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overprotective
my parents are so over protective. im 13 and they wont even let me jog aroung my block or go to the mall with a friend it gets on my nerves cause my dad always bring up these stories of about these 25 yr olds who get kidnapped raped and killed i told him to sign me up 4 self defense if hes so paranoied but he just gets mad he wont listen. Please help @ this rate i will be a prisoner without freedom and locked away in a tower at age 45.
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LoL. You sound really funny. Still, you should chat with your dad and your parents, about how you feel. If you've already tried that, ask them WHEN you will be able to. Make a deal with them, if you can go to the mall by yourself, then if nothing bad happens, you will be alowd to. Same deal with everything else.
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Sorry, but I agree with your parents. Somewhat. I mean...I think you should be able to go to the mall. It's a nice big place filled with lots of people. Little kids may be targeted there, but I'm sure if you stick with your friends you would be able to handle it. But around the neighborhood, I'd be scared to let my thirteen-year-old out alone. Try to negotiate with your parents in a reasonable, mature way. No whining. They love you and want to protect you, but you must make them realize that someday you will be an adult and you need to learn how to take care of yourself or else you'll never KNOW how to take care of yourself. They want you to be independent and happy, even though they seem to be clouded by their fears. Tell them that they're not giving you permission to do drugs, you're just growing up. And as you grow up, the shackles of childhood are slowly taken off, one by one. You're not completely going out in the real world yet, you're just getting a little taste of it and that's exactly what you need to grow up to be a normal, respected member of society. And if that doesn't work...go rent a kenpo tape and get some self defense books...then kick their asses (no, that's a joke). Parents always have trouble realizing that their baby is becoming an adult, and it's your job to help them through this difficult time. Good luck.
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aww sweety i totally feel your pain
sit him down and try talking to him
we all deal with this specific problem at one point in our life and if some dont then wow their parents must not care at all but anyways explain to him that your a teenager and you wont go by your self youll hang out with people and youll be very careful and he should start trusting you by now and you hang out with the good people
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Talk to your dad about why he is so overprotective. Are you the oldest daughter? Is your neighborhood really dangerous? Has he had any bad experiences? What if you go jogging around the block with a few friends? Try to talk to him and get the whole story. Then you could bring up the self defense class. If he just gets angry again, ask him why he is angry.
The main thing is to just show him that you are mature and know how to handle situations.
What does your mom say about all this?
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Well my parents are overprotective too! I kno how you feel. Its not that they dont trust you, but they dont trust anyone else. My tips are too always go out in big groups of people. They dont have to be too big, but if your going to the mall go with like 4 people. Another thing is get a cellphone(if u dont already have one) tell them youll work around the house or something just so you can hang out with your friends once in a while. But always keep your phone on and with you, theyll freak if you dont answer...Another thing about the jogging, if you have a dog, bring it(preferbly a big one) that way they can know you have your own miniature body guard palling around with you. Well i hope i helped!! Sammerz
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Ugh i hate protective parents ..my parents are like that too just because im the youngest of them all and i hate it ..but my parents arent as bad as yours lol ..well if i were you tell your parents your young and you dont get to do these choices very often ..so tell them that you'll be safe just let them let you grow up for once and tel them they need to stop treating you like your 2 and cant do anything ..
well hmm tell me how everything goes
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My parents are the same way. All you have to do is set them down and ask them if you can proove that you are older and that you can take care of yourself. my dad was a little help because he would always let me cross the street to get some food at the store or something, and eventually my mom figured out that I had grown up and was responsible. tell them that you will go with someone if it makes them more comfortible. other than that, I think that it will just take time for them to reallize that you won't always be a kid. And try not to bring up that you will be out the house soon, it will just make it worse. I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. Please rate!
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I know EXACTLY how you feel. My parents were the samer way but as I got older, I realized that they were only doing that because they cared about me and even though you THINK you won't get kidnapped, raped, and/or killed, you never know when these things are going to happen. They just do. You can never tell. Well, they just care about you and I don't want you hurt either but maybe you should just respect their rules and one day, you'll realize how important they are and how important it is to respect them.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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do you have a dog? when you wanna run around the block be like ill take the dog!! or tell him that youll have your cell phone on and if thres trouble you can call him. tell your dad that you dont think its fair you cant even go to the mall with a friend. tell him youre responsible and tell him who your going with, what time youll be back..and just give him all the details...if hes still not letting you go..offer him to talk to the parents of the othre girls that are going to go. and if he STILL wont let you...then i dont know..but jsut tell him its not fair and youre starting to hate your life because you feel like you have no freedom, fun, or anything. xo
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well if i was in your shoes i would have one of your friends parents talk to your parents about this issue. thats what i had to do to get to go places by my self with my friends. i first started to go to the skating rink, then i went to the mall, and now i can go just about every where. you can also let him know that there is police officers at the mall and stuff to help people when they need it. and all of the workers that are there wont let any thing happen to you so just try some of these things.
hope i helped!
signed:~Desy~
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