Ask me anything, I understand, cus I've been through a lot..guys especially..,moving parents,friends,anything & everything in between,I HAD hotkins lymphoma,if anyone is currently going through something like that, I understand and would love to help, you might not think I understand but I prolly will.. just ask me & I'll give you the best answer I can..
The best advice anyone ever gave me was take this moment & run...
*The fisrt time u fall in love, it changes ur life forever, and no matter how hard u try, the feeling never goes away* - The notebook
*Never kiss by the garden gate*,
(*love is blind but the neighbors ain't*)
When it hurts to look behind you & you're afraid to look ahead, look beside you & your friends will be there
Kass & Holly.. Love you guys
Thanks for bein there, we got each others backs, just in case one of us gets jumped againby some drunken sluts. lol
Me & my girls are like Paris & Nicole.. (without the sex tapes)
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the prettiest people do the ungliest things
from roads to riches to diamond rings...
We buy our way out of jail, but we can't buy freedom
We'll buy a lot of clothes when we don't really need em
Things we buy to cover up what's inside
Cause they make us hate ourself and love they wealth...
were all self-concious im just the first to admit it
[all falls down-kanye west]
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So this coming month will be 8 months for my boyfriend and I. he's 17 and i am 16. He always tells me what his parents were for halloween ( they were highschool sweethearts ) soo i ended up buying a costume already for myself but decided that i really wanted to do something fun with him. Any funny/cute halloween couple costumes.. you could think of?
thanks soo much! (link)
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I have the best costume advice.. look no more
Mario and The Princess..
How cute is that?
Hope you love it =)
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okay so me n my bf hav been goin out for the past two months n the thing is we like makin out n stuff but its totally taboo in our school...i mean there was this huge scandal when a guy n a girl frm our school ran away together and the school got a lotta bad publicity so now its like we get sent to the principal if we're caught holding hands and the teachers act suspicious if you talk to a guy for too long...so my bf really wants us to make out in the library...n its not lyk i dont want to...i totally do..just as much as him. n i'm ready n everything but isnt it a [HUGE] risk?? and also both our parents dont know so could we lyk hav sum suggestions on how to do this...cuz in a few days practice for our annual concert's gonna start and thats when almost everyone takes part and the school pretty much empties out and its quite deserted (i.e. minimum chance of being caught) so do you think we should do it then or if somewhere else then where? we're both 15...sorry this is so long. help plz!! :s (link)
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If there's anyway possible you should go to the movies and sit in the very back row.. where no one you know can see you..
I think you should beg your parents to let you go to the movies.. you are surely old enough to go to the movies and definetely old enough to make out..
If this is not possible, then you should just wait till it's a good time at school..
hope I helped... oh and Have Fun!
=)
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well i really want a new knid of hair style you know something to make ppl go "omg u look great!" i have natural wavy hair and mediumish length, so i was thinking some kind of sideswept bangs with ALOT OF LAYERS around the face but im having a hard time finding what i want! so does anyone have some pics of that knid of hairstyle so i could have something to chose from?tnks :) (link)
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Sounds like your hair would be perfect for an inverted bob..
With the texture you should have lots of sexy volume with this cut..
use your favorite search engine and type in inverted bob.. look under images..
or
Something out of the ordinary..
Color and all.. This is a great style to make you stand out in the crowd..
http://hairstlyes.com/
It's the first hairstyle on there.. red and dark brown.. really pretty
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Aleshia, me and this guy from logan used to talk ALOT!!, but then he went to a party one night, and starts dating another girl. Well, now that they've broken up, he calls me and tells me how much he likes me and stuff, and I think I'm falling for him again, but I really don't want to. Do you think I should give him another chance or totally forget about him?? By the way, I'm 14 and he's 16. (link)
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I think you should give him another chance, but don't just come out and say "okay, I love you"... He doesn't deserve that yet.. He needs to Prove to you that he's worthy.
You should watch for player signs (i.e. if you think hes getting a little too close to your friends or other girls) Even if you think it won't amount to anything you should keep a close eye on him until he has earned your trust...
