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Q: My boyfriend makes comments about actresses and other females and it bugs me and I was wondering what do I do?

oOh mine does it ALL the time and it makes me mad .. i just say it about other hot guys. sometimes he gets the point and stops.. but other times he liek flips so yeuh lol. so what i do is just do it to him too... this prolly didnt help but yeuh ♥Alese

Q: Anyone know any good Rate-me-sites?

www.yourfacesucks.com

Q: i wanna earn some money.. problem is, im only 13 is there ANYTHING i can do to get some money?

well im 13 and i get 300 or more a month for babysitting my 2 lil brothers ( but i get paid from the government because she signed up for it because shes liek a single mom or w.e) anyways... i get that.. and i use to walk my neighbors dog for liek 20 bucks a week (3 times a week) uhmmm... im not sure .. thats how i get moneyy =) hope i helped even tho i prolly dont.

Q: yeahh its the person who just left that question lol .. and that seems like wicked good advise. i haven't had time to talk to him today and he wasn't online or anything .. so i might try calling him tomorrow or see if he's online. thanks a lot babe

Thnxzz ma!!! hah i try my best :) hehe. well good luck when you talk to him!! if you eva need anything uk whut to do ;D hahaa ♥

Q: you seem to get a lot of buisness haha .. yeah well anyways

theres this kid that i went out with a lot last year. we were really close .. so it was like best friends plus more. then on a week trip away from school .. he started to like this other girl .. who was sort of my friend but we weren't wicked tight. so he broke up with me (he told my other friend he was going to anyways .. and she told me .. so i saw it coming and confronted him about it .. yeah i'm all over it haha). then after that we sort of stopped talking a little .. and i guess i tried to move on by getting a new boyfriend. then he completely stopped talking to me. then school was over .. we didn't talk at all .. a few kids who did talk to him told me he like hated me and stuff (i had broken up with my other boyfriend by this point). i was just like .. whatever .. you know he hates me he hates me i'm not gunna get all worked up about it and beg him or whatever. it really did hurt though. then school came around .. he started talking to me alot more .. and we're pretty much acting like nothing happened over the summer and during school. and lately .. he's been telling me that he "loves me" and all that. then my friend calls me today and tells me that him and this girl jess (she's the girl he started to like when we were going out) were going out. i can't say i wasn't dissapointed .. but its not something to get all worked up about. i mean yeah i like him like him but i can't controll him or anything. but i don't know .. cause he was telling me he loved me and being all flirty and stuff .. so i don't know if it was just like an act or he really likes me and just wants a girlfriend or likes jess and me or doesn't like me anymore (which would be weird .. because last night he told me he loved me again). should i ask him about it and make him feel bad like oh i thought you liked me blah blah blah .. or just let it go .. be like yeah i heard your going out with her and just end it there. so i'm split between letting their relationship go on or tell him that i thought he liked me and possibly make him break up with her. i mean not that i want them to break up because its none of my buisness what they do and i'm not that type of person .. but blah i need help. what do you think i should do?

dayum shortay that musta taken liek forever to type hah. but anyways .. if you really like him, and you want take that chance of him breaking up with her to go out with you , then go for it. but there is always a posibility that even if he DOES break up with that other chick he still might not go out with you. What I would personally do is not make him feel bad .. but just shake him back to reality.. iwould be liek "Uhmm so im confused at what you are trying to do ;; you say you love me then go out with that chick... and last night you said you love me .. i dont want to get my heart broken so decide what you want to do".....or SOMETHiNG along those lines haha. well i hope i helped .. drop by the inbox to tell me how everything goes.

Q: k so .. this kid andy is such a jerk. he claims he's my best friend .. then he goes around and humiliates me. he got this picture of me .. and its a really bad embarassing picture .. its like wicked close to my face and my eyes are like shut and its so ugly. so andy got this picture from my friends myspace .. cause he put it on there as a joke. andy printed that picture out and brought it to school today. i found out from one of my friends first thing in the morning that he had that picture .. so i found him and asked him to give me the picture. he didn't .. and thought it was a joke cause he was laughin and stuff. then i asked him literally 10 times in a row not to show anybody and he thought that was a joke too. he would like hold the picture in my face throughout the day and get me so pissed (pardon my french) off. then i was walking and i saw him walking a few feet away from me laughing and sayin to all his buddies "hey wanna see a funny picture of steph?" and i ran over to him and i told him not to about 25 times. i wasn't smiling or anything. he thought it was all a joke. then in like the middle of the day a group of people walked by me pointing and laughing saying "haha nice picture" and i almost cried. then to find out he showed my whole grade PLUS his friends in other grades made me even more mad. so like a half hour a go i confronted him about it and told him how much it hurt my feelings and how pissed (again) i was and all that. i was being a bitch. he goes sorry .. and puts up an away message (cause i told him online).

do you think that was the totally wrong way to handle it .. or do you think i have the right to be as mad as i am?

thanks.

pshttt you handled it AWESOME! i would have been liek FUCK YOU BiTCH and knocked him the FUCK out!!! ahha but yeuh i think you handled it pretty good.

