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I am a bisexual female. A little over a year ago, I came out to my best friend and she came out to me that she was bisexual also, and we started a relationship. We are still best friends, and none of our other friends know about us but two people. My ex boyfriend and her boyfriend. Sometimes I feel like I'm left to the side because of her boyfriend, but she doesn't know what to do either to make both of us happy? I'm very lost and confused. I love this girl and would spend every moment with her if I could, but somehow I just feel like I'm left out because he ALWAYS goes out with us when we go out, but I'm never with them when they go out, and most of the time it's him inviting himself... what should I do?

well tell that girl that , first of all, if she really wants a relationship with you, she has to break up with her boyfriend. it not fair to either of you. that's the exact same thing as cheating. its not right. she has to decide who she wants to be with. ii hope this helps you but uu deserve to have aa real relationship with this girl you love.

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i had one boyfriend about 3 yrs ago.

he was my dream guy! he was athletic.. funny.. smart... and we were PERFECT. or so i thought! 'my prince in shining armor turned out to be a loser in aluminum foil' and matt dumped me to go out with his ex! ive had other boyfriends since but ive never trusted any of them because im still not over this one guy! it drives me CRAZY! ive dumped 3 guys because of him... because you cant have a boyfriend if you cant trust them. matt tried to get back together with me... but i was afraid of him making me experience the pain again.. and i dumped him. he was REALLY mad because he said he had changed and all of that bull. how could i have believed him? i went out with 6 girls b4 he asked to get back together with me! but still. i want to like other guys, but i cant get over what matt did to me! it was my first boyfriend, and i really loved that guy. he ruined it. for a while he ruined me. for a while i was emo (no cutting.. just black stuff). and when i finally got over it i couldnt love any other guys for long. help me! i dont want to break any more hearts, hearts that are undeserved to be broken. sorry this was so long!

seriously he wasnt even worth it. aa guy that dumps uu for another girl is undeserving of a girl like you. dont worry about relationships right away and take time to get over him first. ii know its hard to forget ur first love. but in time you'll realize that it wasnt true love and he wasnt worth your love.
no one expects you to trust them fully in the beginning of a relationship. so date some guys longer than you have and hopefully that trust will grow.

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well there is this guy, and i really like him but he has a girlfriend. and he flirts with me and stuff and i do it back. i think about him all the time and my friend says that im obsessed with him. i mean i dont think im obsessed i know i like him alot. i dont constantly talk about him but i think about him alot. but i do talk about him alot when im with her because shes the only one who really understands how i feel my other friends dont really care about this kind of stuff. so am i obsessive over this guy because i really like him..and i know i cant do anything about it until he breaks up with his girlfriend to really like tell him how i feel, but i think he knows already. please help -- i rate high.thx - -

well michelle, i dont think its fair to this guy and his girlfriend that you are flirting with him and he is flirting with you. if he really likes you, tell him to break up with his girlfriend because it isnt fair to her that he is liking you while he is with her. and you have to be patient. if he really likes his g/f then it will be a while until they break up. stop flirting with him and tell him he is only allowed ONE girl. he cant use you as a backup or flirt with you and lead you on like that. sorry for the long answer and i hope this help.

sincerely, linh

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well the thing is my best friend likes this guy but she wont admit it and he like one of us we r not shur which one of us he likes better but w.e and i kind of like him to but i dunno what to do what shood i do??

your "best friend" should be the most important person to you besides ur family, of course. has your friend always been there for you? i think its wrong to get with ur bff's crush especially if you're not sure if you like him or not. if you really cared for her, let her be happy.

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ok right james asked me out he was the first boy i was attracted to in college until along came tony. Now Tony won't talk to me because i rejected him 3 times when he asked me out and he thinks i told the whole skl and he thinks i am proud to have rejected him.Now i think he hates me he won't talk to me. Right i kinda held hands with Tony but we never kissed or anything and i was thinking James is the one who is not childish hes also really clever. Will Tony ever talk to me again what can i do to make friends with him again? and will he still fancy me becoz hes telling my friends how hes over me! but is he really over me? what can i do because everyone is calling Tony a pushover because of what i did. Now some of my friends say ignore him don't phone him.. my other friends say phone him say sorry i just don't know.

tony should listen to you and listen to ur side. if he really wanted you, he should wait for you to be ready instead of trying to run the guilt trip on you.go to him when YOU'RE ready.

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Ok I kind of like this guy and he likes me ALOT. But his friend is his bestfriend they are like brothers ! But wow does he have a way of making me attracted to him. What should I do because I don't want this other guy to hate me. He is super cool and I would LOVE to stay friends with him, but what if he gets mad and neeeeeeeveerrr talks to me again? Please Help !

ok from what i understand, u dont want to hurt your friend that is ur crushes best friend? if thats the case, you need to talk it out with your friend. friendship lasts longer than a boyfriend and if you are serious about staying friends with that guy, you should talk to him, let him know whats goin on. he'll understand.

