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am i jealous?
ok. so i have this friend who's a boy. we've been friends for about a year now, but if feels as if we've known each other forever. this afternoon, he IMed me and said that he's kind of having girl problems. i was kind of surprised because he's not really the girl-obsessed kind of type. he likes this girl that likes him back. but he can't go out with her because of his parents. i gave him some suggestions, but i don't know if he'll actually consider it. he seemed annoyed. even though i didn't hear his voice, i know him well enough to know when he doesn't feel normal. and i knew this situation is really bugging him. but throughout our conversation, i got really... umm... i don't really know how to explain it... jealous maybe? i guess i kind of was. i know that i don't like him as anything more than a friend. we're just really cool friends. nothing more. atleast for the moment. most of my friends say that me and him has that "chemistry" thing going on. and i guess i can say the same thing, we have a WHOLE LOT of things in common, but i've never thought of our friendship as anything more than that. i'm really happy that he likes a girl and that the girl likes him back and all, but i don't know, i feel something weird. i feel like i want him for myself. that maybe if he gets another girl in his life, me and him might grow apart, and have all his attention to the girl. even though i felt this way, i still told him to go for it - "ask her out if you really like her." i really want him to be happy even if it does give me pain. and as for me, i wanna focus on my own life and let him be. but knowing the person i am, that's not gonna happen. curiousity gets in the way all the time. and i don't want that. so what can i do? i would greatly appreciate any advice/comments.
13/f
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i think your right your probably deep down just worried that youll lose your friend but im sure there will be room for you. the majority of my friends are guys and i feel nothing romantic for them but for some reason whenever a girl and guy talk alot people always want to start saying somethings going on when it isnt .so dont let that sway you know who you like and who you dont. just accept that he likes someone and if you guys are as close as you say youll still remain good friends. the feeling will go away as you get use to him going oout with girls or being friends with other girl. its just a defense mechanism that kicks in over your territory not saying that your possesive but hey that your friend and you are right not to want to let that interfere with his happiness
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oh my gosh hun, i know how you feel. I had a dream about that happening to me and my guy friend. It was so sad. I would say that you should let things take their course although if he dosnt know it; i think that you should tell him that you think you guys might have a chance and then take it from there. It's that simple. let him and her go out and stuff. In my dream he was telling me all about this girl and how wonderful she is and all that jazz. He told me he was engaged to her. and that he LOVES her. ive never heard him say that he loves anyone before. It hit me like a ton of bricks. In my dream i was happy that he was happy but i was sad becausei wish it had been me that he was being happy with
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There are many different things that could be going on.
1. You just don't want another girl to replace you as his most trusted person.
2. You may be soo attached to him, and care so much for him like a brother.
3. You may just like him.
I have sort of been in this predicament and I didn't do the right thing. I ended up getting jealous because I liked him, and he liked another girl...our friendship ended for about half a year..because we got into a big argument.
I regret it, because it was a terrible thing to lose him like a friend. But, now we are really good friends again, and he again likes another girl...and I know not to make the same mistake twice. I try to be there for him, and give him whatever advice he needs.
Hope this helps kiddo,
Teacup
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well it seems to me that you do have a crush on him if you're feeling like this. you can deny it all you want and you can say that you don't think of him as more but i can tell that you do. No one can ever just be friends with a guy eventually they do end up liking each other. As jelous you may be the only way to see if these are true feelings is to find out. See if he feels them too and just pay more attention to him then you have before. The littlest things can tell you if you like him or not.
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