Q: Ok well i like this girl. im kinda friends with her. I got in a fight she was on my side.lol.of course i won.But she is in my grade and i dunno wuts right.To go out with her or not. The other problem is that i made up with the kid i beat up. I dunno if she liked that. If she didnt what do i do? If she doesnt care how do i get her to go out with me??????please i need to know!!!!!!!!
singed, Me

give her clues that you like her, cause you'll never kno, she might like you too! but uhm do liek nice things to her, flirt, that kinda stuff. but who cares if she cares that you made up with the kid you got in a fight with. but if you are worried about it just be like, look i dont wanna be on sum1's bad side ;; the kid is actually cool. but uhm yeuhh. idunno really whut else to say. hope i helped. mucho amor!! ♥

Q: i don't know where to start. beginnings always good .. right?

so theres this kid tom (i'm giving names so i don't have to be like "the first kid .. " or whatever) and i guess i like him alot. at the beginning of the year we were wicked good friends .. and then it started to seem like he liked me so we were together like all the time. then idk .. he started to pretty much avoid me .. and talk to his ex girlfriend, sam, alot .. which is my friend. (i never told anyone i liked him .. by the way) then today i found out that they were going back out! back out as in .. they went out before .. obvoisly. so i can understand then like going out and all and yeah i'm mad but she didn't know and nobody else did .. so i can't really say that she's a backstabber or anything. i just don't know what to do .. i mean in school when i see them i feel like crying and i did today .. i don't know if i should just try to get over him or like him without anyone knowing or ask sam if she would be mad that i liked him or what. i mean i don't want to say anything to sam without her being all "why would you do that you know we're going out" or whatever. so i really don't know what to do. please help?

okay well this is happened to me liek a million times b4. idunno just kinda deal with it and get over it ;; whut helped me feel a hundred times better was getting a diff. boyfriend ;; mayuun that helped so much. but idunno. you will forget it after awhile trust me ;; it takes time tho. so just hang in there!!!!

Q: i kno this is prolly gonna sound realli wierd...but i realli dont kno what to get my boyfriend for sweetest day! ...i mean i kno he likes cincinnati bengals..and baby blue and red and orange..and 3 musketters...but hes doing sumtin amazing for me..and i realli dont kno what to even get him..i had an idea...but idt that he wood realli like it...do u have any sugjestions?

*un-known*

heyy hunn. uhmm well sryy i dont kno whut sweetest day is so i dont really kno whut to do. sRy

Q: hey wen u r typing how do u get that heart?????not

& hearts; but take the space out inbetween the & and hearts; KEEP THE ; iN THERE. otherwise it wont work. ♥muchos amor!

Q: tomrorrow is our block party and i really want to raise money for the hurricanes... any good ideas that I can put together quickly??? thanks..

just have liek a bucket with a sign that says "Donations For Hurricane Relief" or sumthing liek that. you should get some money. lol idunno im not good at those kinda things

Q: ok its me.
remember when i asked about my warts
well my bf found my warts once when
we were holding hands. he goes is that
a wart? i jerked my hands away and laughed
saying "nooo its a blister from inter-tubing
silly!" and didnt give him my hand back the rest of the night. now im afraid i have to admit to him their warts. what do i do? its soooo embarassing! omgggg..btw we had our first kiss the other day! thats the good news

heyy ma. well if you keep on lying about it hes adventually gunna find out. N0BODY iS PERFECT!! he will understand. im POSiTiVE he has flaws too. if he asks again just be liek yeuhh, but thats okay ... because i kno you love me =) or sumthing silly liek that after. haha

awuuhh!!!! congrats. on the first kiss w| him =)

Q: I have no clue what to be for halloween. I can't go out and buy a costume, but i MAY be able to go and buy some acsessories. I have A LOT of makeup to work with. Please help me.

me and my friends are gunna be liek -- not slutty or anything -- just liek girly football players ;; we are gunna have liek short shorts and maybe a belly shirt\jersey if its not too cold and but liek the black lines under our eyes. we thought it was a really cute idea =) and if you wanna be liek a specific team do that and with your makeup have like your eye shadow and stuff be the color of the football team! hope i helpeddd!!

Q: Ok...It ended up that Dvontae was lying bout what jake was saying and everything and jake didnt even know i exsisted so i'm of course upset at dvontae but like I liekd jake SO much and I can't let go...What can I do? bout this cause i cant forget or get over jake

x3 Kate

just dont talk to either of them for a lil while. maybe find a new guy to get your mind off him. you will adventually get over him. trust me.

