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Hey Im Sam!!
A couple of my friends say that im good for giving advice and sometimes am motherly :\(JOE) which could be good in certain situations cuz im very responsible and try to make people feel good about themselves.So i figured id give this advice thing a shot. So if it turns out good you guys can ask me anything you want i wont reject anyones question i promise. AsK AwAy!!

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ok....one day i saw my boyfriend making out with my best friend... i got pissed at him and through my shoe at his head. i ran away. the next day i took a nap. at 3:00 p.m. i found him in my bed nibbling my ear and his hands down my pants??? i kissed him on the cheek and told him i had a dentist appointment which was a lie. he left? what should i do?

14/f

um ok i say CALL THE COPS NEXT TIME THAT HAPPENS. Hes a jerk for making out with your best friend ( i like the shoe thing, the shoe thing was good). And your best friend, what kind of best friend goes and makes out with their best friends boyfriend? I mens thats wrong. Oh well her loss now shes stuck with him. But definetly dump him and soon. Maybe you knocked his brain out when you threw the shoe at him, because what kind of guy puts his hand down someones pants when they were sleeping!?!? Goodness thats wrong in so mnay ways. Its invading your privacy, and he just has problems. Please tell me how things go okay? I hope i kind of helped. Sammerz

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ok me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time, and we decided that we are comfortable having sex. well, i really need help! i thot this would be an interesting experience, but he has such an odd sexuality. example: he like practically ripped off my blouse, then like snapped oppen my bra and IT REALLY HURT, then like he takes my panties off and start rubbing them on himself,then when he had enough of that, he got whipped cream and sprayed it on my pussy, then licked it off. now that whippe cream thing may turn some weird girls on, BUT NOT ME!!! i'm like what the heck???? so then i just get dressed and leave because this was ridiculous, but we're really close so we made up. but what can i do so that next time, (its proabably not going to be for awhile tho) he acts NORMAL!!!

Well it seems to me if your uncormfortable with this then you guys arent really ready for it. Tell your bf that you dont like it and your not ready to do *that*. Im sure he'll understand. Well i hope i helped!!Sammerz

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iok yesterday i went to my friends house and she told me there was a guy that looked like a guy that i used to like and had the name of my ex. so i wanted to see him.. nothin else. but then my friends cousin hooked us up and i dont even noe the guy i would have said no but her cousin told him i liked him. the problem is he is 20 and i am well 14.. he didnt care about the age but i have a clsoe guy friend that i like a lot we are planning to hook up we just have to find a way to see each other more. (he lives 15 min. away) and my friend is 15.. i want to give this guy a chance because he was all sweet to me but i think the only reason why he asked me out was 4 my looks. but we were taking pictures and he had his hands all over me and he didnt even noe me. here is what i would like to noe:

*should i give him a chance? if not how can i break it to him but still wanting to get to noe him better?

*should i tell my guy friend about this?
i want to tell my guy friend but he thinks i dont like him which isnt true i tell him i like all the time and he does the same to me..

thanks!

Well sorry but this guy sounds WRONG NO WAYYYYYY i think you should go for the 15 year old kid that you actually like. Plus this guy has no right to put his hands all over you, its wrong.Dont tell your other guy friend cuz knowing guys he will try to go beat him up, and probably lose (20 vs. 15 hmmmm)Try everything you got to tell him that you do like him.EVERYTHING. The guy friend sounds much better than the 20 year old, but thats my opinion. No matter what, folow your heart. Youll find the right answer somewhere. Well i hope i helped! Sammerz

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Can i ask seriously. When people come on this. Do they answer questions genuinely to help people and hopefully help them through a tough patch or whatever; or do they do it for ratings? It makes me mad when you see a confused person askin a serious question; only for it to be answered by someone. Who at the end makes it obvious(or seemingly) that they don't care byu saying "please rate"Ok i know they jus want acknowledgement and appreciation. But if the person is willing to or want to im sure they will. Why do you ask or say things like this? I really don't know so any answers are appreciated.
Anthony

Well i know the reason that i joined this thing is because i saw it and some girl said her bf dumped her blah blah... and someone said go get some guys to go jump him and i was like WTF?? So i really dont care about the ratings(you cna give me all 1s if u want) But ill still do this cuz i kno that in (at least) in some small way i am helping someone. Thats really all that matters right? Sammerz

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I made the cheerleading squad this year and i love it.. but our coach said any girls that argued or talked about each other behind their baQs or caused drama were going to be kicked off the squad.. and there is a girl on the squad that is so mean to me.. she makes fun of me but says she is just pickin but it bothers me and she says rude stuff that makes me mad.. but i havent said anything to her about it because i'm afraid it will make her mad and start a fight but i'm rele tired of being treated like that... wut should i do?!?

