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what do i say to him?
hey guys...im really scared!! ok...i used to be really good friends with this guy and then we didnt really talk for a while, and in the past few months we have been talking alot and become really close again, well about 45 minutes ago i found out that his dad killed himself...what do i say to him? i mean HE doesnt even know yet...his mom called me before she told him...i used to be pretty close to his dad too...he didnt seem the type to do something like that...i have been crying my eyes out since i found out and when this guy does find out, what do i say to him? please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Seriously, if i were you, i wouldnt say anything to him until he finds out. Let his mom or a family member tell him before you do. If you do tell him (which i encourage you NOT to do) tell him like :
'Im so sorry you have to hear this and i know it will be tougher on you then it was on me. But you need to know about this. Your father killed himself. Im so sorry. If you ever need someone to talk to.. I will ALWAYS be here for you with a shoulder to cry on and i will always listen. Once again, Im sorry you had to hear this. :( '
Good luck <33
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wen he finds out try to help him feel better. calm him down and tell him nice things. he will eventually get over it but until he does..help him thru it. it'll be the best for him if a real good friend helps him feel better..like u
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the best thing to do is comfort him because i know how it feels i lost my mom to cancer the reason is when u have support it is easyer to get through because u no that people care
Hope I helped
Chuck
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Wait till he brings it up. But dont tell him you know about it, and just comfort him about it...
Hope I Helped ::))
<3 Amber Nicole
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You should let his mom be the one to break the news to him. But after that just try to console him the best you can and say that you'll be there if he ever needs anyhing.
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Oh my gosh that's horrible! What I would do in this situation is just talk to your friends mom. Plan out the right time to tell him about his father. No matter when you tell him, he will be upset. But it's best to tell him soon or he will get suspisious of where his dad is..I'm really sorry for you and your friend and I hope everything works out.
X_Amanda_X
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sweety im so sorry to hear about your friends dad
ok here is a few tips for you!
BE THERE FOR HIM!!!!
if he tells you he wants to be left alone respect his feelings dont push your self at him
if he needs a shoulder to cry on im sure you can do that
not alot needs to be said just show him that you care and your there for him in his time of need.
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Before you tell him anything, make sure from his mom that he knows first because you don't want him to know that his mother told you before him. Let him know that you are very sorry and that you are there for him and if he needs to talk about it, you are there to listen. This must be really devastating, and I'm greatly sorry for their and your loss. He needs to know that you are there for him, and that he can cry on your shoulder when he needs to. He needs you know, and you have to be there for him. I hope I helped!
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If he hasn't already found out yet. You can tell him, but then if he doesn't ask you to say or tell him anything else then don't. only listen. My father died about two and a half years ago and I foun that it was releving when people just let me talk. if he asks you something answer. and make sure that you are there for him if he needs you. Never leave in your friends time of need. My advise is always here if you need it.
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Dont tell him. Ask his mom if she can tell him because it has been bothering you for a while. It is best if pretend like nothing is wrong.
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Omg.. well what I would do is if he doesn't know yet ; then don't tell him because I'm sure his mother wants to do it.. all you have to do is be there for him and show him that you care. Whenever he finds out, just give him a call ( or go over his house ) and just sit down with him ad be like," I heard.. I'm so sorry...but I just wanted you to know I'm here for you if you ever need to talk to me or anything.." and maybe he'll open up and pour out his emotions and feelings to you.. and if he does, just listen to him and don't interrupt him .. just listen =/..and just keep on being his friend and helping him get through this time. I hope everything works out for you and especially your friend. =( I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
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