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Boyfriend/Parents
Heyy! I am a 14 year old girl
I have a MAJOR problem... I have a boyfriend of almost 5 months and we are really happy! He was my first kiss...let alone that but we haev madeout and french kissed! which sounds like alot but when you see how happy we are you could see why we have done that! The only problem is our parents dont know and we dont plan to tell them any time soon...both of us arent supposed to have a gf/bf until we are 16 or 17.... we are seriously meant for each other and he says he loves me and i love him...i haev never felt this way!
WHAT SHOULD I DO! I dont know if we shoudl tell our parents or just wait to tell them...what would you do???? any advice would be helpful!
thx
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I think you should be open and honest to your parents. Once you start lying to them, when it is ok for you to have a boyfriend(according to your parents)they're really not going to trust you. They will always go back to when you lied to us at 14. They should know that by now you are interested in boys and they are interested in you. You should take responsibility, go to your parents, and tell them that you have a wonderful relationship with this guy. He should do the same. You do it ALONE with your parents, and he does it alone as well. Also, do not tell them that you "love him." Parents never buy it until you're about 20 anyway. Don't rush into anything just yet...HAVE FUN!!
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why would you tell them?? there is no need to.
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You should wait to tell them. My friend is in the situation and her parents wont let her go anywhere if her boyfriend is there. Just keep things on the Down Low for a while. But they love eachother a great deal and they have a true relationship.
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dont tell ur parents until you think theyll take it ok and if they ask just be like o we are just really good friends telling the parents isnt smart at all
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I think you would be better off if you found a way to tell them. If they should find out now they would be so upset they may forbid you to see each other at all! I think you could probably get them to let you go out with a group.
They may not let you go out alone until you get a little older, but that's better than not seeing each other at all.:)
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well ... it's kissing so it's not that much of a big thing lol people have done much more younger than you and havent been together as long as you two have.. and thats retarded that your parents arent letting you guys date or anything um...just tell your mom i mean mom's understand this stuff more than dads do the dads are too like stuburn and shit so i think you should tell your mom then gradually tell your dad and have your boyfriend do the same.
hope i helped hun
brookee.
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I wouldn't tell them just yet because if they disapprove its just gonna put pressure on the relashonship and make things hectic. ♥
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I would wait a little while.. You need to tell your parents that yall are dating.. but you dont have to tell them that you have kissed and made out and stuff. If your parents ask about your dating situation.. tell them, dont lie to them, but if they dont ask you about it just wait a little while to tell them.
I hope this helps!
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ok well lets see i think you should tell both sets of parents , just set them down 2 by 2 or all together & just say something like , " Mom , Dad i really really love this boy & he feels the same way & i reallllly think we would be together along time & i would be really really hurt if we had to break up" ( notice how many times i said really lol ) but i hope it all works so ya'll can stay together :)
hope i helped ya out
JaDa *
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you should probably tell them sometime soon but don't do it to quickly ease yourself into it. they are you parents you should know how they are going to react. u should also know when their in a good mood and when it is a good time to talk about it. You can play that to your advantage too.
hope i helped
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Hey,
If I was in this situation, I would wait a little while. Since you say your 14, and only been going out 5 months, that puts you in a hard situation! If you really have feelings for this boy, and it really sounds like you do, then I think you should tell your parents. Tell them that you have never ever felt this way about someone before, and that you feel that it's ok and that you should be able to have a boyfriend at your age, because you really feel like this is 'the one!'
Hope I Helped,
KenniSki10<3
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Why rock the boat? They're going to find out eventually, so just wait until that happens. If you've made it 5 months without them finding out, maybe you can last even longer. When one of your parents does find out though, explain to them that you two are doing nothing wrong and it's perfectly normal for 14 years olds to have boyfriends/girlfriends. (You don't have to tell them about the making out!) However, if you would feel better getting it off your chest, maybe you should tell them now. It would be the mature thing to do, and hopefully your parents would realize that. They'll be less angry if you don't keep it from them. Hope you can decide what to do!
X0C0URT
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If you know that when you tell your parents they will say no way! and things are working out fine how they are now then just keep it that way. but if you want to spend more time together and it is hard to do that when hiding from your parents then take the risk of them saying no boyfriend and tell them.
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well i am kinda in the same problem as you with my parents dont approve of bfs, but i still do it anyways...lol.. i wouldnt tell my parents if they disapprove of it.. if he calls you and your parents ask you about him then i would just tell them that he is a friends that you liek talking too... that is what i do and it works all the time..hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*
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I wouldn't just yet. Wait til the time is perfectly right then tell them. With my boyfriend I didn't tell my parents we were even together until 9 months later and I was 15 and I was allowed to have a boyfriend. But they didn't approve of him that's why I waited soo long. Also after you tell them they might want you to break up with him (at least mine did), but stay strong and put your foot down and tell them no. They might threaten to ground you or anything but it's not worth it, tell them that's fine. That will also show thkem how much you care for him. Good luck with everything and keep me in touch. Come to me if you need moral support.
xoxo
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i wouldnt want to ruin a good thing so i wouldnt tell him straight out..but i might bring up the subject like mention "mom, dad...what would you say if i met a really nice guy and we wanted to go out?..you could meet him and everything" then see their reaction..if they totally flip out dont tell..if they seem understanding then think about telling them
i hope i helped
-meliss
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I would tell them the truth because they will find out sooner or later. Have your bf come over for dinner or osmetihng once. I know itll seem awkward but it gives your parents an idea of what a nice, respectable, mature kid he is ( if he isnt he better be a good actor) because if they think hes nice then your all in the clear. Now about his parents...It usually seems like the boyfrineds parents dont mind as much, but try the dinner plan again if not. One more thing, if this gets more serious and you guys stay together longer, have your parents meet his parents, then itll show them how much you guys really care for each other and how much you really want this to work. Well i hope i helped! Sammerz
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