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Q: ok well its kristin the girl witht he guy problem.. hehe well to start off friday night chris (my ex) sat with me the ENTIRE football game.. then after i went to the dorazios and BRONSON kissed me on the cheek it was so cute.. hehe but oman last night was the greatest night ever.. bronson and me went to the drive ins and we held hands then we made out.. and i left to go hang out with some other people for awhile and everyone was staying the night at jimmys so i went there and jimmy let bronson and me sleep on his bed.. so bronson and me cuddled and made out all night.. oman it was the greatest he kept kissing my forehead and called me baby and w0w i just cant stop thinkin about it.. well i just had to let you know.. thanx again for the advice..

awww hunna! im so happy to hear that... well good luck with everything... and if u need anymore advice... i'll be happy to help ya out!

Q: omg bronson kissed me tonite!!! it was so cute. after the football game i went to the dorazio's house becauze everyone was there.. and when i was leaving he kissed my cheek... it was SOOOoo cute... and tomorrow night were staying at the dorazios together so we can cuddle alll night.. hehe...but i feel so bad... beacuse tonite chris and me sat together at the football game and he was holding my hand and kept putting his arm around me.. and i dont know ughh!!! why do they ahve to be like this.... but i liek cant stop smiling cuz bronson finally kissed me.. ahhhhhhh lol

-kristin

aww well im happy to hear that bronson kissed you. it sounds like you really like him, because you cant stop smiling.
about chris... im not sure what to tell you... if you felt comfortable with him holding your hand... then maybe theres something there... but if you felt... awkward, maybe you shouldnt... progress that friendship.
in all honesty... i think you should go with bronson... he sounds adorable, and he already knows you... the real you... but with whatever you choose i hope ur happy.
~ Kristen

Q: alright.. well i have a major problem here.. theres this guy chris ( my ex from a year ago.. hes 20 im 16) well weve gone through some bad times but i always end up forgiving him and going back to him.. hes such a sweet heart and weve been hanging out alot lately and he text me the other night and asked if i thought we could ever try being together again.. but im not sure if i want to ...

then theres nick hes 15 (which age doesnt bother me) we met in summer skool and well he likes me and hes very funny and sweet and he is very good at making me smile.. we always are hugging and flirting in class and everyone tells me he likes me and i like him too!!..and i just feel liek theres something there.

then theres bronson.. hes 17 .. weve been friends for 3 years..and the past couple of weeks weve been talking alot.. texting cute lil messages.. and we were at mikes saturday night and we were cuddling on the couch and we both fell asleep and then we woke up and he was just sayin the cutest things.. then he imed me last night and was liek i didnt want to leave mikes and ur the greatest person to cuddle with and the cutest things ever.. and hes seriously the greatest guy ever..

so my problem is.. what do i do i mean id feel so bad if i chose someone.. so should i wait and see if one of them makes the move first to go to the next level or what!!!and i feel something with all 3 guys..

ahh help please

kristin

wow... this is weird... i had the same situation you are having right now a couple weeks ago.. and my name is kristen... hmm.
well.. what i did... was figure out who i liked more... my ex... or the new guys. i figured... my ex... i know... and i've been through all that numerous times... and that i guess depends... are you looking for something new? cus if you are... forget about ur ex.
now, about this summer school guy issue... im not sure about the whole situation... but if he seems like a cool guy... i mean... get to know him better.
but if i were you, i'd defintaly go for your friend... he knows you, you know him... so its not like you guys will have "any big secrects". friends make a good couple. plus, you guys are only a year apart... and if hes a good friend, he should already know ur friends and parents... so you wont have to go through that either.
hope i helped :) xoxo

Q: Ok so Im a freshman and theres a new kid whos a sophmore, Macon, And he rides my bus and is in two of my classes on the other side of the room in one. Everyone thinks hes annoying becasue he asks a lot of stupid questions (beiing sarcastic) in class but i think its kinda funny. Hes kinda short but really cute. And idk if he even notices me besides when i get on the bus.. but i thought i saw him looking at me in spainish. I dont think i can ever EVER work up the nerve to talk to him. Im trying to look interested like today in class he said something and everyone laughed and i was laughing and i looked at him and smiled.. i think he saw. Hes also in my lunch on day 1 (theres 6 diff days) But .. I dunno everyone thinks hes stupid and i dont and i like him a lot but i dont think ill ever be able to talk to him unless he says something first ! AHHH ! WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO !?

