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I Have this friend who is always putting themselves down and somethimes i dont know what to say becuase they arent the most attractive person and i dont want to seem fake about it. Whenever they tell me that there ugly or whatnot...im always like dont put yourself down like that your not ugly. Every time i talk to this person they always tell me how ugly they are! PLEASE HELP ME IN WHAT TO SAY TO THEM!!
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Yah i have the same problem your friend is always putting her self down. Well i think you should try and explain to them that they are wrong and tell them the truth. That is wat i did. See if that works if not prove to them that they are wrong maybe...
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just tell them that they arent that bad... honesty is always the best weapon.. tell them the truth.. tell them what you *really* think about them.. they will be grateful for you being honest.. i assure you.. well i hope they will for your sake :)
hope this helps :)
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I've been in this situation before. Sometimes, people really don't have alot of self confidence and it's like they expect their friends to make it up to them with comforting comments and praise. They don't realize that it's up to them to see the true beauty in themselves. I would tell your friend that they should have confidence in themselves. Give them lots of compliments all at once and make them feel good. Don't do this too often because then it will seem fake even if it's not. Throw out some random "feel-gooders" every once in a while to slowly raise your friend's self esteem. It's tough, especially in a world full of size 0 models but friends can make a huge difference. If you ever need any other advice, feel free to ask me questions directly! <3 iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG <3
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Tell her good things about herself until it makes her sick, but don't worship her if you don't want to. If she's being negative about herself, just say something positive about her, or just change the subject. Try talking to her about how you don't like her negativity. Be a friend to her, don't lie, just tell her her good points, and don't bring up the bad ones. I hope I helped. Good Luck! -Angel
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I know what you mean, because I used to have a friend just like that. What you have to do is to tell her to stop, because it's upsetting you. Tell her it doesn't matter how you are on the outside, but what's on the inside that counts, and that you like her just the way she is. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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confront them. say that their so awesome and great. and you don't see why a such an awesome person thinks so negatively. so maybe all he or she needs a some confidence
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just say... look, (friends name here), i think you are great and thats why i am your friend! so i think you should stop putting yourself down because everyone thinks ur great, especially me. and she'll say thanks. and if she does it again jsut be like... hey, remember what i said? and she'll prob stop
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O.K- Self esteem problems, huh? Well, if you send her to a spa or some kind of make-over place, she'll look and feel better. I used to think I had a wierd nose. I always said "I'm so ugly." and my mom said, "No you're not." My grandma told me I was ugly, my friends told me I was ugly, people on the streets told me I was ugly. It wasn't true because guys like me fine. LOL. But, if you get her an extreme make-over (not with surgery- nose jobs, boob jobs, etc.) but like... haircuts, make-up, clothes, etc. It'll work. My best friend (my true one, that is) did that for me and when I went back to school, I felt better bout my self and people treated me different! I was so proud. Surprise her, ok? That's all I can say. Best of luck.
~~~Kayla~~~
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ommgg.. one of my friends... is like the most gorgeous person ever.. and when she says that shes ugly.. im like.. "o yeah.. ur so ugly?!?" or i just tell her to shut up.. cuz she alwaes has somethyng to say bad about herself.. l0l.. and if im really sarcastic about it.. and im like.. "oh yeah? your really ugly?!?" yeah.. then she just drops the subject :)
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Even though your friend may not be the most attractive person, dont put her down by saying "your ugly but still a good friend." Your friend is unstable right now and needs support from her friends. So just tell her not to worry what others think and that shes not ugly. Keep telling her that no matter whhat theres always going to be a prettier girl and theres always going to be a girl who is uglier than her. Its the same with everyone. Tell her to be confident and to learn to like what god gave her. Tell her you dont want to keep hearing her put herself down sand to cheer up!!
Hope i helped
-melissa
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