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My friend asked the guy I like what he thought about me.

He didn't really know her, he recognized her as my friend but didn't even know her name. But she was trying to talk to him and he just told her he needed his space and pushed her back saying "back up, we need to be this apart" and telling her not to get close, and she asked what he thought about me he didn't answer and just went with that "your getting to close" crap. So could someone tell me what this means???

Thanks so much!

I think he is just a tad psycho. No offense to your potential love, but he couldn't come up with something better then beating her off of him.

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I am always getting myself in incredibly embarassing situations. Not like "farting in public" or anything like that, more like a really bad rumor has been spread about me. Or I accidentally say something bad in class and I'm worried about what the teacher thinks. Recently, my dad said something really embarassing (something serious) about me to my English teacher, and it makes me cringe with worry. Nowadays, I spend all of my free time thinking that I've "blown it" with someone I know and stressed that I've ruined a connection with someone because of something that I accidentally said or did. I lose sleep over it. I feel terrible. I'm 13/f. What can I do? How can I make amends? Pleaaaase don't give me a smart-ass answer if you're the funny-type columnist. Generally I enjoy those kinds of answers, but this is really serious.

Yea, you really do just have to laugh at yourself.

One time my cousin made me pay for the movie we were going to in quarters. It had been all of our ideas to pay in quarters, but I got stuck with the job! They lady counted out all the money, even though we had them in neat little bags with five dollars each. Lady! I wouldn't go through all that trouble just to cheat out out of a dollar!

And once my mumzie told my theater teacher that I said some kids thought she was mean because she is strict.

That's something I am still trying to laugh off.

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what should i do about lauren

Molest her.

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hey well i have really annoying nails, and normal nails are hard and don't bend, but my nails bend! and they always start peeling and everything, and it's so annoying! and everytime i get a manecure or put on nailpolish, it comes off in like 2 days!! my nails are sooooo annoying! do any of you know any way to help these problems or why this keeps happening?! also, i have hyperhydrosis, which is something when you have really constant sweaty hands that never go away, so do you think this might have anything to do with it?
please help i rate high!

Gelatin helps with nail hardness and growth, so eating a lot of jell-o may help! Also you can get stuff to put on your nails to help strengthen them.

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okay... i have a boyfriend named john. but like the thing is that he lives in cleveland and i am texas. well... the other night to be exact on friday night i made out with my ex and then fucked him. it was my first time so it was only like 5 minutes b/c we had to take a break b/c it hurt so bad but then as soon as my cherry was popped we were done b/c it freaked him out b/c he felt it. i love my ex and i THINK i love john but i'm not sure.i know i love my ex but john i just don't know. what should i do?? i want to still be with john but i also want to be with my ex. i want to talk with john about it b/c it was one of those spur of hte moment things. john has also started talking about getting realyl serious like marriage serious and i am only 14! he is 17. btw... both guys are 17.

Maybe you shouldnt've fucked a guy if you weren't ready.

:)

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porn

All night long.

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well im a fresman in high school and i still haven't gotten mi period! ( i no pretty sad huh?) well anyways im afraid ill get it in school and ill be wearing white pants... what can i do? i don't want any surprsies

You can always feel when it's coming, so you don't have to worry. Just make sure you always have a sweater you can tie around you wait and be prepared or whatever.

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Does anyone know any really good books to read? I like to read all kinds of books. The last book i read was called "the lovely bones" it was an awsome book it was about a girl that got raped and murdered and the girl went to heaven and she was looking down on her family..I want to read books that teenagers would be interrested in!
15/female..if that helps with anything..
Thanks.

I have read every book written by Louise Rennison. They are so hilarious!! It is about a girl in England and her boy troubles and such, very hilarious.

A few others:
Speak
Cut
TTYL
The Earth, my butt and other big, round things.

I can't remember these authors... sorry!

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I RATE 5s!!!

okk well i play volleyball at my summer camp and the thing is, i'm one of the worst players because it's a more "advanced" volleyball class. we're doing overhands and like everyone can get it..like i can do it but i'm not that good. i need some really good volleyball overhand advice on how to get it over the net. sometimes i hit it high enough but it's not far enough. sometimes i hit it far enough but it's not high enough, sooo yeah

and there's this one girl (a few others too every once in a while, but she's the worst!)..well she's pretty good at volleyball but she ALWAYS picks on me! not in the teasing way, in the bossing around way..like if i do one itsy-bitsy little thing wrong, she says "DO THIS, DO THAT!" and it becomes SO ANNOYING! i don't have the best temper so sometimes i stomp away after she's bossed me around like 20 times..how can i get her to stop? i'm sorry i'm not as good as the other people but she also has to realize i'm one of the youngest players there..i don't know what to do please help!!!

Having problems in volleyball is totally cool and it's just a game? Right? This girl sounds like she is a little princess, I bet her parents give her whatever she likes and she is really liked among her peers. Am I right? She may be really annoying, but maybe you should listen to her advice just once, and if she treats you like you are four, call her on it. Tell her it's okay if your not that great at volleyball, and she doesn't have to be a Nazi about every little thing.

Your neighborhood happi maker,
Bunsal0t

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O.K. I have been on my period since the middle of sixth grade and I'm now in eighth grade. I have skipped a lot of periods in the past and I was wondering if that has anything to do with having kids. Will I still be able to have kids and is this serious? Now, my period has been going for a MONTH! Is that normal for a 13 year old girl, even if I started almost three years ago?
Signed,
Kayla

Kayla,

This can be due to exercising more then normal exercise habits. If you are working out a lot you may skip your period for a year or more. For the bit about having your period for an entire month, you may want to check with a doctor. I have a very close friend who had this same problem, but she had only had her period for a few months. I am sure it will not affect your ability to have children, and will probably even out as you get older.

You neighborhood happi maker,
Bunsal0t

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how do i get as skinny as you?haha...i think you know who this is now!

Don't eat anything ever. And have really big boobs so it looks like you're skinny, but it's really just your boobs throwing everything out of proportion.

Your neighborhood happi maker,
Bunsal0t

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I always feel as though when I talk to people I bore them or like burden them.. I feel as though everyone wishes I wouldnt be here or something.. I mean nobody really cares about me! Sometimes I feel really like i dont even speak the same language or something.. My life isnt going anywhere! I feel as though i am always doing things wrong and whats the point of even trying.. All the hope and wishes (i dont believe in anymore). there isnt any point.. I might be depressed I dont know but.. I cant seem to get this feeling to leave me.. How can I feel better? Is there any solution or anything?

I know exactly what you're going through. Just a few months ago I had a bad case of depression and every day it hurt just to get up. I looked around me and I saw that I was not only cutting myself off from other people by being depressed, but the few friends I had were just digging me deeper into a hole! My environment was always dark, my bedroom never had light and I was always listening to really terribly depressing music.

Maybe it would help you if you would find a club of some sort where people enjoy the same things as you, take art classes perhaps, find your forte! You might just have friends that aren't interested in the same things you are. Listen to something uplifting maybe, old jazz or big band music. Maybe you would like the artist 'Andrew Bird'. He has very uplifting, happy music to bring you out of your depressed state. If worse comes to worse, there are always anti-depressants and medication you can take, but these can be harmful.

Your neighborhood happi maker,
Bunsal0t

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