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hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!
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hey,i see what you mean.u should really talk to mike in person.its great that you care about this guy. but you should really find out if he cares about you. find out if he really likes this girl melissa. and invite him over so you guys can talk. if he misses you he will be glad to see you.but talk this over and work it out. like i said find out if he really likes this girl.b/c if he does its very unfair to leave you hanging.hope this helps.good luck. bratzgyrl
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wow... ok, long & confusing story...
alls I can say is that your just going to have to wait & see, I don't know if he'll end up with Melissa or if he'll end up with you, I'm very sorry about this, but its 1 of those things where you have to wait & see
alls you can really do now is talk to him, just be as close to him as you can be, & get him to come over as soon as possibul & you 2 can talk this out, thats all that you can do
I'm very sorry & I hope things work out
-Cameron
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Woooow. You wrote so much with no paragraphs or anything! When I first saw it, I got totally scared off, lol. But yes, I did read all of it. Next time if you ever wanna send me something, feel free! Just remember to use paragraphs so it'll be easier on my eyes ;)
I hate to tell you this, but it sounds to me he's just playing with you. It was a good thing you got over him, but I think it was a mistake in giving in to him again.
He's put you through a lot of hurt. Well, at least that's what I conclude from what you told me.
That Xanga thing was a huuuuge sign. He obviously didn't want this Melissa girl to see you writing about your "love" for him. Even if that isn't true, what kind of guy doesn't want his friends to know about the girl he loves? Very fishy if you ask me. From the information you gave me, I think Melissa and your ex have "something" between them even if your ex won't admit it. Your ex is shifting between you and Melissa. That's awful of him because he deserves only one girl's love and only one girl deserves his love.
He's giving Meslissa so much attention and he's giving you squat. Doesn't sound like he loves you the way you thought he did.
I know it's going to be really hard to finally get over this guy, but you must do it if you want to be happy again. Your ex will only bring you more heartache. Think back to WHY you guys broke up in the first place. You broke up for a reason and don't you forget it or you'll end up making the same mistake again. I know at the moment this guy seems like the world, but trust me, there are TONS of BETTER guys out there! When you eventually look back at this situation you'll wonder how you could get so hurt over a stupid guy. There are plenty of other fish in the sea! Who would want to date fish..? :P But you know what I mean. The only way you'll ever get over your ex is by realizing he is not that one for you and by looking at new guys.
Please enjoy July 4th. Whether it's with a new guy or with your girlfriends! Good luck!
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Dang, this is a long question but I read it! Whew! LOL. Anyways, this guy seems like a player to me. If he still loves you, he would want to spend time with YOU, right? Not her! He probably has feelings for you but... he probably still has feelings for her too! I know it seems crazy but that's a typical guy. They think they can get away from us by cheating and playing us but you know what? We ALWAYS catch him. He's probably lieing to you. See, what I don't understand is... why would he get all pissed off at you for writing an "I love you." message on his xanga website but when she writes "I can't wait till tomorrow night, bah blah blah." I don't get that. He's definitly not worth it. When guys like a girl and she likes him back, his cover-up to you will always be "Oh, don't worry. We're just friends and I love you." That's obviously a sign of cheating or FUTURE cheating because you know that if you guys went back out, he would still hang around with Melissa. I mean, they went to a dance together and tomorrow, they're watching fireworks. I mean, if he love you, truly and sincerely, he would be wanting to do that with you, right? I'm sorry that you have to go through this but I'm ALWAYS here for you if you want to talk or anything! If you want, you can even email me at a private address at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K? Remember you can talk to me at any time of the day and I'm always here. LOL. Well,
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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Don't bother with him anymore. If he has the nerve to not speak to you for 6 months then he's not worth your time. It's really wrong of him to leave you and then after 6 months expect you to be waiting for him. There are much better guys out there that won't play with your heart like that. Not that I have anything against him, but from what you've told me, I think you can do better then him. So my suggestion is to move on and I'm not sure if you still have feelings or not for him, from what you've told me, but you will find someone better. Best of luck, and hope I've helped.
~IceAngel13
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oh gee.. that was long! but i read it all! i really dunno what to say.. maybe they are close friends? i dunno.. my best guy friend.. we are together all the time.. and there is NOTHiNG between us.. well we used to be together all the time.. anyway.. maybe he does miss you and love you.. maybe he didnt talk to you so he could try to get over you quicker.. and now that yall are talkin again he realized he still loves you and misses you.. ok i no this is not the advice you were looking for but i really dont no what to say! good luck with everything tho!
~*Sarah*~
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OMG! I can soo relate to your whole story! Guys are wicked wierd.. theyre so unreadable and its annoying! When you like them, try not to tell them because then if they dont like you they'll go tell all their friends and you'll be totally embarassedd! So if you like him, keep it to yourself and dont talk about him to your friends alot! Anyway, This girl Melissa seems like she likes him, but he doesnt like her, but hes considering liking her! I think his options are 1. you 2. Melissa. so hes probably deciding! But YOU gotta win over her! So MAKE him come over next week so you guys can talk in person and have fun and stuff! Believe me, after that day, he'll like you over melissa! Boys dont know what you want, you have to help them decide ;> lol! So have him come over next week and try to make the day really special! Like if you have a pool, go swimming! And play some sport like basketball or badmitten or wiffleball or tennis or something! And try to be competitive, but let him win because guys like to have control so they feel like you need protecting and they'll be the ones to protect you instead of yourself! And then after that, call him and talk and stuff! try to be as interesting as you possib;y cann!
--emily
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That was extremely long and made my eyes hurt. :P Well, my boyfriend has a girl who he is real close with. He has inside jokes between them in his info, and while I was away somewhere for a couple of weeks, they went to a theme park with a group and they hung out the whole time together, but I know that nothing goes on between them. So Melissa might like him and might try time and time again to make him like her. EX: that quote. But the thing is, this guy doesn't like her the same way. If he's telling you that he likes you and misses you and not telling this other girl that, then just be trusting and respectful. He says that he hates when your like that, so don't be like that. I've had to train myself to not care that my boyfriend has a inside joke with another girl in his info. yes, it gets irritating, but you have to just deal because in the end, the guy likes you and not the other girl.
-therocket♥
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hey! ok well it sounds like he really dose still like you but it also sounds like hes playing games with you, he knows you like him so he wants to keep you hanging and he knows he can always come back to you! i guess you could say youre safe (but this can be a good thing) he feels comftorable with you and all i can basiclly say is give it time! the other girl is all too needy and trust me your ex knows youre a better catch! about the whole fireworks thing i dont really know what to say..maybe hes just testing his boundraies with you and wanting to see how youll react to him being with other girls..maybe you can ask to go over too?? if not then just ask him what happened the next day! tell him you cant wait forever and you want to be together (but again he might need time) i hope everything works out!! and thanks for asking me &hearts please rate
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