i know romance novels like Barbara Cartland and Jude Devereaux and Nora Roberts are crappy...then why do they get published? How do they actually get it approved?!
They get published because people will buy them. It's all about money, plain and simple.
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hey rita i love yur journal, yur very hott too!
Thank you very much!
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ok i'm 13/f and i'm not sexually active or anything but i am just wondering how effective condoms are. i know that sometimes they have a hole in them or something, but about what percent of the time are they safe? thanks!
According to www.fda.gov, condoms have an 11% failure rate, meaning 11 out of 100 women who just use a condom get pregnant. This percentage includes those who use condoms improperly, though.
I'm not sure exactly how efficient they are against STDs.
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well i am a 13/f and like sometimes when im in bed at night or whatever i have these fantasies of my friends and/or enemys getting naked and touching eachothers boobs..is this normal?
Yep. You're fine.
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Hey everyone. I have started to read a little bit lately, and I was wondering if any of you could list some books that are good. Fiction is the main cateogory that I would like to read. Your help would greatly be appreciated.
Thanks, Caleb
Middlesex by J. Eugenides
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in order to qet tested for STD's.. do you have to have your parents know ? my mom would totally like freak if she thouqht i was doinq anythinq sexual.. ive been w| my boyfriend 9 months.. i wouldnt have intercourse now but.. maybe oral & i want my boyfriend to qet tested. please help, i rate hiqh !! 14\f
You and your boyfriend can get tested at a clinic and your parents don't have to know.
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ok so i cut, so obviously im depressed. i cant decide if i should go to a psychologist and have them give me anti-depressants, or if i should just go to our family doctor and get some from him. what do you think? i dont want my parents in the same room as me if i went to the doctor, so how would i do that? id feel bad if i said i dont want my parents to come in, but is that what im supposed to do? is the doctor going to ask me questions? and would i have to show him my cuts? their really teeny and a little red, so they really arent that noticable, but would he still give me anti-depressants? im not wanting anti-depressants just for my cutting, i am depressed so i have other problems other than cutting. thank youuuu
Go to a pediatric psychiatrist. Your family doctor can recommend one to you. During therapy, you'll usually talk to the doctor alone, but sometimes s/he may want to include your parents.
Don't see antidepressants as an ultimate solution. Even when medication is prescribed, it is supposed to be in addition to therapy. Your doctor may not think you're a good candidate for medication and a better candidate for just therapy. I've been on nearly every antidepressant out there, and believe me, it's not a cure-all.
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hey, so me and this guy want to be kind of like friends with benefits and do stuff but not sex you know so if i gave him head would i have to use a condom? he has gotten head from 2 other girls and for both of them it was their first time and i have never given it before and yeah anyt tips? can he really have any stds? i hear guys dont like it with condoms so what should i do
If he won't get tested for STDs, use a condom. Just taking his word for it is a pretty big risk, even if he seems like a trustworthy guy.
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my older sister is 15 and i am 13, and i can't stand her! like she just bugs the hell out of me. she tries to be like her "own person", she is obsessed with animals, mostly horses, and reading. but i am the exact opposite, i hate reading and i like partying, boys, music, and tennis. she is trying to act like me though. i mean she likes country music, and i like rap hip hop and r& b. now she is starting to like maroon 5 and stuff that i like it is pissing me off and its just cause she is trying to be cool because she knows she is really annoying. and my mom is making me spend the day with her at the pool tomorrow, which i really don't want to do because there are only 2 days until i go to camp and i would rather spend my time with my friends! how do i get out of it?!?! please help me!
You have a problem with her because she "tries to be like her 'own person?'" What exactly is wrong with this? Would you rather she be your clone? Besides, "finding your identity" is part of adolescene. Some teenagers do this by being defiantly individualistic, and some, like you, do it by defining themselves as part of a group. Just because she's not like you doesn't mean there's something wrong with her. My siblings and I have totally different personalities, different interests, and ran with different "crowds" in high school, but we still like to hang out.
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k so like the other day there were like these 2 guys n they came over to tell me about there religen and stuff n they were like jehovan witneses and i was like screw you n my mom got really made and shes makin me go 2 there church n stuff even tho im like totally not diggin that whole religen thing n stuff i m like a relly ahrdcore satanist n stuff and they shouldnt be like pushin this religen stuff on me right??? am i like wrong for this?
Do you even know what Satanism is?
Did Satan steal your ability to spell?
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hEy! i wanted to ask you this whats the % i could still get pregnet if
1. my boyfriend uses a condom and wen he cums he takes it out
2. im on the pill
thnaks..i want to be over protected! lol let me know if you know the answer! thanks!
The failure rate of male condoms is 11%.
The failure rate of oral contraceptives is 1-2%. (www.fda.gov)
Using both together decreases your risk of getting pregnant to almost nil. Also, these failure rates include people who used the products incorrectly. If you want to add another birth control method on top of the ones you're already using, use condoms with spermicide.
Hats off to you for being responsible!
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Im 13 and im going to planned parenthood to get birth control..will they let me have it even though im only 13?? And im sexually active-I just want to be safe!