im not trying to be rude... but... if you do "like" or think this guy is cute and want to talk to him... you have to work up the nerve... because who knows maybe he thinks ur pretty too... but he doesnt know if you like him... try talking to him... ask him what class he has next... or heres a better one... walk up to him ( yes you have to get the courage sometime ) and ask if hes new... obivously he'll say yes, and be like, well hey im so and so... and ask if hes met anyone yet. its not that hard... its not like your walking up to him and asking him out or if he has a gf... cmon.
you know, if you dont get the courage sooner or later... i doubt things will ever happen. sorry if thats a rude answer :(

Q: My boyfriend wants to have sex. I think I love him, but I just don't feel ready yet. How can I tell him and not lose him?

if you arent ready to have sex with him, just ask him if he minds to wait a little longer. its that simple. if you cant do that, then your not ready to be in the relationship either, because you cant talk to him. he'll wait if he really loves/likes you. if not, then move on... there will be better guys out there!

Q: thanks! i agree completely but my parents dont they told me that u cant fall in love in a week or a month and all that but i mean the way that i feel right now i something i havent felt before and honestly i think i am in love! i hope that i am right!

aw yeah... i dont think you can base falling in love with a time spand... you fall in love with the person you want... when u want... dont worry about ur rents... if they dont understand... then dont make them... and good luck on everything...haha i luv you!

Q: is it ever too soon to fall in love??

personally, i dont think so... i mean you feel what you feel.... and you know what that is... you cant help who you love... its natural... dont worry.

Q: he already knows and we talked about it last night and he told me that we are gonna take things slow because he knows my past and our history so he told me if he is doin something i dont want him to i am suppose to say something! wow no one has ever said anything like that to me! i feel like i might be fallin in love kris! his friends we asking him last night if i am the one he is gonna marry and he said if she will have me! awww kris i couldve cried! i dont kno right now if i can even begin to think about that but i can see myself with him forever! i vvv u tooo!

awww babe! im so happy for you! im glad you guys found eachother... and who knows... maybe he is your "soul mate". if there is even such thing... im beginning to think that there isnt... but if there is... i think i no who is mine. i love him to death. well if you need anything just call... AFTER 1:30. lol. i vvv you soooooo effin much.

Q: okay i started dating this guy a little while ago and i mean things are perfect he treats me good and he makes me feel soo happy! i am a virgin and i have been wating for one of my boyfriends to make me feel the way he does and i dont find my virginity special to me i am almost 17 years old and i have never had sex! should i tell him that i am a virgin or should i let things be the way that they are!

let me start off by saying... im glad you came to me for this advice.. and not someone else! well.. you say your virginity isnt special to you? it must be, because you wouldnt have waited this long... if this is the guy you want to lose it to, then go ahead.. i cant tell you what to do... but just make sure hes the one you really want to lose it too... that way you wont have any regrets... dont just come out and mention that u are a virgin.. that might scare him away... do you know if he is a virgin? dont worry... you have nothing to be afraid of... a lot of girls your age are still virgins... and just because everyone else is doing it.. doesnt mean you have to... stand up for yourself... and if your bf doesnt understand that... then forget him... stand out... dont follow the crowd. and dont have sex, "just because you wanna". personally you really have to love the guy... otherwise its nothing special, and it takes the fun away... because it makes you feel dirty. hope i helped.. i vvv you!!!
~ Kris ~

Q: well this guy and i have been dating a while and we started off great but now i am beginning to wonder if we are gonna end up going anywhere! i mean yea i really care about him and he says he is in love with me but i dotn think i feel the same way that i used to! should i hang in there or should i end it before someone gets hurt even worse???

okay... well since you've been dating for a couple months, and hes already saying that he loves you, dont fully trust it just yet. it could very possibly be that he is in love with you, but you must trust him. and you say about his past, well hun... not trying to sound mean... but are u just running away, because of your past... or do you really not feel the same...? just take some time away.. while your on vacation and think about this for a little, or do it now... think if this is what you really want... no one can tell you what to do... because you're goin to do what you want... no one can stop that. so think about if this is what you really want, im not saying, that if you do want this, your goin to marry him... its just now... you know? i think your overracting a little... but then again im not there... he sounds like he really likes you... dont just give in because you're afraid that you two arent going anywhere... babe... it takes two. after you get home from the beach... just take time, just for you two... JUST FOR YOU TWO. no one else around... go to the park, talk, go to dinner... something that gets you both away from everyone. i think that would be for the best... good luck hun, and call me when u get back from the beach.... I LOVE YOU

Q: okay my boyfriend was raped when he was younger and my parents think that i should have him tested b4 we do anything sexual! do u agree???

thats a hard question to answer... it is ultimatly up to you, but if you are going to do something sexual, i think you both should get tested before hand. you always want to be safe... and its better off knowing if one of you has a disease.

