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WHY?
I always seem to ask my self this question..
Why is it that im only visible when people need something to do?
Its seems to always be true that people are really nice and stuff to me only when they actually need something to do..why is this?
thanks a bunch! ill rate you for a good answer!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
If these people are your friends, then they are most likely just usuing you for your brains or money or something, but if these people are just acquaintinces(sp?) then that just proves that these people trust your desicions and know that you can get stuff done effectively.
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I have the exact same problem. Around exams, everyone wanted to be my partner for finding answers for the study guide. I had no choice but to work with them b/c they blocked me into my desk. So after we finished they went back to ignoring me. I didnt care b/c they have been doing this for my whole life. If you arent as shy as me ou mite want to take action: like telling them how you feel, refusing to work with them, or even just ignoring them totally. I hope I helped. Look at it this way, you have all summer to practice your method.
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well mabye you are shy and these kids dont notice you and if thats the reason hey welcome to my world you just have to be more out there and let them no u exsist. also they just might not like you and well no effense just ask you for stuff because they no that you are nice and will do anything withought asking questions. i have done that to some people. just once in a while tell them no you wont do it and they can do whatever they asked you to do by themselves. be friendly to them and dont be afraid to show them yourslef. good luck ~JORDAN~
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hi there
i so know what you are going through. i believe when you o something some poeple will think you have done nothing at all
they are some poeople who are just like that , there nothing wrong with you , you can't change poeple
some poeple like using poeple to get what they want and when they have got it its adios to you
most of us just come in contact with people like that.
my cousin says that poeple will only take from you what you allow them but i disagree because some poeple are nice by nature and they poeple who need something take advantage of that individual's good nature
my advise to you is to know who your friend are , from your statement you seem to be there for this individual but who are going to be there for you ?
whatever you decide good luck and God Bless
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i dont know... it happens to me too -- and these people are just douche bags that like using people which isn't cool-- and just want you to do a whole bunch of stuff for them. so try to turn the other cheek & be around friends & people that like you for who you are -- people that DON'T use you. the ones that do use you are not real friends. its okay to do stuff to help friends out just be sure you aren't being used. :)
good luck!
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Its called "being used".
They're nice because they dont like you, but when it comes around to them needing something, you're like freaking Jesus.
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People are just really rude. If you're not like everyone else, or you have something that others don't have, they just use you when they need something. When this happens, don't do what they want. Just find a real friend.
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they only do it because they know that you will give in and help people the next time someone ask for help tell them that you are too busy and sooner or later then will stop using you..
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well that is an interesting question. if i interpret what you are saying correctly, you are saying that you are someone that they can fall back on when other people are not around. it sounds like u are dependable, flexible with your time,easy-go-lucky, and are fun. otherwise they probably wouldnt call you to do things, other people or not. what are they doing when they dont call you? but your concern is valid. i would ask myself if these people are true friends or just "people that i know." true friends seem to include you in things. i would ask these people about this. ask them how come they do this. it would be great to see their reaction to your questions. communication and understanding is key. also, for some pick-u-up, there is someone that likes you and wants you around. trust it that and yourself.
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thats a tough question to answer... sometimes people can just be rude like that. i wonder about the same things sometimes... but i make my own plans and invite them, that way i wont be left out. just start showing them that you want to be included in things... keep me updated!!
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oh thats awful! i guess they dont think of you as that good of a friend i guess or it couldbe that they forget you in plans...it happens especially if your shy or just not very loud. theyre using you..thats the verdict. alrighty, i hope this helps! oh, 1 more thing, if they dont call you, then run your own plans and invite people that are really your friends! <3
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