Heyy my name is Alisha i'm 13 and i'm only in the 8th grade but I'm always the one people come to for advice becuase usually i know the solution so don't be afraid to ask away. Anyway um i love to play hockey, soccer, and baseball so i'm atchletic but when i'm alone in my room singing and acting is my love. Acting is so much fun to me and i have a lot of friends that enjoy it too. I enjoy acting but singing is something I'm really good at and something i would love to do for the rest of my life. Alos i'm very out going and i can get along with almost everyone. I think that's all you really need to know unless you want to know more just IM me or message me
Gender: Female
Location: rhode island
Occupation: baby sitting
Age: 13
AIM: alishaaa x3
Member Since: May 13, 2005
Answers: 62
Last Update: August 20, 2007
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ok well meg cabot is my favorite author and shes basically all that i read, the problem is i have read almost all of them, so does anyone know of any good authors that are similar to meg cabot, preferably for young-adults? thanks in advance (link)
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meg cabot is my favorite author too and when i tried looking for other writters like her i came up with, Ellen Schreiber, Rachel Cohn, Lisi Harrison and Ann Brashares.
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I am 16/m/uk..
My girlfriend of 15 months i have found out has lied to me again about the same thing..
When we first started going out and throughout our relationship i have tried very hard to get her to stop smoking.. there were various points where i was sure she had stopped but it turned out that she had done it a few times behind my back and tried to cover it up but i found out..
She is currently on holiday and my close friend has told me she smoked with him and she asked him to not tell me... Naturally as we are close he did tell me..
I love my girlfriend to bits but her constantly lying makes me feel like i can trust her.. and trust is very important to me..
This is around the fourth time she has lied about smoking and it has come to a point where i feel like our whole relationship is at stake because i cannot stand being lied to anymore...
What shall i do? is it best to end things? Will i be able to trust her yet again..
Thanks for any help
Sanj.. (link)
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well i can see where youre coming from. with her lying to you, it would make it seem like you couldnt trust her. however, im sure you know that smoking is an addiction and incrediable hard to quit and shes probably been lying about it because she doesnt want to cause problems in youre relationship. If you have been dating for 15 months do you really want to throw it all away because she lied to you a few times about her smoking? Obviously the smoking issue is a rather big deal to you, it would be to me too, but if you love her and if she hasnt lied to you about anything else durng your relationship then all you should do is jsut confront her about it. Ask her why she has been lying to you about it. Try to understand before you throw away a really good relationship.
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15/f...ok so i've heard the expression "dead fish in bed," as in just lying there and not doing anything. What are some ways to not be a "dead fish in bed?" thanks in advacnes. (link)
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make sure you are always doing something.
make him change positions alot
when he looks at you bite your lip or something
little things that you do will make it more interesting for you and the other people
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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and we are both virgins, and today we were making out and things were getting a little "hot and heavy" so to speak and he told me that the wants to lose his virginity to me. I was a little shocked and didn't know what to say in return, so I said something stupid like "Oh? Really?" and he said "Yes, because I love you and I want to experience everything with you" He is the only boy I've done anything with other then french kissing, and I know that I'm not ready to have sex right now. But I'm afraid I might have hurt his feelings when I didn't say anything back to him when he told me. I guess I was afraid that if I told him I wanted to lose my virginity to him [which I do....someday] he would want to have sex right then and there. What should I do? Any advice at all would be wonderful.
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Just be honest. Talk to him about what he said and tell him that you feel the same way but you're just not ready yet. You want to be sure that it's the right time and the longer you wait the more you know you can trust him about the whole situation.
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this is a wierd question.. i know it depends on each girl but do you bleed ALOT ALOT if your still a virgin and the guy is big? like how much blood? (link)
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no... some girls dont even bleed at all... and every girl only bleeds if he goes really deep and makes it a hard push.
