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making up
I am always getting myself in incredibly embarassing situations. Not like "farting in public" or anything like that, more like a really bad rumor has been spread about me. Or I accidentally say something bad in class and I'm worried about what the teacher thinks. Recently, my dad said something really embarassing (something serious) about me to my English teacher, and it makes me cringe with worry. Nowadays, I spend all of my free time thinking that I've "blown it" with someone I know and stressed that I've ruined a connection with someone because of something that I accidentally said or did. I lose sleep over it. I feel terrible. I'm 13/f. What can I do? How can I make amends? Pleaaaase don't give me a smart-ass answer if you're the funny-type columnist. Generally I enjoy those kinds of answers, but this is really serious.
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Believe me I had this from when I was 11 to about 14. I couldn't sleep either and spent the whole night going over everything I'd done and said that day, trying to work out how to be better and get people to like me and completely beat myself up if I thought I'd done anything that might colour someone's opinion of me.
It sucks but you will get to a point where you'll realise other people aren't all that great either, and you'll learn to pick out the people who's opinions are worth a damn (this will be far fewer than you think) and let everyone else think and say what they want. Might sound unlikely to you know but once you meet decent people who accept you for who you are and once you start giving yourself a break, things will get a lot easier and more relaxed.
Oh, and another piece of advice you may not believe: older people, ESPECIALLY teachers have heard, seen (and done) just about every misdeed a 13 year old girl can commit- your teacher will not be shocked or appalled by whatever it is she's been told unless she's led a very sheltered life.
Take care of yourself
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Telling us your "secret" would have helped us answer.
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I feel that way sometimes too, but I've learned that if I just try to forget about it and don't worry, things will turn out ok. Because the chances are: you didn't mess up that badly and whatever you said or did will beforgotten wihin a day or two. Just don't worry about it.
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Plain and simple. Stop giving a crap what people think. All you must please is yourself. and seeing as how you're only 13, you have yet to experience the GREAAAAT joys of high school.I can assure you, the whole worrying about blowing things increases tenfold in high school. Chances are, everyone else is too worried about their reputation to actually think twice about yours. no one cares about anyone but themselves, and if they do care at all, it's usually about the negatives. Just the facts of life.
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Yea, you really do just have to laugh at yourself.
One time my cousin made me pay for the movie we were going to in quarters. It had been all of our ideas to pay in quarters, but I got stuck with the job! They lady counted out all the money, even though we had them in neat little bags with five dollars each. Lady! I wouldn't go through all that trouble just to cheat out out of a dollar!
And once my mumzie told my theater teacher that I said some kids thought she was mean because she is strict.
That's something I am still trying to laugh off.
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Oh, sweetie! This happens to EVERYONE! Trust me. What you have to do is learn to laugh at yourself! I realized this when I heard the following quote.
If you can laugh at yourself, you're going to be fine.
If you can allow others to laugh with you, you're going to be GREAT.~~Anonymous (acutally, I just forgot who wrote it *sheepish grin*)
Just try to remember that everybody gets embarassed and that you have to overcome it and move on.
I can tell you a couple of my embarassing moments, it might make you feel better.
1) I'm with my friend at the movies. The guy at the ticket counter asks if my friend wants one or two. I'm thinking that there's two of us so I automatically say "TWO!" really loudly. May not seem like a big deal but man did I get stares.
2) My dad wants to buy a coat for my mom for Christmas. We're at the leather store, and he's making me try it on...now I am not the FATTEST person in the world but I am plump, and he's going "Zip it up!" and I'm like "I can't." and he kept asking the girl to get bigger sizes. This was not in a dressing room--I was right there in the open!
Here's one of my mom's, as well. My dad was working out of state and would call us every day. One morning I answered the phone and said "HI DADDY!" and, lucky for me, it was him. I didn't even think that it could be someone else. My mom found this very amusing, so the next morning when she answered the phone she said "Hi Daddy." It was my teacher. How humiliating is THAT?!
I have a thousand times a thousand more. So you see, everybody has embarassing things happen to them.
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