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is she bi?
this is a really long story. to start out, were all 14, in 8th grade and catholic. well there its this couple (Anne&Bob). theres a girl(cat) whose a friend of ours...ive never really been able to stand her but i do to be nice. well Bob and i think thats Cat is hitting on Anne in a lesbian kind of way. shes always hugging on Anne (well on a lot of girls but now mostly her) and sitting on her lap and playing with her hair.shes kissed her on the cheek before but she never kissed her bf.. she dumped him last b/f for no appereant reason, shes constantly telling Anne that she loves her (anne thinks its just "sisterly" love) but basically, Bob and i have decided that she is bi but isnt going to come out anytime soon b/c her family is full of strict catholics...how should we/i approach Anne about this? Anne and Bobs relatioship is changing b/c anne feels like she needs space after being crowded by Cat all day long. they are good friends and Anne is one of those very emotional type people that is very concerned about being fair and looking at peoples feelings....i just dont want her to get into a situation like that and i doubt her bf would want her to either. btw, anne would never be gay...ive known her about twice as long as Cat. if you have any experience with this please help!
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Well this is definately a tricky situation. After reading your question it's obvious that you are disgusted by how OVERLY affectionate Cat is to Anne. From the way you describe it, it doesnt seem like it, but it is a possibilty that Cat just thinks Anne is a super amazing person and thinks she's really great in a friend sorta way and just wants Anne to know how much she likes her. It is of course possible that Cat just can't hide her true feelings about Anne. My best suggestion would be to try to talk to Cat. Kinda hint(not too obviously) in regular conversation that you have nothing against bi people, and that if one of your friends was bi you wouldn't care, but you would want to know. in a few weeks when you and her are both on good terms and in good moods, get her to talk to you alone, and just nicely calmly say to her something like "hey Cat, i'm not accusing you or anything, but I've noticed you've been acting very affeciationly toward Cat... It doesn't bother me if you are, but i just need to know. if you are, i'll be here for you and keep it a secrect if you want me too, but are you bi??" remain very calm and let her know it is ok if she is bi, and you will still be her friend. If she says no... ask her why she is all lovey dovey to Anne. If she isn't bi, at least you'll get an explaination for her behavior. Just know nothing will get better if you don't talk to her!! I hope this advice can help you, but if you need anything else, or more suggestions feel free to ask me another question or AIM me at SqueakyShoes567
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Big deal. But if you feel like this is going to mess up your friend, than do something about it! Stand up to this Cat person and tell her to leave Anne alone until she gets her head straighten out.
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Well i wonder what the fuck people say about me.. i kiss my friends.. tell em i love em..hug em.. and stuff.. gosh i guess im a fuckin dike woah baby.. just stay the fuck out of their relationship.. if Anne isnt uncomfortable then why should it matter.. and her boyfriend should approach her if he thinks Cat is somehow ruining THEIR relationship.. *key word THEIR* Not your and thier relationship..
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first of all, it wouldn't matter if she was straight/bi/ or even a lesbian. it doesn't even concern you. second of all, you need to stop being such a nosy little slut because we both know that if you found out that she was bi, you would freak out and tell her that you couldn't talk to her anymore, and you'd tell your parents and blah blah blah. get over the fact that "god" really gives a shit that you are straight/bi/ or gay. if there is a "god" he wouldn't judge you upon what you do, he would judge you on whether or not he is your savior. stop being such a nosy little bitch and get the fuck over it. shit. people like you bother the shit outta me.
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first, you're worrying farrr too much. girls are way emotional, and sometimes girls who are like BFF's are like that. for instance, a few of my friends are always hugging and sitting in our other friend's and my own laps. in fact, one of my best friend always sits on my lap and kisses me on the cheek, but i KNOW she isnt like that because she is in LOVE with boys. and all girls will say "i love you!" to their friends. i know i do, and im definately straight! dont worry so much!! confront cat online if you think it's really that bad!
hope i helped!!
~alicia
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Or maybe you're just over reacting like all the Bible Bangers do.
She's also totally bi! You caught her! She wants to strap on a dildo and do your friend in the ass. That simple.
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I think you need to confront Cat. if you can't get through to her, or she won't talk to you, or if she is just too anoying while you try to talk to her, talk to anne. tell her this is a=waht you have noticed. if anne thinks it is just sisterly-love and she won't listen to u, just sit back for a few days and let anne adjust to the thought. it may be shocking at first. also, don't bring it up again if she does not aprove of the idea. that could cause a fight. one last thing is that maybe anne likes the attention. or she could be very uncomfortable and be rying to cover it up.
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the best thing to do would be to not say anything at all. they'll find out on their own, so accept the situation, and just let it be.
-hitler
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First before approaching Anne you need to go confront Cat, it's not nice to make assumtions without actually talking to them about it. See if you can find the reason why Cat acts the way she does, she could just be a friendly person. I hug all of my friends, we joke around and sit in eachother's laps as well so she might just be the kind of person who is just as friendly to males as she is to females. I hope this helps. Good luck.
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