They'll give you birth control. Some places even provide birth control for free to people under 18. Depending on where you live, though, it may be very difficult for you to get an abortion - so just don't get into that situation!
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HOW LONG SHOULD A 14 year olds penis be ?
However long your penis is is the length it should be.
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how can you make pictures look black and white and stuff because my camera doesnt take blakc and white pictures
Um...you use black-and-white film. I recommend T-MAX 400-speed.
If you're talking about a digital camera: you can do that kind of stuff in Photoshop and other photo editing programs. However, you'll get better results with a 35mm camera and black-and-white film.
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okay im 13 , 5 foot 6 and have really smalll boobs. like i mean their an A and i have frnds who are 4 foor 11 wiht bigger boobs. Its really embarresing when i wear a swimsuit etc. Does anyone no of anything i can do 2 help. Expeacilly with the swimsuit thing. THANK YOU!
Clothing that will enhance your bust:
-Turtlenecks and other high-necked tops make breasts look bigger. If you want to show skin, show off your arms instead.
-Pockets, frills, and other decorations on the chest. This also goes for swimsuits.
-Shiny tops
-Horizontal stripes across the chest
-Corset tops
-Thicker fabrics (bulky sweaters, etc)
However: There's nothing embarassing about small breasts.
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I have been taking paxil (An anti-depressent pill) for about 3 years, and I'm now 16. Recently I stopped taking it because I feel like it blinds me. I feel like i'm too happy on it and I'm not myself. I was thinking about lowering the dose but I've already been on that and It didnt seem to do anything. I think that by taking the pill it changes who I am. My parents are getting really worried now because I havent taken it, and i'm not sure if I should get back on it. Does anyone get what I mean?? I was born who I am, and that is depressed, anxious, and with anger. I think I should be myself and face these problems on my own, with out medicne. I dont think medicine is the best way to deal with problems. Can someone please give me some advice on what to do. Am I doing the right thing?? What do you think about this. Thanks! -Jenny
Going off an antidepressant cold turkey is dangerous. There can be some serious side effects, such as paranoia - last time I stopped taking my meds, I tried to run away and nearly gave my roommate an ulcer driving around trying to find me. Talk to your doctor about weaning you off medication entirely or gradually starting a new one. It's silly to accept the symptoms of your sickness as "the way you are" - would a diabetic person refuse treatment because "my wacked-out blood sugar is just part of who I am"? No, medication alone isn't going to solve everything when it comes to mental illness, but don't write it off just yet. And whatever you do, definitely don't abruptly stop taking your meds.
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Lately I've noticed that my feet are very calloused and dry. I took a pumice stone to the callouses and it worked pretty good. However, the wrinkles on my heels are white...like they are cracking. If you feel them, they are smooth. Any idea what this is? I've soaked and scrubbed and as far as I know it's dry skin. Any ideas on how to make it go away?
Soak your feet in hot water before using the pumice stone. Also, apply foot lotion (Burt's Bees brand is great) to your feet right before going to bed, put on socks over it, and let the moisture work its magic all night! I get nasty calloused hobbit feet like you wouldn't believe, so you can be assured my methods are tried and true!
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I have a problem in the learning catagory. You see, I dropped out of school because of a few things, mainly panic attacks and basic miserableness (which I'm working on fixing now). Before 6th grade, I did great. Math, science, English... was all very easy to me.
Then in 6th grade things started going bad. I've been made miserble purposefully by most of my classmates for years. But I stuck it out. Then in 6th grade I started skipping because it was too hard around those people who hurt me all the time. And then I started enjoying the freedom and not doing all that work. So work started to become harder and I avoided doing it.
Now I feel useless and I actually want to get my education and go to college and all. The first step is to get my high school education. It's hard when I'm 18 and officially dropped out in 9th grade. (I hardly even did 7 and 8. I skipped a lot and they put me in 9th when I said I'd make an effort.) So I'm continuing my education through distance education.
I actually have been keeping up on brainy subjects because it interests me. I've been watching history and science documentaries for years and I've always loved books. The problem is that I have hardly been able to retain any of it in my head. I haven't been able to learn. I am doing all this mostly to learn (and to get ahead). But I just... can't remember how to learn. Hardly anything is getting in there anymore. What can I do? How do I learn?
I don't know how distance learning works, so my advice could be way off here. Anyways, having someone (i.e. a tutor) to give you deadlines/assignments may help, because you'll have little goals to work toward. A tutor would also be able to help you figure out how you learn best (reading, listening, writing, etc).
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omg i have tried ban, teen spirit, secret, and dove deodarants and none work for me! does anyone have any that work for them that may work for me? cuz i am tired of my shirt be wet from sweat underneath my armpits, and being afraid that someone is gonna see it...plz help!
CertainDri - It's an antiperspirant that's so strong you only have to put it on a few times a week. It's not prescription so you can find it among all the other antiperspirants/deoderants.
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I'm in seventh grade and it's so hard! You guys help me! We just had a science test and I got an F! I usaly get all A's and B's. What are some tips, I'm strugging and don't want my good grades to go down.
Get a tutor - a student in the class with you or someone who's already taken the class. Ask your teacher if s/he has copies of old tests/quizzes you can use to practice during your tutoring sessions.
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