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this isnt a question im just really bored and i realized that you live in rhode island and i live in massachusetts. i am like really close to RD island jsut wanted to say that and hi..
so byeeeeeeeeee
my name is rosy btw.. (link)
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heyy im alisha. we probably live within half an hour to each other considering rhode island is like the smallest state ever lol.
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Last night my step-dad beat me. He's done it before, but last night was the worst it has ever been. I called the police and they came to examine me, but they didn't find any marks. But TODAY my face is REALLY swollen and bruised up. What should I do to make him get in the trouble that he deserves? I can't call CPS because I've already had three cases with all of them with the same problem, but they have all been dropped. I'm tired of being hit and I want him in jail. (link)
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well first of all i am so sorry this is happening to you and you really do not diserve this. The only way to get him in jail would be by telling another adult. Maybe go tell your friend's parents. I'm sure they could help. If you're other cases have been dropped then maybe they're just not believing you. YOu need an adults opinion to stop all of this. OR you can run away to a friends house and then your step dad should call the police and you can explain why you ran away when they find you. I'm praying for you that those will work. Good luck with everything and i'm sorry.
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Hey-
I really love my girlfriend and she loves me too
the problem is that we haven't seen each other lately- but that's not the problem
the problem is- I want to kiss her (not make out just kiss on the lips) but I'm not sure how to come across it
Is there something I can say to hint that I want to kiss her? please help
-premature kisser (link)
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aww thats so cute. you can't really hint that you want to kiss her unless you say it in a joking matter. If you want to kiss her then take her somewhere were the two of you can be alone then just walk up to her, put your hand on her face and the other on her waist and just lean in and kiss her. The only way it would be awkward is if she didn't want to kiss you yet.
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ok. so i have this friend who's a boy. we've been friends for about a year now, but if feels as if we've known each other forever. this afternoon, he IMed me and said that he's kind of having girl problems. i was kind of surprised because he's not really the girl-obsessed kind of type. he likes this girl that likes him back. but he can't go out with her because of his parents. i gave him some suggestions, but i don't know if he'll actually consider it. he seemed annoyed. even though i didn't hear his voice, i know him well enough to know when he doesn't feel normal. and i knew this situation is really bugging him. but throughout our conversation, i got really... umm... i don't really know how to explain it... jealous maybe? i guess i kind of was. i know that i don't like him as anything more than a friend. we're just really cool friends. nothing more. atleast for the moment. most of my friends say that me and him has that "chemistry" thing going on. and i guess i can say the same thing, we have a WHOLE LOT of things in common, but i've never thought of our friendship as anything more than that. i'm really happy that he likes a girl and that the girl likes him back and all, but i don't know, i feel something weird. i feel like i want him for myself. that maybe if he gets another girl in his life, me and him might grow apart, and have all his attention to the girl. even though i felt this way, i still told him to go for it - "ask her out if you really like her." i really want him to be happy even if it does give me pain. and as for me, i wanna focus on my own life and let him be. but knowing the person i am, that's not gonna happen. curiousity gets in the way all the time. and i don't want that. so what can i do? i would greatly appreciate any advice/comments.
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well it seems to me that you do have a crush on him if you're feeling like this. you can deny it all you want and you can say that you don't think of him as more but i can tell that you do. No one can ever just be friends with a guy eventually they do end up liking each other. As jelous you may be the only way to see if these are true feelings is to find out. See if he feels them too and just pay more attention to him then you have before. The littlest things can tell you if you like him or not.
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What the hell is laguna beach about? I know this is a really short question but I have no idea what it's about. All I know is it's a reality show with teenagers in it. (link)
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Laguna Beach is about a group of high school kids living in Laguna Beach (California) they all go to the same school but it's all about the drama that happens in their life. Such as boys and parties. It's all about the seniors at Laguna High and what they go through. also theyre all really rich.