Hey i made cheerleading this year too!!hehe
Well i think you should just ignore this girl and dont bring anything up. If so try to keep your group people right near the Coach because she will evantually get caught. But DEFINETLY dont say anything cuz itll be your luck that you get caught saying something to her, and that wouldnt be good. Trust me, itll come back and bite her in the butt. ;-D Just give it time. I hope i helped!! Sammerz

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hey guys. thanx for takin the time to read this.
ok im in foster care and me and my 4 brothers and sisters are all split up and i cant help but to find my self gettin depressed over it....
what are some things i can do to cheer up when i start feelin this again....
*KASHIA

Well im really really sorry to hear that. Im an only child and ive always wished i had brothers and sisters. Its okay to feel sad about it, but maybe you could talk to an adult about it and tell them that you miss your siblings and you really dont know what to do without it. I dont understand what kind of childcare system would split up relatives among such a distant relationship. I would try to think of things you like. Watch TV, listen to happy songs, and hang out with some friends. It makes me sad thinking about your dilemna and i really feel bad. Maybe you could try a counselling thing? I kno that sounds embaressing and your probably like AHH im not going to counselling!! But it really might help. You might possibly even get to contact one of your siblings. Well i hope i could help. If your feeling sad just IM me if you wanna talk. Sammerz

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my friend is lee and i have ben crushing on him on and off all year and he asked me out earlier this summer but i rudley said NO! and my mom was like who is that and she was like aww taylor but i mean she hates me going out with guys she hasnt meet ....she has only meet him once and that was in 6th grade ... so i didnt wanna say yea and my friend was at my house when it happend and im like really popular along with all my firends ! and hes not that popular! so i didnt want my friends to be like EW! and well we started talking again and like he says he will kall me then he doesnt! it bothers me! but he broke up for his gurlfriend for me!!! and i was like you didnt have to do that cuz i didnt want me 2 lead him more cuz i dont like him as much as he likes me but he was my first kiss in 6th grade ! and i am begaining to like him more and more !!!but im afraid if we go out again he will just dump me because wut his friends say ...he says i am one of the hottest gurls ever!!! but i dunno ! help me!

please answer these questions !
A: do you think i shold go out with him
B: is it wrong for me to get up set when he doesnt kall snice were not goin out!
C Do you think i sould be scard to go go in this relation ship because of bein dumped !!


*THX* *I* *RATE* *HIGH*

*Tacy*

A. Yes you should go out with him. Dont listen to what your frineds and his friends say cuz in the long run it wont matter.
B.Theres no need to get upset if he didnt call you. He may have been busy and not have had time to get around to it, but it doesnt mean he wasnt thinking of you.
C. I say go for it. Theres no need to be scared of being dumped. If he dumps,he dumps u. His loss. But i think he seems like a sweet respectable guy and you guys really have a chance at it. Well i hope i helped! Let me know how things go. Sammerz

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Heyy! I am a 14 year old girl
I have a MAJOR problem... I have a boyfriend of almost 5 months and we are really happy! He was my first kiss...let alone that but we haev madeout and french kissed! which sounds like alot but when you see how happy we are you could see why we have done that! The only problem is our parents dont know and we dont plan to tell them any time soon...both of us arent supposed to have a gf/bf until we are 16 or 17.... we are seriously meant for each other and he says he loves me and i love him...i haev never felt this way!
WHAT SHOULD I DO! I dont know if we shoudl tell our parents or just wait to tell them...what would you do???? any advice would be helpful!
thx

I would tell them the truth because they will find out sooner or later. Have your bf come over for dinner or osmetihng once. I know itll seem awkward but it gives your parents an idea of what a nice, respectable, mature kid he is ( if he isnt he better be a good actor) because if they think hes nice then your all in the clear. Now about his parents...It usually seems like the boyfrineds parents dont mind as much, but try the dinner plan again if not. One more thing, if this gets more serious and you guys stay together longer, have your parents meet his parents, then itll show them how much you guys really care for each other and how much you really want this to work. Well i hope i helped! Sammerz

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look, theres this guy and i mean ive liked him a very long time and he really means a lot to me...i try to stop liking him because i know he messes around w/ these other girls that i dont like...that NO1 likes...but everytime im around him he puts me in this trap and like trys to find a way to hold my hand and stuff and its sweet...what does it mean? i mean we've discussed our liking each other b4 and he f'd things up last time so i told him to f off......but i know now that i really like him...again...and i dont know what to do...please help...