So basically, I think you should just see how it goes, and try not to get too attached..
Best of Luck.. Aleshia
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I have this friend whos 16, we're not really close, but we do talk & she told me she wants to get pregnant & she's been trying for a while...Its not because she loves her boyfriend or anything, its just because she wants a baby.. I know she won't be able to take care of it..does anyone have any suggestions on what I could do to show her how much work it would be and try to save her from ruining her life? (link)
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Well, she should watch somebody whos in labor, then she would understand, my friend'd cousin just recently had a baby & shes 19 & she watched her have it & she said it was so painful she would never have kids
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Hey! Aleshia.. Ok heres my problem me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months and he's always going somewhere on the weekends and he wont tell me where hes going he acts like i dont need to know.. i think he has another girlfriend where ever he is going.. what should i do please help me! (link)
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I think you should totally tell him you need to know where he's going or it's over, because if he obviously has something to hide.
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Aleshia!Hey.. I Have A Very Serious Problem.. Im Begining to think that none of my friends like me.. i mean ive been friends with some of these people since 6th grade & they just dont talk to me or when they do they act like im annoying!..what should i do?.. signed-Confused! (link)
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Omg! None of my friends like me either! Vee, I know this is you, you loser lol. All I can say is that nobody likes us.. I don't know why, but our parents don't like us, our friends don't like us.. Justin prolly doesn't even like me (yeah right) lol. I like Kassie & she likes me, & you & Kayla like each other.We are our only friends besides that & I don't know why lmao
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Aleshia.. hey* well..here's my problem!.. um back in the summer me & this guy went out & we broke up in august.. well the other day i saw him & almost started cryin.. & i really want him back but he has a gf.. should i just move on or try to get him back!?? HeLp! (link)
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Try to get him, even though he has a g/f.. who cares? Who knows, he might not even like his girlfriend.. Let me know what happens.. *Leish*
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*Hey!Well, I always use the word suckwad.No one else does.Then one day i was reading my best friends advice column and i noticed that she had used it.it really pees me off and i am MAD...not really..this is you best friend Kass! I (link)
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*I know you're not serious, cus we all know who made up that word.. = ) he he j/k lol..*
Bff,
~x-*Aleshia*-x~
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My bestfriends is in love with my boyfriend She writes him notes and everythin she tells him to break up with my and everythin i mean i've knew the girl for ever and she tells me she hates haim but i know she likes him what should i do i want to still be her friend but i don't want her to get in with my persnal life i mean this guy and i have been goin out for 4 months..Please Help me before i kill my beat friend (link)
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Oh thats a suckwad of a friend, I understand, one of my besat friends did the same thing to me & we haven't talked since. You should find some way to prove it to her that you know what she is trying to do, then if she still doesn't admit it, then you have no choice but not to talk to her for a while, just give her the silent treatment, if she doesn't come around after a week or so, then this friend has got to go... if she can't be honest with you by then then she never will.Unfortunatly thats the only thing you CAN do. I hope everything works out okay, and if you have any more problems, please leave me a messege in my inbox...