Q: Ok so I like this guy (Jake) like ALOT lately hes all I think lol about but he goes to a diffrent school and the only reason how I talk to him is between my friend dvontae and i'm tired of it and I give him my number and sn and stuff but like he never IMs me and Texts me or anything but dvonatae said he liked me but he said he wanted to get to know me before we go out and like how can I get to know him better when "I" never talk to him?

x3 Kate!

well if he doenst iM you then you iM him.. show him youre intrested. ask him questions and stuff liek that. liek sports, family, friends, ect.. Idunno just make sure you dont liek ignore him or dont iM him or text him because then he will think you dont liek him

Q: ok my birthday is coming up soon well not really but i like to know things before ok my birthday is in the spring and i was wondering what are some fun things to do like what games and where can i have it at like my house or like bowling rink or skating place. i dont know can you give me more ideas and things to do with about 13 people i go to private school and theres about 13 in my class.i rate high

uhmm im not suree. i just went to my friends birthday party the other night and she rented a place and got a DJ and had liek a dance and it was so much funn. but it costed a LOT. uhm some fun things to dooo....hmm.... well its funn to liek go to waterpark things liek there is one near me called Splash Lagoon and that place effing rocks Hardcore XP. and then liek after go to your house and get abunch of movies and stuff liek that and just have them stay at your house. that would be pretty funn. idunno it just really depends on whut there it to do around your town.

hope i helped. ♥

Q: hey beautiful! i know this is like a weird question .. but whatever :]

so at my school .. you can try out for cheerleading for the winter. i do gymnastics .. and not to like brag but i'm pretty good. i have my standing backhand spring and people say its perfect (even my gym coach). well the other day all of 7th grade (thats my grade) got to go outside cause the teachers thought walking from class to class wasn't enough excersize .. i guess. so we went out onto the soccer field .. i met up with my two friends and we just started to do some gymnastics stuff. they both have their roundoff backhand springs so they were doing that .. i just have my standing so i was doing that. then the cheerleading coach saw us .. so she came over to talk to us about trying out. the three of us decided that if one of us tried out .. we all had to try out together. i mean like .. it seems wicked fun and all .. but i'm the like .. hardcore gymnast type who wears like band T-shirts and shops at hot topic .. so i don't want people to be like calling me a poser. also .. all the girls on that team and wicked like preppy .. and i don't want to turn into one of them. i guess i just don't wanna get caught up in all of it and turn into one of them .. you know? i don't want it to go to my head and turn into someone else .. who i really don't want to be. should i do it anyways .. with the thought that i won't change .. and i can be a punk-ish cheerleader?

well i am a cheerleader myself. im DEFF. not preppy. i love cheerleading to death but i never changed for it. you dont have to. ik a LOT of cheerleaders who are anywheres from preppy, stoners, sluts *hahah but its true!* . all of that stuff. if you really liek gymnastics then try out for competiton cheerleading..thats what i do and there is tumbling and that stuff in there. so idunno just try it and see if you liek it. if you dont then you can always quit.

Q: how do you flirt i rate 5s

uhm just liek play around and joke around and stuff. idunno it just liek comes naturally to me i cant really explain it haha. sry i wasnt that much of a help. if you ever need anything else again just drop by the inbox again. ♥

Q: how can i over come my fear of thunder storms? im in 7th grade and i think its babyish to freak out and like scare REALLY loud.

so how can i over come it?

omg i use to tweek every time it was a thunder storm and now im like in LOVEEE with them. im in 8th now and in liek 6th or 7th i hated them. idunno it just came to me i guess. idunno some ppl just dont liek them. sry i wasnt that much of a help haha ♥aleseee

Q: hi i am about 2 years older than most of my friends cuz i got left back and i go to a private school so theres not much people there well none of my friends want to like go anywhere or do anything is that going to change when they get older or some thing and i would find new friends but like private school not much people only about 10 people in a class room how do i have my friends going places without there parents always coming with us and but i dont want to sound like i am to old for them i just want some thing to fall into place like idk get lost or some thing

uhm it will prolly change when they get older....it depends on how old they are right now. just talk to them and be liek well i dont really like going places with our parents because i think we are mature enough to do that kind of stuff. idunno i cant really think of anything to say. srryyy =( ♥

bio

heyy every1. my name is alese and im here to help with nethin i can. A lil bit about meee..
i am a compeition cheerleader for the DeMarco Stars♥I play Volleyball for my School♥I love to shop♥I hate when ppl call me a prep cause i wear Hollister and Abercrombie♥I love these hearts♥I have friends that are prolly better than yours♥I put bologna in my left pocket♥My cellfone is my baby♥thats pretty much it for nowww.♥so Im me on aol if you have any questions♥Love ya!