Well maybe you should give this kid a shot. I knows he done some bads things but oyu know people can change. But if he does anything again just leave him and tell him he lost his chance. I know youll be sad if that happens but HES A GUY i hate some of them cuz they treat girls like throw away cameras. You use them as much as you want until the picture are developed and they toss you out and move on to the next one. But dont worry about, there are other fish in the sea. Well i hope i helped. Let me know how things go!!Sammerz

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I have 101 books and i have a bookshelf thats attached to my wall my mom says i should take off 70 of them or something but the problem is where do i put my books i need some help. i don't have any boxes and i can't get any what should i do and my closet is full. please help me
thanx

Well maybe you should try buying another bookshelf or even donating your books. I have a ton of books too and all of my old books i donated in 5th grade to my elementary school and now i have room for all the new books i want. Heres another hint, you seem like a VERY avid reader ,as am i, you might want to try going to the library more. That way you can stop your ever growing book shelf from exploding, but you can still read as much as you want. Well i hope i helped! Sammerz

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i use to cut alot but after i started goin out w/ this one guy i stopped for him. We broke up after 6 months and for this whole past year every time ive wanted to cut i've thought of him and would think about how much he would hate it if i started again. Well im still in love w/ him and i finally got the courage to call him and tell him. He told me that did love me and that really broke my heart and i've been wanting to cut really bad but i don't know what to do!someone plz help!!!!

thanx
-twiSted

Well im sorry about your bf, but you really need to talk to a counselor or a parent or someone. One of your strong adult peersm because you need to get help about this cutting situation. I know someone who used to cut and when she told me it scared the crap out of me because its a deadly habit. You really need to deal with this and quick! I know your probably like *your a moron why wouldi listen to you i havent cut in 6 months* But it can be veryu addictive and for your own safety i'd feel bad if you started again. So please PLEASE get some help on this issue. I hope i could help...Let me know how things go. Sammerz

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i bite my nails alot & i just cant help it. but i really want 2 get a manicure b4 school starts. do u know anything that can help me not bite them?
p.s. i tried that stuff that tastes horrible but it doesnt work 4 me. :\

This sounds very familiar for me( i tihnk i answered this before!?!) Well i always used to pick at my nails and it bugged the living crap out of me. What you should try to do is have the nail people cut your nails deep, not too deep though. But just short enough so that if you face your palms towards your face you cannot see your nail tips over your fingers. That way its pretty much impossible for you to bite them. Another thing, i used to pick at my nails when i was really nervous(during one of my volleyball games, watching some of the final episodes of the OC =D) So maybe if your put in a lot of OMG situations jut try to relax about it. If you really have the need to bite, sit on your hands. I know it looks corny but your not gonna try to bite at your butt are you? Well i hope i helped a little, let me know how things go. Sammerz

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A friend of mine came to me for help.. and I honestly don't know how to respond.. so maybe someone on her can help?

Well Marc, my friend, is going out with this girl Elena.. they're relationship is great and everything, but he is still obsessesed with his x-girlfriend, Joee..well he's trying to break up with Elena, but she's suicidal and all..so the first time he mentioned it being just friends to her, she overreacted and threatened to kill herself..Marc NEEDS to break up with her, but doesn't want her to kill or hurt herself...
(Elena has attempted suicide once before, so she's not afraid to)

ANY help at all would be awesome.. thanksss.

One word: Councelling. This girl needs serious help and fast. Marc is just trying to do the right thing for himself, but doesnt want to hurt Elena, and i respect that. I think someone needs to tell this girls mom or school guidance couselor. One of her strong adult peers can help her out for this one. Its the safest for everyone if you bring it up to an adult and soon! Well i hope i helped. Let me know how things turn out, okay. Sammerz

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Well my family is a family with 5 kids. We are running sort of low on money. How couild I help them out. I mean my mom could nopt even buy shampoo the other day!

Well try to find a good job for someone at a younger age. You could always try babysitting or dog walking...For more choices look below at this other question i answered. Well i hope i could help!! Sammerz

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Ok, there are alot of gals who wear their shorts with holes in them. And they do not wear grannie pannies. They wear thongs. So it is gross seeing their butt. Do you think I should just go up and say " Hey I can see your butt cheek" or what?

