still cares for you and trusts you even if you don't feel the same way. Hope I helped...lemme know how it goes!

well i have gone out with a few guys this year and there is one that i went out with and my and his friend have become very good friends. well me and my EX never talk anymore and i was just wondering am i putting their friendship at risk by going out with him?
Much Help

I don't think you're doing anything wrong or putting their friendship at risk. I think friends should accept who their friends date. They shouldn't stop being friends with someone just because of the person they're going out with. If your ex can't accept that then he is jealous and can't accept the fact that you can like someone else other than him. Lemme know if you need anymore advice. Hope I helped, lemme know how it goes!

how do you ask a girl if they want to cyber with you?

um...i guess you ask her? I wouldn't know, and I'm not big on the cyber thing..so if you want a more detailed answer i sugest you ask another colimnist

hey.. ok well see i have a boyfriend. hes awsome and i love him.. but hes always telling me that im his life and all this other stuff.and he says he never wants to break up. but next year hes going to a different school and i know that alot of what he says he probably doesnt mean cause we dont find true love at this age.. and he wants to get married and stuff. but my parents wont let me till im 20 or so. and hes says hes willing to wait. and idk if i should belive what hes telling me or not. cause alot of people tell me hes not right for me. etc. and they dont want us together. so what should i do. stay with him.. or break up with him.. i want to belive the stuff hes saying is true cause its really sweet. but im afraid to get in to deep and get hurt. help..

at this age girls can't really believe everything a guy says, a lot of their actions are made by peer pressure or wanting to be better than their friends. there may be the occasional one that really loves you for you, but we can't think that every guy we go out w/ does. if a guy this age wants to get married...that's a definite sign he's no good. you can't be ready for marriage at this age, you're just not ready. when you're yong you need to be with different people, not jsut one for a long time, b/c then you'll feel attached and you won't be able to let it go when it's really over. once you get really attached it'll feel like your world is falling apart when you can't be with him anymore. if your friends don't think he's right for you, they may be right, sometimes your friends can see something in a guy that you can't see. so take into consideration what your friends are telling you, it may help you. it's a good thing you want to believe what he is saying, but you can't always do that, if you believe everything, he can start taking that for advantage and end up really hurting you. i'm not going to tell you to stay with him, or break up with him, do what you think is right for you. hope this helps your problem, lemme know if you need anymore advice

One of my good friends is telling one of my friends that she thinks im psycho and i was wondering should i still be friends with her or should i tell her that i don't want to be friends ne-more?

I don't think that something like this should ruin a friendship, but if the friend that is telling the other friend you are psycho has done other things you don't appreciate, then maybe it's time to find another friend who'll be nicer to you. Just talk to you friend(s) about it. Confrontation is a good thing. It may be hard at first, but it will make your friendship stronger knowing you can talk to eachother about anything,

hey, i'm a 14 year old with a problem one of really close guy friends has a crush on me and i like him back but i'm afraid if we go out then we break up then we won't be friends any more what should i do?

I've been in this situation before, so I know how you feel. Just talk to the guy about it. Get both of your opinions on it and find the best decision about the situation. Sometimes it take sthat risking the friendship to find out where a relationship will take you, it might make you even closer with eachother. Or you might decided to just stay friends, it's not the end of the world. Just hang out a lot and talk a lot. Lemme know how it goes!

Should a guy cut his pube hairs???

OK well being that i'm a girl and not exactly worrying about those type of things i would suggest you find another columnist to ask. Sorry I couldn't help, hope you find an answer.

When you fingure a girl, is it best to just stick ur fingures all the way in and just leave them or is it better to like stick them barely in and move them around alot or what? Please give me your opinion!!!

ok being that i'm not big on the whole idea of fingering i wouldn't know how to help you here, maybe try finding someone else to ask, sorry!!

ur advice column as not chagned for ever

and is it supposed to change daily? if people don't want my advice then i can't exactly answer questions that aren't asked, but if you would like to see it change, then ask a question, or get a friend to.

How can you make a girl like you?

i don't think there really is a way to MAKE a girl like you. Just be yourself when you talk to her. You can't really force her...coming from a girl I wouldn't like it if a guy tried to make me like them. Just let her decide of she likes you or not.

OK, well then based of the topic of last time. With out pushing your girlfriend or making her feel uncomfortable, how could you get her to let me finger her or anything related to that topic?

OK honestly I think you should wait until she is ready to do something like that. But to bring it to her attention might help your case. Just talk to her about it. If she doesn't want to do anything then let her be. If you try to force it upon her she might break up with you.

OK...I doubt my girlfriend will do much more then make out which doesn't bother me that much but, you know? Well, the most i would really expect to do withher and would prefer to do would at least finger her. I don't know if she is ok with it and i DON'T to push her into doing sumthing she doesn't want to do. But is there any way that i could get her to let me do it without her feeling pushed or pressure/uncomfortable?

ok since i'm a girl you might not like this answer, but it'll give you her point of view. If she doesn't want to do anything beyond making out, then don't push her. By pushing her to do more sexual things you may be pushing her away from you, she might not trust you anymore. Don't rick your relationship because you want to get sexual.

I don't know what exactly brought this into my head. But I've been thinking about it a lot lately. My friend and I have been ..eh.. not having the greatest time of our lives lately, but hers is mainly over a guy that hurt her really bad. Was/Is it wrong for me to be jealous of his and her friendship? We're really close but we tended/tend to argue about him a lot b/c I dont like him. I just wanted to know if it was ok or if i'm just being stupid over a little thing. Your advice would be much appreciated.

I'm going thru this right now too. I don't think you're acting stupid over a little thing. Sometimes making your friend mad at you because you're trying to get your point across isn't a bad thing. In my situation I was really close to this one guy and I liked him a lot, but all of my friends could see something I couldn't see. I didn't want to believe them, so I ignored all of their remarks. But I should have listened to them because he ended up hurting me really bad, and all of my friends knew it was coming. So i think you should keep trying to tell her why you don't like him, it may make her mad at you but when she gets hurt you can say "well i told you he was going to hurt you" and then she'll realize she should have listened to you. Hope this is some advice that helps you.

is it wrong to be mad at someone and pretend like everything is fine just so that you dont have to deal with the fighting? i have a tendency to do that a lot and keep all my feelings inside and its starting to come back and really get to me... i just can't hold in the anger all the time but i hate fighting with my friends.... help me

Sometimes pretending to be fine when you're really mad at someone can make things worse. Try explaining in a calm manner to the person you're mad at why you're mad at them,then try and have a nice and calm conversation with them to try and solve it without fighting. If you feel angry but don't want to talk to anyone about it try writing it out and then tearing it up, it might make you feel better without having to talk to anyone about it. Hope I helped you!

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