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How can i fix my webpage at myspace>?

you can go to Pimpwebpage.com that might help. hope it does.

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I move here about 11 months ago,and i made friends. Everything was good until the ending of the year. My friends became friends with this girl,and she seemed to make them not pay attension to me,not that she didnt like me,she just would push me away. And i got all sad about that.Well i gave up being there friends,i dont know why.I've been longing to move back to my city and my mom said she would.I keep avioding my so called "frineds" here any only playing with the ones from my old city. I find it easyer to have fun. But there's this grudge and i dont know why i have it,im starting to get really depressed and longing to move back everday. How can i fix this?!!? (no matter what i am moving back though...my mom is decideing and if she cant find a house im going to live with me dad when he moves to my city)

i'm sorry that girl took your friends. it happens all tha time. try making new and different friends. or if not, all you need is one good friend and that would help a whole lot. dont think about wanting to move back. keep your head on the positives of this place first because you want to make ur current location as comfortable as possible. i hope everything works out ok

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years..we have been recently getting in arguments about stupid stuff really..but he said hes starting to think that i dont care about him.. i really do care about him alot..How do i prove to him that i havent lost my love for him?

well, stop arguing. you say you argue about stupid stuff so obviously you are aware that the fights are not worth it. talk to him. be more understanding and dont fight so often. take him out sometime for ice cream or sumthin and explain to him that you still do care for him

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My best friends in the world, Kayla & Bridget are always good to me. But lately, Bridget hasen't been. She hangs out with a lot of other girls who are mean, and doesn't act like her old self. I have no idea what's going on, and Kayla is away to New York for the WHOLE summer and i miss much [i live in virginia]

I rate high!!!!

as time goes on, people change. i'm sorry about bridget. some of my closest friends recently blew me off also. maybe she needs a change in her life. talk to her and ask her what's going on. if she keeps blowing you off for other girls who are mean, let her make her own mistakes. sooner or later she'll realize what a great friend you were and come back to you. but for now, back off a little. there are a lot of people to hang out with and talk to. if you want you can email me at: azns4evr@yahoo.com my name is linh. and if you need anything i'll be here.

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So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help

trust me honey, big boobs are not an easy thing. i hate mine too. and it seems that he is only kissing you and cuddling with you to go all the way with you. my advice is to back off. i mean if you two aren't dating, you really shouldn't be doin all that stuff anyway because you know it's not real. if it was he wouldv'e asked you out already. and i don't think he truly likes you at all. because if he did he would be proud of you and show you off to his friends instead of refusing to hang out with you with friends around. just don't get caught up with him. i'm a sucker for sweetness too, but you have to learn to know if its real or not. and this guy doesn't seem real at all. i hope this helps you.
-Linh

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i met this guy dj we went out for about 7months..we broke up 3times..i didnt do anything serious with him (but thats besides the point)when we went out i was really happy when i was with him..but the second time we broke up he went out with this girl Moriah...me and dj stoped talking when they went out because she would get mad and i didnt want to mess up there relationship..cause i guess im a nice person like that lol..but when they broke up we started to talk again..me and dj ended up hooking back up...but i always had this feeling that he still wanted to be with Moriah...dj and i went out for about a month...and in that month of time i met this guy brian..and i started to like him..i cheated on dj with him..i told dj about it and we broke up..and i hooked up with biran...dj hoked back up with moriah..so me and dj didnt really talk...me and brian been together for almost 9months now..and just a few days ago dj and i started talking again..and i think i like dj again i mean all my feeling for him are coming back to me..i still like brian..i think i have mixed feelings...what do i do??...
sorry if this is hard to understand..i tried to explain it the best i can..
---im a 15 female--

hehe. hun you're only 15. you have your whole life time to be with boys. right now, i think you should take some time out and be with yourself. but if not, your gonna have to choose which boy you like more. which boy treats you better? you say you've been with dj 3 different times? well who's to say you two won't break up 10 more times? i hope i helped but you need to make your own decision

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Im an eighteen year old female who hasn't had even close to a boyfriend since I was fifteen. I'm not bad looking, so that's not the case.. But I really just don't know why I'm not meeting anyone, or at least when I do meet someone I'm interested in, they are usually not really interested in me. I'm just really lonely I guess. Whenever I get close to a guy, it just ends up that we become really good friends, and I turn into his shrink on girl problems..hah pretty sad.. I'm not looking for tips on picking up guys lol that's not it. I'm just looking for feedback from guys/girls in the same situations or have been in the same situation, and their thoughts. Thanks =]

i've in that same situation right now actually. there is this one guy i really like but he just sees me as a friend. he talks to me about all his problems and everything. but the thing is, one of the problems he tells me about is this one girl he likes who tells him everything, just like he tells me everything. he was scared to say anything cuz they were too close to ruin anything. but he told her. apparently she felt the same, and they love the fact that they are able to talk to each other about anything in the world. so maybe your guyz like you, but you gotta go for it cuz you don't wanna spend the rest of your life wonderin what coulda been.

