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ok i have a friend and i recently found out that hes gay i was really suprised at first but things got better and we talked more but now hes just been so bitchy lately everyone thinks im dating him bc hes not open yet and i think that may be one of the reason for my failed attempts at relationships hes a really good person at heart and i know that but lately i dunno hes been so moody almost like a girl you know? i just cant stand it hes getting on my last nerve! what can i do to get him to be the person i used to know even after i found out he was gay??? sorry this is so long!
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Maybe the way he's acting presently is really his personality. It's possible that your friend could ahve suppressed his moody real personality so he could appear more straight. Ask him why he's so moody around you, he's probaly not aware that he acts any differently around you. If that doesn't work then you guys probaly need to take a break from each other temporarily.
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Being gay is a hard thing to go through. It's like all of a sudden realizing who you`ve been your whole life. Like you knew who you were in the back of your head, but you made yourself not belive it because you knew nobody would accept it. He could be moody because it`s so stressfull , and maybe people are giving him a hard time about his sexuality. I`d just wait and see what happens.
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well if you cant talk to him about it then you need to dump him. every relationship should be supported on trust and communication and you guys cant give that and it looks like me hes not gonna change. thats like trying to make a dog a cat. you just really cant change someone gay. so i say if you really dont like him and hes getin on your nerves and you's really cant talk then you should dump him. cause your wasting your time on your life and theres always other non-gay people out there.
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you can just talk to him and be like i understand that your gay but why arnt we friends like we were i miss talking to you nd stuff hope i helped ::goodluck:: ♥
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I agree with zealous. With people who have not yet come out of the closet, the stress levels run much higher than non-gay people and people who have come out of the closet. They wonder what people will think of them, which friends will stay, which friends will leave, the reaction their parents will have, ect. With him becoming so moody, the most likely culprit is stress build-up. Depending on how long he has been in the closet, it may be very difficult to give up that shelter of "normality." There are many cases of people in their 40's, 50's, 60's, and even 70's, men who have been happily married to women for years, of finally coming out of the closet. Remind your friend that you will be there for him, no matter what. There is not a big chance that you can restore him to the person you once knew, because that person was a shell created to hide a much deeper secret. You may have to accept that your friend has changed, and realize that he is still the same person that you have been friends with all along. People do change, it is the glorious circle of life. Once your friend steps out of his closet, his stress level will most likely decrease again, bring him back closer to the person you thought you knew. The biggest thing you can do for him is be supportive of him. Don't try to change him, because you will fail at that. Don't try to force him to come out just to get him back closer to normal, you may end up forcing him away. And most importantly of all, don't treat him differently. People of homosexual tendancies are just as human as people who are of heterosexual tendancies. They enjoy most of the same things, do most of the same things, and live their lives the same as most people do. Embrace your friend's change, and you may realize that he is still the same person you knew, now you just know a bit more. Good luck to you and your friend. Everyone should willing embrace change, it is what keeps life interesting.
Best Wishes, Jordan
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