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Umm... I dont meen to sound like a weirdo, but your boobs are a really great size and mine are so not! I wear a 34 A. were can you buy those fake boobs at? The ones like on tv? lol I mean I dont think that you were fake boobs, I just thought you would know were to get them. (link)
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Thanks I guess, lol. You can buy them at Goody's for about $20.. I wouldn't get them super big though, cus them everybody will know that they are not real. Hope I helped = )
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okay today has been 3 weeks since my best friend and i havent talked for..my best guy friend and he happens to be my crush thinks my worst enemy is hott..and wants to date her but thinks he has no chance n i think he deserves better and plus im moving..my life literally stinks and im going through major depression anyone wanna help (link)
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I think you should try to talk to each of them and straighten it out before you leave. I know it must be hard, but you should atleast try, so it won't be so hard when you leave. So first, we'll start off on what to say to your best friend. You should say something like "It's been three weeks since we haven't talked and I don't like it at all. We're suppose to be best friends. I mean I want to work this out, I don't want us to be mad at each other, we need to work this out, we're best friends after all and we have to be forever. And I can't move knowing we're still not talking, do you think we could work this out...?" Say something like that to her. And then for your best guy friend/crush, say something like "You're one of my best guy friends. But, I want to tell you something. But, you know I'm moving and I just thought this would be the right time to say it, even though there would probably be no chance, but I just can't hold it in any longer. But, I like you more than a friend. And I also just want to look out for you, and I'm not just saying this because I like you, but that girl you think is hot, isn't the right girl for you, you could do so much better than that, I just don't want her to get hurt, that would be the last thing I would want..." Say something like that. Just tell them how you feel and that you don't want to move with her not talking to you and him going out with the wrong person. I hope this helps and good luck hun. Just stay positive and keep smiling. Life will get better, trust me hun. Tell me how it goes. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox
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Hi!Ok...me and my ex b/f broke up a couple months ago and we still became really good friends after that and he tells me he loves me and he calls me his "boo".lol.But..anywayz..He wrote me a note not to long ago and he said he was sorry for treating me like shit in the past and last time he apoligized for doing something bad we ended up back together.Do u think he still has feelings for me?I still have feelings for him.We went out for a year by the way.I RATE!!Thanx!! (link)
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Hi!! Aww that's sweet, the whole Boo thing. Adorable. But anyways! Yea, I think he does have feelings for you since he wrote that letter to you and appoligized for everything. Because I mean he still says 'I love you' and calls you his 'Boo'. Just kind of seems like it. But, I'm not 100% sure. The only way you can find out is by talking to him or you could use his technique and write a note back to him. Basically just tellin him how you feel and stuff. And just be like "I know we broke up a couple of months ago, but we have managed to become good friends with each other. You still tell me you love me and still call me boo and stuff, which I'm not complaining about. And then you wrote me a letter for appoligizing about everything. I really appreciated that. But, I still have feelings for you and I just want to know how you feel about me and if you think we could try a me and you again..." Just say something like that and how you feel. I hope this helps and good luck hun! Tell me how it goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.
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hey this is an honest question. i know you, and i know things about you and i just don't see how you can give advice and tell people that having sex is bad when you might be having it yourself. i have sex, and i can't sit and tell my friends not to do it without feeling bad about myself. i was wondering if i should keep telling my friends and others who want advice not to do it (even though i do it myself), or shuold i just tell them that i don't have any advice? i hate to be a hypocrite. (link)
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Be truthful to your friends, dont lie to them, I never lied to my friends or anybody who views this site, I never said having sex was bad, being a whore is bad.. doing it with like a thousand guys...I'm not a hypocrite
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*Hey, Aleshia, what kind of foundation & blush do you use, I think your make up is so pretty & natural*
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Thanks = ) I wear dream matte mousse by Maybelline New York in Sandy Beige, and sometimes I wear Colorstay from Revlon, True Beige. If you want to stay natural, I would go for Maybelline. And I wear Pysicians Formula blush..