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Hi i just turned 13 and i'm just starting cheerleading this year. Alot of my friends are cheerleaders since they were like 6 and I know they are really good and into it. Well I want to know how I can suprise them by showing them even though i'm new I can be good. Cause i'm shy and i'm jsut starting this year.Any tips? Also, do you think anyone will make me feel uncomfortable cause i'm new. Cause I do feel kind of uncomfortable that i'm just starting and everyone else has been doing it for years. they will proably think "Oh that girl isn't even passionate about it I bet she's just trying it out." (link)
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it's normal to be nervous about it but don't worry so much about it. There could be someone else who is just starting on the squad too and even if there isn't then the girls should be nice enough to let you join and become your friend and try and help you. If you're having trouble with something then someone should show you what to do. As far as getting ready for it just try and stretch so you get flexable and work on your jumps and herkies. Practice in front of the mirror a few cheers and always remember to smile. Good luck.
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Okay. So there is this guy. I was always attracted to him, and at times I really liked him, but it was just there, never acted on it or anything. Well he was a little wasted and he told me that he has feelings for me and that he likes me. How do I know if he was just saying that or he really meant it. When guys tell you that they like you and have feelings for you, are they telling the truth?? Now that I think he likes me, I am beginning to like him also. A lot. So if a guy tells you that he likes you should I take it seriously. The biggest problem is that he is in college and i am only a sophmore. So guys do you really mean it when you tell girls that you have feelings for them? (link)
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alright i'm not a guy but i know how to answer this. If the guy said that when he was waisted i would test it out. Flirt with him & that kinda stuff and see what he does back. If he kinda just stands there like a normal guy then he wasn't serious. And it depends on the type of guy that is saying that havign feelings for you. Most guys that are the sweet funny kinda type would mean it but others that have had a million girlfriends and can never seem to keep them wouldn't mean it. If a guy like that said they had feelings for you then i wouldn't believe it. So eally depending on the type of guy he is you would have to determine if he's a trustworthy guy or just a phony.
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im 15
this happened a while ago but i still am not sure...so my bf fingered me then a week later broke up with me...
what im asking is: is fingering a big deal?
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it's no a dig deal at all. he was your boyfriend and as long as your not going around getting it from a bunch of other guys in like a week then your fine. So if you get the rep of a slut then just realize tha people are stupid and i'm sure half the people that would call you a slut have done much more then what you have.
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Being Shy is a problem. A BIG problem to me atleast. I havent always been like this. I used to be in the "popular" croud and do everything they would. When highschool hit i am no longer friends with any of them. I can't even go up to any of them and say a word. Its killing me. Its making me lack in friends and i miss all of them.
Help me please! What can i do to be back with them?
What can i do to just talk to anyone!
When Im with my boyfriend, Im all open with him till im around his friends. Then I just sit there. They think i dont like them and thats not it. Im just WAYY TOO SHYY!
i comment well to if you help me! (link)
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shyness isn't something to be ashamed of but their are ways to get over it. If you think that you're afraid of saying something stupid or sounded weird don't worry about it at all just go with it. And besides your boyfriend you must hvae at least one girlfriend that you could have a girls night out with, just hanging out and relaxing and talking this will calm you down and get you ready for the next day. If you want to be friends with those girls that were your friends in middle school then go up to them and just say "Hi guys whats up?" I know you're shy so it'll be a problem and as dorky as it sounds practice saying it in the mirror over and over again and just imagine that you guy are still friends with you were before highschool. I hope it helps and good luck.
