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my ex boyfriends best friend ...
sorry this is so long but i am really confused and i would love for any advise from anyone!
ok here is goes. me adn my ex boyfriend (josh) we out all last summer and he cheated on me so we broke up and havent talked since. well the other day i was on the phone with his best friend (anton) and josh was over there so me adn josh talked and we are cool now. well i like anton but anton is a huge player. he has cheated on almost every girl he has went out with. he is also not a virgin .. me i havent even tounge kissed a guy before. well anton told me that he is actually ready to get into a serious relationship with a girl. i really wanna be that girl, but im so scared for anyone to know that i likw him. im scared he is gonna cheat on me or hurt me just like josh. me adn anton dont talk alot adn we dont know each other really good. i really like him and i dont know what to do. i even dream about him at night. can anyone please give me some advise on what to do?? thanks if you do!!
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well first you should get to kno him !!! try flirting with him and if he flirts bac dont get to happy because like you said he is a MAJOR PLAYA ! but when yall talk ask him if he is serious about having a serious relationship and tell him you are interested !
with the part about not telling anyone if they are your TRUE friends they wil underdstand and will suport you in most of your decisions ... the only thing is they most likely will be watching him because they dont want you to get hurt! the dreaming part is sort of normal it could just be a lil first time puppy love crush but it keep haoppending then you really need to get to kno him so that your heart and your brain can share the same feeling ! but get t kno him !! that is realy important when you want to or go in to a relationship you need to kno the guy before you get close and relize yall arnt meant for each other!!! hope i helped! and BEST OF LUCK!
*Tacy*
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If you two don't talk or know each other that well, that is the first thing that you need to get over. Talk and get to know him, but DON'T OBBSESS!!!! But if he is a MAJOR player, duh! then forget him and move on!
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Well I always give advice that you are supposed to think about for a while and here is another one of my normal advice...follow your heart and always look hard and up.(in others words flirt w/ the guy until he figures out that your flirting with him and then he'll know you like him w/ out you telling him, and it will take time so dont worry there is always another day)
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Before you go any farther with Anton, take a step back.
Try getting to know him a little better. It seems a big issue with your pending relationship with Anton is trust. You are not sure if you can trust him to be the boyfriend you wish he would be. If you talk to him a little, maybe you can get a better idea of exactly who he is. And go from there.
If you do this, and feel that you would like to continue your relationship with this boy, I think it best that you try not to judge him by his past. People change. And if Anton says that he is ready to settle down and start a real relationship with someone, it just might be true.
At the same time, keep your priorities in order. You mentioned his experience is a worry to you. Don't focus so much one what either of you have or haven't done. Just enjoy it, while at the same time not letting him pressure you into something your uncomfortable with.
Hope i helped :-)
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First of all you need to talk to him more and get to know him better. Whenever you decide to start a relationship with anyone you take a risk of getting hurt. It just kind of goes with the territory. You have to trust people until they give you good reason not to. If you aren't ready for sex you say so right up front. Just because he isn't a virgin doesn't mean (hopefully) that he is sleeping with everyone he meets! So, if you want to have a relationship with this guy, you need to get to know him better, that will help with the trust issue. If after getting to know him better you still don't trust him, go with your instinct. But, you do have to take a chance on getting hurt now and then. :)
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hmm, well its up to you. if your willing to take a risk, then go for it. i personally think if you really like him, to go for it. sometimes you gotta take risks. but also, to be very cautious (however you spell it). well, maybe it isnt a good idea, considering that isnt a virgin & he cheats. maybe you should try going for a trustworthy guy, that you do talk to a lot. but if you really like anton guy, then... just try it. but becareful! <3 hope it helped.
♥ nicole
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i dont think it is worth it.
roxy
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Well hun.. it sounds to me that you shouldn't get in with this guy, if he is that much of a player he is most likely saying that he wants a serious relationship to lure you in and since you don't know him well i would say that you prolly shouldn't do anything with him until you at least know him a little but better, sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but my best friend did the same thing and she got way in over her head and on top of it lost her virginity to a guy she never loved. Please use your head before making any final decision.
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ok, i have something to say. if he is ready to get into a relationship that seirous then go for it. but tell him with a firm voice that if he cheats on you then your out and hes on his own. tell him exactly how you feel. if he likes you youll understand. i hope i helped and if you have anything else you want to ask put it in my inbox.
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one day when you see anton be like ( r you serious that your ready to get into a meaing relationsip cuz like you never do ) if he says no well than i guess you dont date him but if he says yes im serious be like ( well that girl could be me ) well i hope i helped and if you have ne more quistions drop em in my inbox good luck with that!
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ill jus put it to you this way playas r gonna play no matter wat they tell you they will never stop playing people i have been in this situation before and this guy had only played two girls before me then came me and now its my best friend who is getting played so no matter what he tells you he will still more than likely cheat on you or play u hope i helped !
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So obviously going out with Anton would be a HUGE Risk, you agRee??? Then again.. most things in life aRe. You can't let youR feaRs hold you back fRom something that may be tRuly incRedible!! HOWEVER...... if Anton has pRoven himself to be such an infantile and thoughtless guy TIME AND TIME again.. that should be youR HUGE warning sign!! SSUUUUUUUREEEEE.. he'll SAY he's changed.. but that's what all of those guys on MAURY say, isn't he??? They don't chang, sad tRuth.. they don't. PeRsonally... I wouldn't even give Anton my TIME OF DAY!!! i mean, REALLY.. what would be the point in that?? Relationships RequiRe 110% effoRt, time and devotion fRom BOTH paRtneRs!!!!! If one paRtneR fails to hold up his end.. it all cRumbles down. He OBVIOUSLY hasn't been the most tRuthful and Respectful peRson goin'.. and TRUST is the VERY biggest factoR in a Relationship.. without tRust.. you've got nothing... To be peRfectly honest.. I think you need to should just keep on goin', leaving Anton in the DUST! Why would you even WANT to set youRself up foR what is almost GUARANTEED huRt, heaRtache, deception and disappointment!?!? I'm telling you to think of YOURSELF heRe.. and do what you **KNOW** is the best thing foR *YOU*! Don't settle...
WhateveR you decide, I wish you the veRy best of luck!! Hopefully I've been of at least SOME help heRe!! :D
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well i would definatly get to know him better since you said you dont really know him all to well. Then you can make your desicion wether you like him or not. But if your not sure if he'll cheat then i would look for a better man.
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Just try it out and keep ur eyes and ears open for any signs or talk of another girl...i mean you shouldnt let a guy get you down even if he is cheating on you in the end...but it is gonna b hard to deal with if he does...everyone knows that...but he might be telling the truth about a serious relationship...but he wasnt to serious all the otha times... AsH!
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I don't think he's right for you babe, the difference in values and experience (even if he doesn't cheat agian) is too great.
If you do decided to persue a serious relationship with this guy please take it really really extra slow!! This guy has alot of proving to do before you should make a serious emotional commitment to him.
Remember, People can change, just very very very few of them do.
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I, personally, wouldn't go out with the fella. I mean, he's NOT a virgin, which means he could, possibly, try to have sex with you. See, guys like him aren't interested in a relationship. They want sex and nothing else. I would not only fear for my feelings but for my life as well because you have no idea what he could do. For all you know, he could rape you unexpectedly. You don't want that to happen, do you? I mean, he practically has "player" written on his forehead and if you're ready to get serious with a guy, it shouldn't be him. He's not what you want and you'll regret it later if you get hurt!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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