Q: Okay... So im 16 and theres this guy, he'll be 18 in September @ work that i sort of lie but i'm mad at him now. And this girl she's 16 i work with is hooking me up with anouther guy who is also 16, but i really dont know him. Should i go for it or not? I mean i use to really liek this other guy that i work with and i just think it would be strange. What do you think?

im sort of confused... i got the part where you are 16, and he'll be 18... but whats the part about lying and work? sooo if you like the guy that'll be 18, whats the problem there? i cannot tell you what to do, but i would meet this other guy, and see what he is like... and take things from there. if i missed something, or if there are any other questions, you know who to ask.

Q: well its not that he gets too touchy it is just constant! it makes me uncomfortable because his mom is around and his little sister! i dunno maybe i am over exaggerating but i have been hurt alot in the past and i can see that i am pushing myself away from him if u understand that at all! i mean i feel like he is pushing me a little and to be honest i dont want this relationship to be sexual! i want things to stay the way they are because more times than not sex ruins relationships and i dont want that to happen! i am scared that things are gonna turn out like they have before and i cant see myself being able to handle that again! thanks for being a great listener

yeahh i do understand that, like i said if this is something you dont want, you need to clue him in on a couple of things... did you talk to him about any of this yet? besides just saying stop...? most guys dont realize that they are being a little pushy, so let him know. and i know this may be tough to hear, but from my past expirence, i had to learn that not all guys are the same. it sounds like both of you need to sit down and talk about things. like i said before... maybe he thinks thats what a "normal" couple does... and just let him know that you're not into that kind of stuff. i hope i helped... any other questions, you know who to ask.

Q: well, we are fourteen, in about 3 months we will both be 15, and the main reason i mentioned the kiss wasnt cause i really want it that bad, its just saying that we havnt really done ANYTHING. The reason she is always around us is because of our age, both of our parents want us to be with friends when we go on our "dates" so, thats another part of the problem...thanks for your help

well from hearing all that b4, you both seemed older... being fourteen definatly changes things. now this girl... ally? if you want her "off your back" and your gfs... try hooking her up with one of your friends, that way she will be too interested in her relationship, and she wont be soo hooked on your gf. im guessing this will be your first kiss right? if it is, believe me, take time. since your both 14, your gf might be a little nervous still. let her know there is nothing to be afraid of, and that you wont hurt her.

Q: Okay i am a 17 year old and i am dating this guy and i have been dating for a month and it is starting to really bug me because he always has to be touching me and when i tell him to stop he gets pissed at me! i am afraid that if it doesnt stop i am gonna break up with him and i really dont want to but he needs to understand what i am sayin how do i make him realise that it really bugs me and that things between us need to be taken slower??

i dont this to come out the wrong way... but are you dating a guy who is known to "get around"? or do you have a rep of "getting around"? at the age of 17, most ppl think that they need to be all over eachother to show the other person that they care. now there is a difference btwn gettin too touchy, and just simply touching. if he is getting to touchy, just tell him to stop, and well since you already do that, and he gets mad, try explaining why you dont want him to be all... over you. speaking of this, why is it such a problem? i no where you are coming from, it gets pretty annoying when your bf is all over you 24/7. im just trying to figure out more info... is there something else behind all this? have you been hurt in the past a lot? or are you having second thoughts?? when my bf was all over me, i always thought he wanted sex, but i sat down with him and explained why i didnt like him to be all over me, and that was because i was hurt in the past, and he thought that was what "normal" couples did our age... but i asked if we could take things slow, because of the past... so keep me updated, and if there is anything else behind this, or anything else you need help with, you no where to find it.

Q: my girlfriend latly has been ignoring me, and she has a real short fuse with me. Whenever i try to do somthing that shows i love her, she takes everything the wrong way and is like "why are you doing that" or somthing. we thought it was PMS a while back but she's been like this a while now. then i cant ever really show any affection for her, because (well i think anyway) that she feels crowded with this girl, who might i add is completly obsessed with her...the girls name is Ally, and all is CONSTANTLY hugging on, or holding onto my girlfriend and i think thats part of the reason she is acting the way she is. i cant pull her away for a long enough time to give her our first kiss and we've been together for 4 months. she doesnt ever really want to cuddle durring any movies at my house, because if ally happens to be there then ally is on her, and she doesnt want to leave/be rude to ally...sometimes she will blow me off for no apperent reason at all or with some excuse. is there anything i can do to make my girlfriend pay a LIL more attention to me, or is it pretty much hopeless?