No coause that will just them mad. But i hate it too. Its just nasty. People think its cool to walk around with ,again, LACK OF THREAD. They dont really have respect for anyone around them. I think you should just ignore it. Butt hey (geti t butt,hehehe)if they ever tick you off or start something just be like well at least the whole town cant see my ass...hehe Well i hope i helped a little...Sammerz

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i wear my pants low, but not 2 low & my mom is always 'like pull up ur pants! theyre too low!" i dont like it. i dont wanna look like a geek but she will make me 1 day. she wont even let me wear low cut jeans/shorts! could u please help me? thanks. 11/f

well i personally tihnk shorts are way too short nowaday. I went to aerpostale to get shorts and i was like LACK OF THREAD MUCH. But thats my opinion. Tell your mom to buy you a belt. Wear the belt. Itll keep your pants up but they are not up all the way the in the oldern days haha. Also when your go shopping be like mom dont you think these are so0o cute>(about the shorts and stuff) Even if she says no be like mom this is what i like. I know how annoying moms are, so if she doesnt let you get them, its not the end of the world. I bet youll find something else out there that are just as cute, but longer.Im not trying to criticize, but i hope i helped. Sammerz

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Hey guys!! Okay I have a really confusing conflict! I am going out with this guy and I like him a lot and he is a great kisser! but I just found out he cheated on me. and he is the kinda guy that doesnt seem like he cares so I dont know if he cares about me. ok I like his friend, we have talked a lot and I know he cares and I know he wouldnt cheat on me....I dont know if I want to break up with My boyfriend and go out with his friend or if I should stay with my boyfriend and see how things go?! PLEASE HELP!! I need all the help I can get!!

Well if he cheated on you then WHY r you still with him. Thats your que to say *later jerk!* Now this friend guy sounds really romantic and like he cares about you so i say hang with him for a while to see if feelings get any deeper. Gvie him a chance. Okay well i hope i helped! Let me know how things go. Sammerz

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hey or the past couple days my voice has kind of been like cracking, but i am a girl. and my throat doesnt really hurt or anything, and i havent been screaming or shrieking a whole lot. any ideas what it is? or is it just normal? thanks!
~*jaimee*~

Well everyones voice changes as they get older. I mean it affects guys more dramaticly but girls' voices also get deeper too. Trust me its normal my voice is so much deeper now than it was like 3 years ago. It happens to everyone but most girls dont realize it because its not that much of a change. Well i hope i helped! Sammerz

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I have this ex-girlfriend, ok? And see what happened is she just broke up with the guy that she broke up with me for. And I'm kinda worried that she might try to go back out with me just because I'm their and I'm familiar. Plus we also were lightly flirting last time we were together, which was about a month ago so I think I'm safe. What should I do to let her know, without a doubt, that I won't get back with her now, but do it lightly so it's not really noticeable?

Well next time you talk to her try not flirting and acting buddy-buddy. Act like you guys are friends and what not. If she does ask you back be like * im really sorry but i dont care about you that way anymore, i was hoping we could stil try to be friends.* If she keeps bugging you just tell her you really only wanna be friends and shes not helping! Well i hope i helped a little...Sammerz

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hey
does anyone know any way a 15 year odl can make money except for a job, like doing other things..mmkay thnaks

Ok well at your age you do have quite a few optioins. Theres always...
-babysitting
-lawn mowing
-pet sitting
-walking dogs
-doing chores around your house
-house sitting
Ok well for babysitting find an aunt or an uncle with kids who seem kind of stressed out. Play with their kids and be like hey if you guys ever need anything i'm willing to babysit.
Lawn mowing is how its said.Lawn mowing. Put up fliers or something to get peoples attention, and kind of stretch the truth a little. Mature 15 year old willing to do the lawn for any price the seems affordable according to the size of the lawn and blah de blah
Pet sitting/Walking dog/House sitting. Well if you know anybody who goes on vacation a lot or need a vacation, go over somewhere and ask to walk their dog and then maybe earn their respect so that while they are away offer to stay with their pet for like 2 hours a day and feed thme and what not. If people love their pets they pay high maintenance for them.Also this is doing the house sitting part too, just with a pet added on.
Finally BEG your parents. Give them gifts(cards etc.) and be like i'll do the dishes for a month if i can get soem mula out of the deal. Trust me if you play your cards right, it works. Well i hope i helped! And good luck finding money! Sammerz

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