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I don't mean to sound stuck up but people tell me all the time that I'm girl of every guys dreams and every girl wants to be. The thing is that it is kind of a bad thing sometimes. Because people won't give me a chance. They think because of my popularity status and my looks that I am mean and stuck up but I'm really not. I always try to speak to everyone. Whether you are popular, average, or not very social I still go out my way to speak. I do a lot of other things but I don't want to take up to much of you all's time.Anyways a lot of girls don't like me. And some of the guys don't even try to speak to me because they think they don't have a chance with me. I want to know how can I get people to understand that I'm a normal person like everyone else. (link)
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I think it's great that you want to talk to everyone and even though a lot of people like you and shower you with wonderful comments you don't let it go to your head. I admire that so much in you and it's a great thing to have but if you want everyone to know your not stuck up simply show them. Those boys that don't think they have a chance so they don't talk to you, go over and just talk to them about the most random things ever and compliment them and even tell them some stories about your life like things that have happened to you, but make sure they're ones that show how really nice you are. Alos those girls that don't like you, confront them about it. Just go up to them and ask them (not in a mean way) why the don't like you and if they say because your popular and stuck up or something just say well i'm sorry you feel that way but maybe if you gave me a chance you wouldn't feel that way anymore or something like that where it's not mean but it's telling the truth.
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What does dildo mean? (link)
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um a dildo is a usually long object that is built in the shape of a penis that girls stick up themselves when masturbating
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Okay, I have like no self-esteem! I always feel ugly, stupid and like I am doing everything wrong. I can never do or say the right thing. Part if this, I know, is because when I was younger I was made fun of because of my larger than normal size (not that I have improved in the looks deparment since then, I am still very large). Since that I still feel horrible. Everyone always finds something wrong with me or what I do! I really try to hide all of these insecurities but sometimes they just slip out. Everyone is always cracking fat jokes and stupid jokes even my friends, peers, and teachers!What should I do? I am only 13! (link)
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aww sweety don't worry about what anyone says! Of course they're always going to find something wrong with what you do its what a lot of people do for stupid and pointless reasons. You need to boostup your self esteem but just relaxing and having fun! Maybe go get your nails done, go shopping, read, i dont know just something that will make you relazed and feeling fresh and brand new! Maybe you should try something new and cute with your hair or make-up, something a lot of people would like and compliment you on. But you always have to feel confident! You can't let anyone bring you down iwht words, i know they can hurt but if someone ends up cracking jokes just smile and say "thank you" but don't say something about them back because thats just sinking to their level and i'm sure your way above that.
Best of luck to you,
♥alisha
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ok heres my question....
I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR THREE MONTHS NOW! HES A GOOD GUY AND ALOT OF FUN! HES VERY POPULAR AND HAS ALOT OF "EXPERIENCE." WHEN I MET HIM ALL HE TALKED ABOUT WAS HOW BAD HE WANTED TO SLEEP WITH ME AND HOW BAD HE WANTED TO HAVE A LIFE WITH ME! I FELT THAT SAME WAY BUT THE ONLY DIFFRENCE IS THAT IM STILL A VRIGIN AND HE DOESNT KNOW IT YET! AND TO MAKE THE STORY MORE INTERESTING IVE BEEN HAVING FAMILY PROBLEMS AND GOT KICKED OUT OF MY HOUSE AND NOW STAYING WITH HIM! WE SLEEP IN THE SAME BED AND WHEN HES IN THE MOOD I FEEL SO BAD BECAUSE I TELL HIM THAT IM NOT IN THE MOOD OR I FEEL SICK BUT THATS NOT IT AT ALL, SO HE JUST ROLLS OVER AND GOES TO SLEEP!I FEEL LIKE SUCH A HORRIBLE PERSON! IVE LIED TO HIM SO MUCH ALREADY AND THE PERSON THAT I MET HIM WITH AND HE WANTS A LIFE WITH IS THE ONE THATS NOT A VIRGIN! IM SO SCARED TO TELL HIM BUT IF I DONT HES GONNA THINK THAT I DONT LIKE HIM AND I DO I REALLY DO! WAT SHOULD I DO? IF HE FINDS OUT I LIED TO HIM AGAIN HE MIGHT THROW ME OUT INTO THE STREET! pls help! and my tonight cause hes gonna try again and i dont wanna lie to him anymore! (link)
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well if you don't want to lie to him anymore and if you don't think your ready to have sex then just just tell him you don't want to rush into things. 3 months isn't long enough i'm sure yo uknow each other really well by now but if our not ready just tell him you want to wait and if he asks why well just tell him you don't want to rush into things in case something goes wrong and you'll end up regreeting it later. Don't keep lying to himm cause thats one of the worst things you can do. If you don't want to tell him your a virgin that might present a problem if you actually do end up having sex with him though because guys can tell if you are and if your not just by how you respond. So you have to make the decision i think you shoudl tell him cause if he wants a girl with experience and leaves you for that then he probably just wasnt right.