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first off you are drop dead GORGEOUS! lol i know you hear that a lot but gosh lol i like envy you (in a good way)
my name is carly and im 13. i really like my friend "bob". over the summer we were like best friends we hung out a lot.. and we went out twice. the first time we were going out he broke up with me cause he thought i liked another guy. so i told him i never liked any other boys a few days after we broke up and we went out again. but the second time we went out things were getting too serious, like he said he was in love with me? and i wasnt ready for that.. i was really scared. so i broke up with him. but now i think i made a mistake. i've hinted around that i like him again and he doesnt even seem to care.. i think i really hurt his feelings. now he doesnt even say hi to me at school or anything.. we even walked out of the door at the same time and neither of us said a word to each other! i havent told very many people but im like crazy about him! im like missing him all the time and i never talk to him cause hes never online anymore. everything reminds me of him too! what should i do? i really need advice so if you could help me out that'd be great!! (sorry this is so long) xoxo -*crazy in love (link)
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First of all, thanks =) lol.. second of all you It doesn't matter how long you question is, don't worry about it hun =), and last but not least the answer lol... I understand the position you are in, because I've done the same thing quite a few times, I mean "love" is a scary word if you're not ready to hear it.Then you start to relize after he's gone that maybe it wasn't so bad... Sometimes that is what it takes to find out how much you love someone. Here's my advice to you, I think you should write him a letter & tell him how much you regret what you did, & tell him why you broke up with him (if you haven't already), and maybe he'll come around, you never know, sometimes if guys are hurting then thats their way of dealing with it, not talking to the girl or pretending like it never happened. He's really probably feeling the same way.. I say write him a note on some cute paper with a cute pen ( I love to acessorize things, I think it gives it a personal touch lol ) Explain everything to him & I think he will understand... Hope I helped.. If you have any more questions add me to icq or aim or leave one in my inbox.. Aleshia
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ok this is the boy u thought was a lizzy juss so u kno who it is dont tell nebody tho
I told that girl that I liked her and it all went good and now im with a girl that i dont even like and I like this girl from logan and a girl chapmanville sheww im so confused wat should I do? (link)
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You should definatly go for the girl from Chapmanville, trust me.. dump the other girl
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Aleshia,
I have a very, very big problem. I think I'm vipolar. I have a girlfriend that I love dearly and would do anything for, but I tend to beat her for no apparant reason. We'll be sittin' there kissin' or something, and I'll be all up in the mood, and then something just happens. It's like I turn into a totally different person. My mood changes very, very sudden, and I'll just start beatin' her in the head with my fists. Like take this for example. The other night we were in bed. She was gettin' into it, and she started to get off. Well, she goes, oh, yeah, and starts screamin' my name. Well, I was almost there, and about that time my mood changed. Well, I jerked her up by her hair, shoved the condom that we were using down her throat, and started repeatedly kicking her in the face. When I came to myself, she was blue in the face, and I had to use CPR to revive her. Well, that kinda made me start to worry. She was bruised all up and stuff, and I think her parents are starting to suspect something. Aleshia, what do you think I should do? I really love this girl, but I'm afraid that I'm going to seriously hurt her. Do you think I have some kind of disorder? (link)
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Okay, first of all, that was a little too graphic for me..But anyway, I think you should see a phyciatrist.. you have a really serious problem.. its called manic deppresant disorder.. (also known as bipolar)..Try this website...
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bipolar.cfm
Hope I helped
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Hey its Da Coop,
Hows it hagin aleshia, long time no see. Hey guess what...did u guess...okay now have u guess...man ur horrible at this guessing stuff.
well here is my problem...i had sex with this one chick here from ahh i think Chicago...yeah and she calls me up and says that she is prenate...i cant spell. Anyway she said after the baby was born she was goin to send it to me by mail...im just wondering should i use UPS or Fed Ex. ur friend Coop (link)
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I'd go with Ups. That way it'll have a better chance of gettin lost.. lol
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Hey aleshia! I have this problem..well it's not really that much of a problem, it's just i don't know what to do. Well back to the point, there's this guy...he's attracted to me, i mean he flirts all the time, and wants to go to a movie with me. Well he's older than me, i mean like 4 or 5 years. Thats a big difference. He's really sweet and i have to say im sort of interested in him too. The only thing is, is that if my mom kenw about "us" i guess you would say, she would absolutely flip. Now i know how guys are, im really good about saying no when i get in uncomfortable situations. So what should i do, keep talkin with him and go to that movie or back off and just stay friends? By the way he's like 17 and i'm 13 if that helps! (link)
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*If you really like him, I think you should go to the movies with him, if you don't like him enough to get in trouble over him, then I wouldn't take a chance.If you really like him then everything will work out.. eventually your mom will come around.. my boyfriend is 17 & Im 14, so its not a big difference lol.. My mom didn't like him at first & she still don't like him, but she is still letting us go to the movies & stuff with him lol.. Good Luck
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