nothin is ever hopeless. im confused about this "other girl"... shes a friend of your girlfriends? well im not sure why she is always around you two, may i ask how old you both are? being a girl, i know the difference betwn showing somebody affection, and trying to get something. it also sounds like you are trying a little to hard to get your "first kiss" with her. just take the time to get to know her, maybe shes not the kinda girl who likes to be all over someone. and her and her friend need some space, so that way you two can have some time "alone". why dont u suggest going out on a date- JUST THE TWO OF YOU, and talk about everything. maybe she doesnt realize she is "pushing" you away. or did you ever stop to think that it could be something else that is bothering her? dont just think it could be PMS. keep me updated

Q: He knows and got all upset and completely closed up. I did take care of my problem and got over my self. but i got so upet over this i lost it. i didnt do nething really tacks arent sharp or break the skin just hurts. i dont want to agian. should i apologize for saying "like hell u do" when he said "i love you" when he was signing off???
Thanks!

i use to do the same things you did/do. so i understand, it is very hard to control your feelings sometimes. and when you said that, im sure you really hurt his feelings, even if he didnt show them like us girls do. i cant tell you that u "should" apologize for the things you said, because im not sure if you meant it. if you dont think he really loves you, then no dont say sorry for the things you mean. if you do think/know he loves you, then say sorry... it sounds like you two are close, and im glad he knows about the "issue".
its not good that you closed up when you told him, and it honestly doesnt matter what you use to hurt yourself, even if it is tacks, which arent "sharp" and "dont break the skin" it is still meaning to hurt yourself. i hope things get better... if you need any help... you no where to find it

Q: I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.

this is a new thing when you are 13, expecially if you never had a bf... dont worry, maybe he'll be your first. from the stuff you said, im not sure if he does like you, but if he keeps dropping clues like that, who knows, maybe he does!! everyone has different ways to tell someone you like them. if he does keep "staring" at you, its a good chance he likes you. if i were you i'd ask him myself, but when i look back on it, when iwas 13, i was terrifed to ask any boy if they liked me. soo after sayin that, just get one of your friends to ask him, or ask his one friend whats up. keep me updated, sorry if this didnt really help out- but it sounds like he might just like you. ~kris

Q: My bf and I just had a big fight. I'm a pretty emotional person, and i warn him a lot about that. Well he started pushing my buttons said i was lazy (after all i've done today was work and clean) and that i didnt try hard enough in school cause i didnt get straight A's cause of French and a 11th grade math class (only a freshman folks) and it upset me to the point where i picked up a razor set it down. took tumbtacks n stabbed my wrist with them. i stopped cutting awhile ago. i was gona break up with him cause i dont wanna start cutting agian. but he really usualy makes me happy. then he had to go n i was a bitch n said like hell u do. and im upset that i got so mad at him. did i have ne reason to?
Also, i told him to go away leave me alone n shit put up aways but he kept pestering me. saying i was cute when i was mad. or it was funny or sumtin.
why so emotional??? or is he being a dick?

well, im not so happy to hear that you hurt yourself. you have a problem, and before you deal with the relationship, you ought to deal with the cutting problem. hurting yourself is never the answer, it makes things worse. did you tell your bf what you did? im sure he'd be pretty upset. i know relationships are hard, and guys never seem to understand that we need our space. you need to sit down and have this conversation with your bf.. it will help. dont shut him out, because it might be easier for you, its harder for him... he deserves to know what is going on. does he know about your prior cuttings? if he does sit down, and tell him about everything... and tell him that he went out with you knowing all this, and didnt seem to have a problem with it. im not sure why you did that to yourself, but i do hope things get better. you have people that are there for you, and if you EVER need to talk heres my sn on AIM- XXcrzinlveXX. or email me- almari17@yahoo.com. keep me updated... i hope for the best. ~kris

Q: I always seem to ask my self this question..

Why is it that im only visible when people need something to do?

Its seems to always be true that people are really nice and stuff to me only when they actually need something to do..why is this?
thanks a bunch! ill rate you for a good answer!

thats a tough question to answer... sometimes people can just be rude like that. i wonder about the same things sometimes... but i make my own plans and invite them, that way i wont be left out. just start showing them that you want to be included in things... keep me updated!!

bio

hey, im Kristen... this is my advice column so dont be afraid to ask me ANY question that might be on your mind. im a very understanding person, and i am easy to talk to. i enjoy playing volleyball, street hockey, and i "play" football with the boys... i have my share of problems too, im not perfect, far from it. i just dont have a lot of people to talk to, and i thought it would be nice if i could at least help some people out.