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me and my ex bf nate went out for almost a year and i just decided to break up with him all of a sudden. sometimes i think it was the biggest mistake of my life and sometimes i think it was the best. he says that he's 100% over me and i tell him im over him to but i dont know if i can be over him. he was the first guy i ever fell in love with. he was completely devestated when we broke up, abut he's over me now and i dont know what to do. i still love him, im just so confused. what do i do?

if your sure your not over him, tell him. you tell him your over him, but it's a lie right? well he could be lying to you. if you two really felt deeply about each other, he's probably not 100% over you. its best to let him know you still love him. you can't get rid of your first love. he's gonna stay with you for a long while before your truly over him.

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whatsup dawg, my name is jeremy well anyways, well i was on the internet reading my friend linh's xanga and it said she was starting an advice column thingamagig, and i was like, ok ill check it out, so then i did and i read some of the questions and answers, and thought this thing was cool and good for the community and what not. so then i find myself just sitting there thinking of what to ask and then i think of something so maybe you can help me with this question.
Wutsup linh, how have you been?

well jeremy i just finished having a conversation with this so called "linh" and it seems to me that she's doing fine. LoL. and she would very much like to thank you for asking and visiting her advice column. I LOVE YOU!

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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.

boys are goofy. you say he stares at you? well has he always done that? cuz if not there is a good chance that he does like you. does he talk to you more often? because if you don't know what kind of person he is, how do you like him? and how can he like you? get to know him and if you think you know each other well enough, he'll drop some hints like ask you to go play video games at gameworks. trying to slide you in his schedule and act like your another of his guy friends to hide his true feelings for you. trust me. if a guy tries to flirt, its obvious. hope everything goes well.

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LONG STORY
well i've liked this guy for a very long time and we've gone out and recently hes been flirting with me alot, well today a friend of mine was having a bonfire and me and my friend we'll call her "person x" were the only girls there. Well my ex has been known to flirt so he was casually doing it with both of us. then him and i break off from the rest of pack and we both get the wild idea to go swimming in the river. so we both strip ( not totally )and the whole time im scared hes holding me really close to him and he even carried me back to the house because someone lost my shoes. anyways at the end of the night he takes "person x" away and i already knew what was happeing and you guessed it he asked her out and she said yes after knowing how much i like him. Its not just that but in the morning she'd been telling me about how the love of her life "was being a dick" but she couldnt help but still like him and then when i asked her if she really liked my guy she said yea and i asked her more than the other guy and she said "as of right now yea, cuz hes being an ass". I dont know what to do! she's known for being fickle about the guys she likes. she like a guy alot and then after they go out for a couple weeks decide she really dosent. Also at the party she kept saying how much of a retard my guy was and she always makes fun of him, like what he wears and what music he listens too and they hav almost nothing in commen they're so different. I'm just so lost on what to do! HELP!

well hun. it seems like "person x" likes alot of attention from the guys. she likes to flirt. about your guy, she probably liked him before but didn't wanna seem like a bitchy friend so she made fun of him so you won't get an idea like she liked him. but she's probably just going after him so she could have a "backup" when her guy acts like an ass.

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alright well i like my best friend, not a lot, just a little. Anyway, he likes this girl that goes to a catholic school and shes a total bitch. she acts like shes perfect and she has it all good, you know? well anyway, so my best friend likes her and my other friend told her, well we got into a fight ((me and my bestfriend)) cuz he blamed it on me but it wasnt my fault. anyway thats fine so now in her profile the whole things dedicated to her boyfriend and she did that right after my friend told her about my best friend liking her, and when he reads that hes gonna be really hurt.. i dont want him to get hurt, but it seems like w/e i do i cant help.. any ideas?

talk to him. tell him whats really going on. he shouldn't get mad at you if he was really your friend. but i understand that he likes this girl. so just let him see the site. he will get hurt but you gotta let him make his own mistakes. then he'll FINALLY know that you'll never lie to him. hope all goes well.

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i need some websites that have music to put on your website page thingy. i would really want music from hawthorne heights but any will do thanx ^O^

you could try sumfun4u.com you could also try pimpmywebpage.com but it depends on what kind of site your using. hope this helps.

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I really STILL like this guy I went out with in the past. He's now going out with another girl but I still REALLY like him (its been about 9 months) and I can't get over him. Everytime I think of him I cry. What should I do?

definately tell him. he wants to know and you will feel a whole lot better. maybe the crying will stop knowing that he knows how you feel about him. hey, he could still like you too but he's just going out with another girl to try to get his mind off of you. you should really tell him. hope everything works out for you.

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