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Does she want to date me?
Ok, here goes...background, I'm 30, recently separated and getting divorced. I had not had much of any social life while married, long story and part of the reason for the divorce..anyway, to help meet new people I posted a personal on a website, I met and started emailing with someone, we went to talking on the phone, we've been talking for a few weeks now, at first if I asked about getting together she gently passed the question, then we made plans to get together, she didn't show but called. She has said she was and is scared when it comes to guys in general, she has said she really likes me, and I like her, we talk for hours, but I again asked her out and she just said she's really nervous...I don't know if she wants to date, or if I'm wasting my time. I'm not in a hurry, but at the same time if we like each other, why have we not gotten together, we know alot about each other and it seems mutual, but...DOES SHE WANT TO DATE?? I don't want to pressure her, but she even told me if I don't push her we won't ever get together because she's nervous/scared...What do I do?
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I hope this women is at least close to your age, but I think a way to get somebody to tell the truth is to communicate over the computer, and say, "Hey, I really feel like I'm not getting an answer from you which I truly deserve because I have told you mine, I know you are shy, but I need an answer, if you like me the way I like you, thats good, if you say no, then thats ok too, but I would like an answer, because I feel like I'm wasting my time here, sorry to push you, but I need to know what you feel too, you can even say the answer and jump off your computer, I don't care, just please tell me." I'm sure that should get her to do it, basically you are willing to do whatever it takes to get an answer. But nobody can tell you whether she wants to date you, you just have to ask her.
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Hi,
Yes she wants to date. But she doesn't want to be nervous... and dating makes her nervous. Show her you are a good person by being nice to her and a good listener and a good friend (good relationships start with friendship) and she'll see there's nothing to be scared of. If she not shows up again tell her to promise you she'll show up next time and you'll bring flowers so she has to go.
Good luck! Have a nice day! ~Blessed Be...
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Tell her, it's just not the same talking to someone without being able to see who you're talking to. Plan an evening. Say 'Would you like to come to [resturant name] and then a movie in the evening' If she keeps passing up these offers, let her know there's no reason to be nervous around you. Also, let her know how you want to see her and don't like how your relationship isn't getting anywhere.
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