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Okay, I'm remodeling my room and I kinda want a beach theme... but i'm not entirely sure what to do... either that or sumthing like "night on the town" like a new york theme or sumthing... but if i did that i want the colors to be dark... but if i did the beach theme i would want them to be bright and like just totally out there... does anyone have any suggestions??? (link)
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beach theme- a blue color for your walls and maybe paint some palm trees in the corners of your room then on ur ceiling i think you should have a sun and some seaguls. You should have your bed sheets match that too and also get some lays too like the flowered ones and put them all around ur room along with some coconuts or maybe even some posters hot surfers.
new york theme- i'd get a black color for your walls but i'd have a professional come in and paint on some sky scrapers or something and on your ceiling i'd do stars you could put in a light dimmer and some little lights like one of those spinning dico balls or a black light and add a bean bag chair or a butterfly chair or something to make it look like a night in new york
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and i was just wondering about something. because the guy i like have been ♥ almost ♥ involved for a while now. we dated for 5 days but he dumped me cuz he liked someone else .. only to find out that she had a bf. he said he wouldn't have dumped me if he knew ..
so we were talkin and i was like "since we never really got a chance to try us dating .. do you think we could try it again" and hes like "yah i cood see us datin in the future" so i asked if he was gonna make me wait another 3 months and all he cood come up with was "i honestly dont know" .. but his friend shawn was tellin me how they ♥ ALWAYS ♥ talk about me .. and in study hall (because he sits outside) he cant wait for me to walk by so we can talk ..
so i guess my question is why isn't he doing anything about it if he likes me? why's he draggin it out .. im gettin so confused.
we hung out new years eve from like 9 to 3. he called me and he came to get me on his snow mobile and we rode back to his friend justins house. we both feel asleep (we were layin together on the futon) and then justin and him brough me home at 3. it was so much fun. we flirted really bad but he didnt make any moves. he always tells me im pretty and i have an amazing body or w/e .. guy stuff i guess c(-p ... but he doesnt do anything? does he just not want me? am i do something wrong ..
okay last thing! i promise =) .. sorry its so long. but today in study hall he was walkin by my locker while i was there. and he's like wanderin the halls jeez what did i tell you about that. and then shawns like no no shes goin to class. and i stopped walkin and started to open my locker and cody's like she's goin to her locker you dumb ass and then they laughed and he kinda just stood there and looked at me for a minute. not a weird look but just intent on lookin at me .. and then hes like ill see you in a bit and walked away. with shawn .. what's that suppose to mean
its like soo confusing .. he says he likes me and he cood see us together .. but he doesn't do anything about it .. hows that work?
(( and new years justin and zach kept callin us love birds and hed look at me and smile .. and not say anything to his friends ))
i think hes juss screwing w/ me .. i dont know .. :-/
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wow your right it is confusing but because he broke up with you from that other girl she might be the problem. It's 100% possible that he really likes you but still have feelings for that other girl. He's probably waiting till hes completely over her so you have all of his love instead of just half of it. He'll come around eventually and all of these smiles and things his friends are telling you theyre all signs that he likes you he really does so he's just waiting for the right time but don't worry keep talking and flirting and having fun with him and sweety you'll have him so hooked on you he'll forget she was ever there. Good luck with it and if you need anymore help just message me.
xo
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