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I used to be best friends with this girl who is now hanging out with other people all the time. That's fine with me, but every time she has a problem with them, she talks to me about it and I try to give her the best advice I can. But then as soon as she solves the problem, she goes straight back to them and I don't find out about it for days until I finally ask about it and she says something like "oh, ya, about that...we're friends again". She also tells me about all her other problems and goes on about how stressed she is and believe me, I understand all about stress. But then when I need to talk to her about something involving me and her that is bothering me, she gets all defensive and acts like I'm being snobby, when I'm really only trying to talk things out. I hope you can help me! :D
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Girls our age are odd about friendships. One minute we hate a girl but the next we're the best of friends. Don't think to much into how she goes straight back to her friends. It probably was helpful that you gave advice to her, and you should be proud of that, unless of course, you were trying to end their friendship...for whatever reasons you may have. It sounds like you're annoyed that she "tells you about all her other problems and goes on about how stressed she is." She's just confiding in you so don't take it to personally, be happy that someone feels that they can trust you that much, but if it's getting to much for you, then ask her to please stop talking about it for a while and start a new conversation about a lighter subject.
Now...there are two types of girls these days.
1. doesn't like to start anything so avoids confrontation
2. doesn't give a shit if the whole world knew about every single argument that they had and spread EVERYTHING around
You're friend seems to be like the first type of girl, she doesn't like to start anything so she avoids confrontation. Girls like this tend to be defensive and pretend like nothing is wrong, basically, they are in denial. If they are saying stuff about you, then they are obviously not happy about yourself. But then again, think more about how YOU'RE acting before you go and blame HER attitude on something other than YOU. Because you CAN be the cause of it.
Let me know how it goes. Love Arielle
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