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what do I do?
My boyfriend wants to have sex. I think I love him, but I just don't feel ready yet. How can I tell him and not lose him?
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tell him you not sure you want sex explain how you feel and dont be scare about losing him if he love you he should respect how you feel
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Just tell him how you feel...and if for some reason he lets you go then he isn't worth your time. That will show weather he really loves you or not. If he really loves you he'll wait.
::Sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear::
-Natalie-
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well you can say this: (his name) i love you very much but im really not redy 2 have sex yet, but i really hope you understand and if you dont then thats ok.
hope ive ben helpfull!!!
~animalover658
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if he really truly loves you, sex won't mean that much to him... If he does break up with you, then he's not good enough for you. Dont do anything that you will regret!
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say you have your period.. it works
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tell him the truth. you aren't ready.
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tell him you love him but im not ready yet and if he loves you hell respect your wishes
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Well just tell him your not ready. If he loves you like you love him he'll under stand and wait till your ready!! I'm sure he'll wait and if he cant wait then theres someone eles out there way better for you. Just sit him down and explain to him how you feel about it and everything thats all.
Love
Ashley
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Tell him that you love him and all but your not ready yet in a nice yet shy voice.
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Tell him that you would want to but you're just not ready to be intimate with him,to understand you if he really cares about you,to give you time to think about this,and to not even think you don't like him.Is your boyfriend in love with you?If he does not,only likes you then he just likes sex which is not good.Some people who had sex without loving that person they did it with they regret it so don't make the same mistake and if you do remember to protect yourself.I wonder if your guy is experienced on sex because if he is he'll want you to be expierienced on sex as well but a few guys don't care.But for sure if he is virgen then he'll love to know if you are a virgen too.Also tell him that it is very important to respect your decision,and that your parents are into politics so wouldn't he want you to understand him if he were in your shoes?Then you'll have him thinking strongly of what you said and taking it in mind.
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be like yo g... les save it till marriage... then you can go and get married then do it
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well tell him in a direct way tell him you are not ready yet and if he leaves you he doebt care about you he just wanted the sex and tell him that when you are ready then you can do it just dont do something you dont want to
hope i helped
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talk to him about it, ask him to respect your decision. tell him you will, when your ready.
♥
`baby
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tell him just wat yoo told me! dont bee afraid. if he doesnt understand that then hes not worth fighting for. i mean if he really loved yoo back then he wood not make yoo have sex with him good luck i hope i helped :)
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tell him that you dont think you're ready just yet tell him that you think it'd be more enjoyable if you were both ready. tell him that you love him but you're just not ready to have sex
hope i helped
Ashley<3
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First off....What kind of Boyfriend would leave you for saying you dont want to get your groove on? That right there would make me wonder about the strenght of the relationship, and wonder what is the point of it....
Second. You SHOULD NOT have sex when you "think" you love someone. I mean....come on! Ill use murder as an example to this. (seeing as murder is the answer for everything.... JUST KIDDING. DONT MURDER ANYONE, ANYBODY!)
You can murder someone for "thinking" they cheated on you, but then later you come to find out they never did. You cant ever take that back, and you will regret it for the rest of your shortened life.
Its like that. You "think" you love him...you play the dirty, you regret it, and you can never take it back. save yourself woman! Save yourself!!!!
However...since I often give speeches before a real answer, it is time for the real answer! yay! *jumps for joy then grabs a soda*
The best way to tell someone something is straight up....g....
Simply say "Look bra. I am not ready for this, and I want to wait for this to go down. I want to make sure this is what I want...what WE want. I dont want to get it on, when we are in the heat of things. I want it to be special and filled with candles, and almond joys."
If he is any kind of freaking awesome boyfriend he will understand and never pressure you into it. If he is a jackass, like most boys are, then he wont respect it, and youll have to send him on the road of singleness.
I hope I helped!
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Talk to him about it. He should understand it's YOUR body. If he really loves you he won't dump you because you're not ready or pressure you into it . Hope I helped. :)
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Just tell him plainly and simply that you don't feel ready. If he dumps you, becomes distant or gets angry because of this, he wasn't worth your time in the first place. IMO, two people need to have more than just love before they are truly ready to have sex. You need to have an emotional understanding that is unconditional. If you are worried that he might feel differently about you if you refuse to sleep with him, you probably don't have that bond quite yet. Give it time, and don't give into him if you don't want to no matter what he says (eg "If you love me you will).
Good luck!
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If he's worth being in a relationship with, he should understand that you arent ready. If he is a caring boyfriend and loves you enough to have sex with you, then he should love you enough to understand that you arent ready. If he cant understand, then forget him. =)
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Sex is a sacred thing. it should be kept between a husband and wife. That's my personal oppinion. Does this boy truely love you? or is it just mere puppy love middle school crush kinda thing? You have to learn to be able to answer this question for your self. but there is ONE, QUICK, and EASY way to find out. Just tell him the truth. Say "(his name), i think i'm in love with you, but i'm just not ready to make a big commintment like this to you right now. I'm just not comfortable with sex now. And if you truley love me, then you'd understand." And if he does love you, he'll wait. I believe sex should be saved for marriage, but if you feel otherwise, just make sure that you're protected (by using birth control) and he's also protected (by using a condom) Best of luck to ya!
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well first of tell him your not ready to ahve sex with him... he needs to respect the fact your not ready if he doesnt then he doesnt respect you or even care as much for you. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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tell him..hunni im jst not ready yet....but maybe a little while longer i will be...i wanna do it with you but i wnat oit to be perfect! that shud work hope i helped x0x ♥
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Tell him how you feel...if your not ready your not ready...and if he cant understand that...then he is only in it for sex...and thats kinda obvious...since he cant wait til your ready...
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do not do a thing with your boyfriend unless you feel 100% comfortable. if he cant wait until you feel ready and comfortable then he is deffinetly the wrong kid 4 you. make sure that you dont let him put pressure on you and that you stay true to yourself, virginity is a prescious thing and you dont want 2 loose it to just anyone. you have to consider the consequnces before you act, for example sti's and pregnancy...
take a long hard think before you act on this one!! if he really loves you, you should be able to say sorry im not ready and he should respect that. good luck xo
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Well, you THINK you love him. If you don't even really love him and he doesn't love you (unless he does) then he shouldn't be thinking about having sex with you. ANYWAY- Just say [insert boyfriend's name here] I really like you alot, and I care about you deeply but I just don't think I'm ready to take our relationship to that level yet. I hope this doesn't change your feelings towards me. And if he gets pissed off about it, then you know he's only in the relationship for the ass and you REALLY shouldn't date a guy that's only in the relationship for the ass. It's not good.
I wish you the best of luck
=)
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if you arent ready to have sex with him, just ask him if he minds to wait a little longer. its that simple. if you cant do that, then your not ready to be in the relationship either, because you cant talk to him. he'll wait if he really loves/likes you. if not, then move on... there will be better guys out there!
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Just tell him you aren't ready. If he truely loves you he would accept that. If he breaks up with you then he is def. not worth it babe. It's better to do it when you are truely in love and when you are ready. Don't make a mistake. But just tell him how you feel about it. I think he will understand though! Good luck babe!
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Hey. if you dont want to have sex..tell him. just be liek i love you and all, but im not ready to have sex just yet. if he loves you he wouldnt take it the wrong way and break up with you. hope i helped =) Drop by my inbox and tell me how everything went! good luck. xo♥
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