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sister sucks
my older sister is 15 and i am 13, and i can't stand her! like she just bugs the hell out of me. she tries to be like her "own person", she is obsessed with animals, mostly horses, and reading. but i am the exact opposite, i hate reading and i like partying, boys, music, and tennis. she is trying to act like me though. i mean she likes country music, and i like rap hip hop and r& b. now she is starting to like maroon 5 and stuff that i like it is pissing me off and its just cause she is trying to be cool because she knows she is really annoying. and my mom is making me spend the day with her at the pool tomorrow, which i really don't want to do because there are only 2 days until i go to camp and i would rather spend my time with my friends! how do i get out of it?!?! please help me!
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well i am probably answering to late but i know i have a sister i'm 14 and my sister is 16 and i listen to yellow card and rock adn emo and pop and that stuff and now my sister is listen to it. it is annoying i must say. but just like when she says something to you just don't think about it thats what i do and it works. but if you need anymore help let me know.!!
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Well it sounds to me, like you guys are a normal family haha. Me and my sister fight ALL the time. She wants to be like you, right? So take that as a compliment! That means she likes you. You sound like you don't like her very much. Just be nice to her, explain that she can do some stuff you like, but to stay with some stuff she likes too! You might just WANT to go to the pool with her. Because she's family, you won't see her for a while, and family will always be there for you. Sorry if this advice kinda sucked!
Tasha<33
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Well.. maybe you should just like do it for once. what is one day gonna hurt? good luck =) &hearts
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i know how you feel....
i have both younger and older siblings.....
maybe she isnt trying to be like you maybe she is trying to have more in common with you so she can feel that you guys are getting closer.........
so just give her a chance and if that doesnt work just try talking to her and tell her that you love spending time with her but you need your space
sorry if i wasnt much help
~KASHIA
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Danielle says ; I think even though you have your differences you are still sisters.. you cant try to change her opinions or what shes trying to be. If you really want to spend time with your friends before camp tell your mom and make sure you promise to spend the day with her when you get back. If your mom wont let you get out of it then just tell your friends to meet you at the pool!
Samantha says ; Tell your sister that you think she is annoying then maybe she will tell your mom that she doesnt want to have to spend the day with you and then you're all set. But if that doesnt work then tell your mom that you really dont like hanging around with your sister because you two are so different.. i mean c'mon you have to put up with her at home too..
Hope this helps!
=) samantha + danielle
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You have a problem with her because she "tries to be like her 'own person?'" What exactly is wrong with this? Would you rather she be your clone? Besides, "finding your identity" is part of adolescene. Some teenagers do this by being defiantly individualistic, and some, like you, do it by defining themselves as part of a group. Just because she's not like you doesn't mean there's something wrong with her. My siblings and I have totally different personalities, different interests, and ran with different "crowds" in high school, but we still like to hang out.
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When I was 15 and my brother was 13 I used to hate him, I used to think he was lame and I would never like him and he would never stop annoying me.
Wait until you're a little bit older. Especially with girls, when they get older instead of being just sisters they often find that they are like best friends, because they have shared memories and experiences that they can never have with anyone else. It is difficult to see it right now but just try to get along with her and ride through the next few years, I promise you that in a few years time you'll be laughing at how much you two used to fight and be amazed how close you become. The reason your mom makes you spend time with her is because parents hate to see their kids fight and try to make them get along. So why not just try to encourage some family time for all of you, and be nice to your sister even though it might annoy you to do so, because not only will you feel nicer if you treat your sister with a bit of kindness, but it'll make your mom much happier as well. And remember, nobody is perfect. You probably do lots of things to annoy your sister as well. Don't forget that she has thoughts and feelings too, and they're not all stupid ones. :P Good luck!
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I don't think that you should try to get out of it. I think that you should go and spend quality time with your sister. Get to know her a little bit better and let her get to know you a little bit better. Don't be all mean and distance to her like you normally are, because truth is it seems like she wants to be more normal and like you but you keep pushing her away. She is your sister and you live with her and y'all aren't that far apart age wise. You should takethis opportunity to develop a healthy relationship with your sister. You can hang out with your friends right before you go to camp or after you get back.
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So, you hate your sister because she likes stuff that you don't like? Wow, that makes <i>alot</i> of sense. Maroon 5 isn't exactly rap, hip-hop, or r&b, so why are you so pissed off because she likes them? Maybe she really <i>does</i>? Gosh, I can't BELIEVE she would actually like a group that you like--how dare she like a group that only YOU can like! /sarcasm
My advice, first of all, is to just get over it. People have different interests for a reason. This world would be extremely dull if everybody liked the same things. Difference is what makes the world beautiful.
If you don't want to go to the pool, just tell your mom you don't want to. It's not that hard. If she still makes you go, ask her if you could invite your friends to go too. That way you can spend time with your friends and still be doing what your mom wants you to. Compromise is a beautiful thing.
Please try to get along with your sister. It'll make your life a whole lot easier.
- Sporkster
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Well,
sisters are annoying. I should know. I have one. But just because she's doesn't mean you have to try to get out of things because one day, she could drift away and you might not be able to see her again. You want to be close with your sister when you get older. You don't want to fight with her all the time. My dad and his brothe3r hate each other to this day and they fought so bad that my dad's brother threatened to kill him! I know you would rather be with your friends but believe me when I tell you this... you should charish the good and bad time that you have with your sister, even if you don't want to. She'll always be your sister and ALL she wants to do is spend "quality time" with you. Another thing I would do is tell her that you WANT to go to the pool with her but you have already promised your friends that you would go with them tomorrow. Try to reschedule the pool trip until the next day. You may not want to do this but it is very important for you to send time with your sister. If she starts annoying you THAT bad, tell her how you feel about her doing things just like you and trying to be like you. Tell her that SHE'S older and SHE needs to be the example, not YOU. I mean, you're younger! How can the YOUNGER sister be the all-time role model? I have never heard of that. So tell her that! I'm sure she'll understand.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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How do you know that she's trying to be more like you? She might actually like maroon 5, did you ever consider that? Everyone 'grows up' at different stages, and you sound like you've got more mature way before her. I say let her get on with doing what she's doing, after all if she is pretending to like certain things to seem cool then she'll soon get fed up of it. And maybe when you go swimming, if you really can't stand to spend the whole day with her, why don't you suggest that you take a friend along and she does too? That way you can make your mum happy and get to see a friend too.
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hey well just try and like be nice around her and convince your mom that you dont need to hang out or whatever! but you can just invite all of your friends there and then like if you really dont like your sister you can ditch her! but i think that would be mean so just try it and if it doesnt work than you guys can just go home and and then you can do whatever you want! or just tell your mom ncely that you dont want to go because you guys dont get along! hope i helped and i hope it works out!
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stand up to your mom and sister. that's what i do to my isster or mom. i'll give attitude or i'll do anything it takes. sometimes i even make peace with my sister so my mom willl realize. but you should stand up for your rights
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well it sounds like your stuck BUT you can invite all your friends to the pool with you and hang with them..thats what i would do because i dont blame you for wanting to chill with friends instead of your sister
i hope what i said helped
-melissa
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