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Self-esteem
Okay, I have like no self-esteem! I always feel ugly, stupid and like I am doing everything wrong. I can never do or say the right thing. Part if this, I know, is because when I was younger I was made fun of because of my larger than normal size (not that I have improved in the looks deparment since then, I am still very large). Since that I still feel horrible. Everyone always finds something wrong with me or what I do! I really try to hide all of these insecurities but sometimes they just slip out. Everyone is always cracking fat jokes and stupid jokes even my friends, peers, and teachers!What should I do? I am only 13!
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OMG this is horrible, you have some really insensitive people in your life. I know that you probably can't help the way you look or act, and you probably wish you looked like all the skinny "pretty celebreties" because that's all they show you. But trust me when I say that you are beautiful no matter what, and society has taught us to think skinny is pretty, and that's not always the case. I know this might now be much help, but you need to learn to like yourself for who you are. You were born this way, and you should accept yourself and your "flaws". Remember only you should determine what you don't like about yourself, and if others have a problem, then maybe you should get yourself better friends.
Again I know this may not help, and you're probably wondering why I'm even writing this, but I used to be teased when I was younger about my weight. I haven't gotten any skinnier, I'm still overweight, and I don't have a problem with the way I look. I do however, have a problem with people who have a problem with my weight. If I'm happy, then it shouldn't matter. You don't see me judging them and making fun of them for the way they dress, or cut their hair, or mess up their lifes. If they're happy, then who cares? If you're fine with yourself, then who cares what other people think? I know this is long (you probably stopped reading), but it really angers me when people are this close minded about things. Yet, they wonder why so many girls have eating disorders, and they don't realize that it's their fault these girls are sick. Ok, I'm done, lol. Sorry I went off, just be yourself, and forget what they think ok?
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only you can change the way you look, physically and mentally. i want to tell you that you should be happy with the way you are, inside and out because your are beautiful..no matter what all of those shallow people say. (those people end up no where in life by the way..you should feel sorry for them because they are the way they are) you were born here to be and look exactly the way you do..not to look like some skinny bimbo in your art class, not to have jessica simpsons hair..to be you. and i wish i could tell you that thats enough. but in todays world im afraid it just isnt. you need to learn to rise above it all and if you can do that, then ultimately youll be happy and youll love yourself, and people will love you for that. if your having such a big problem with your weight, excersise. talk to your parents about how your feeling or just simply metion losing wight, and im sure they will help you as much as they can. i would suggest jogging, but youd need a partner for your age..so just talk to your parents. i hope you can realize how wonderful you are. good luck with school :)
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Let me just start out by saying this, I know exactly how you feel! When I was younger people in my classes always made fun of me, and that made me who I am today. An insecure shell of a girl. I never feel like I look nice, when a guy tells me I look nice, pretty, or even beautiful I don't take it to heart as what they are really saying, in my mind I am hearing I feel bad for you so I want to make you feel better. I was teased all throughout grade school and still to this day am being made fun of. It is no fun so I know. All of my friends would always go and sit on each others laps and when I would come over by them they would all get up, so I couldn't join. Right now I am not nearly as large as I used to be but I am no prettier either. So I know exactly how you feel! What I suggest doing is ask your mom or someone you love to take you out and buy some nice things, some new clothes. Get a whole new wardrobe and stand tall! That is just what I did and I am feeling 100% better about myself. The last 3 years of my life I have worn a hoodie everywhere, until this Christmas. I went out and bought myself 150$ worth of nice new clothes. So just try things to make yourself feel like you are looking better then other people will see that you aren't really self concious about yourself! They will tell you "Hey that looks really cute whered you get it," or "You look really nice today" Don't count on my advice 100% because it is just advice but I honestly am giving this my all in trying to help and I hope it works!
Nikki
P.S. if you ever need to talk heres my AIM SN: aRozeAlwayzDiez
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Why be like the other people you mentioned and point out the bad things about yourself? Make a list of all of the good things about you. Yes, you can actually find many if you sit down and think about it. So they make fun of you...does that make you a bad person? Absolutely not. Try not to listen to them or let what they say get to you - they probably do it because they know you are listening to them and that you let what they say upset you. If you pay no attention to the jokes people make, people will gradually stop. Hope that helps and feel better.
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aww sweety don't worry about what anyone says! Of course they're always going to find something wrong with what you do its what a lot of people do for stupid and pointless reasons. You need to boostup your self esteem but just relaxing and having fun! Maybe go get your nails done, go shopping, read, i dont know just something that will make you relazed and feeling fresh and brand new! Maybe you should try something new and cute with your hair or make-up, something a lot of people would like and compliment you on. But you always have to feel confident! You can't let anyone bring you down iwht words, i know they can hurt but if someone ends up cracking jokes just smile and say "thank you" but don't say something about them back because thats just sinking to their level and i'm sure your way above that.
Best of luck to you,
♥alisha
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