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Allow me to introduce myself, I am the Knight Owl. Or, as my friends know me, Sean. I can't guarantee that I can solve your problems. But the majority of the people I know seem to come to me for advice. I listen to people very well, and I assess. Sometimes I can offer suggestions, other times there are no suggestions. But I promise to try my best. Remember, everyone has problems, I know I do. All you need to do is ask. I invite you, to talk to me on AIM or Yahoo, if you want to ask me privately for some advice.
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I have a problem with my boyfriend touching me 'down there.' We have been going out for 3 years now, we have had sex and all and I am still afraid to let him touch me down there or even see me down there. But I have a very good reason, I was molested at the age 5-6 years old, I have told my boyfriend this because he has asked me numerous times if that was the reason so I finally gave in and told him the truth. Now he knows, but he still tries to touch me there even though I have told him it makes me uncomfortable and I am not ready for that yet. I have always been shy about it, when he tries to touch me there it turns me off and it brings back memories of being molested. My question is how can I overcome this? And why does my boyfriend keep trying to go down there even when he knows, and when he does I push his hand away and he sort of seems mad and doesn't get it but sometimes he acts like he does get it, so I am not sure why he keeps doing this? (link)
Well to answer your first question, the only way to overcome this discomfort with him touching you is by sheer force of will. You have to realize that as bad as being touched down there was when you were 6 you're a woman now, and stimulation administered there feels good. As for him, be firm, if he touches you there put your clothes back on and ask him to leave or take you home or what ever. He'll learn eventually that touching you down there has disastrous consequences. Be firm, and don't be afraid to put him in his place. Hope this has helped in some small way, good luck.

-The Knight Owl


okayy ! well i went out with this boy for almost 3 months and he was short .. and he knew it.. well we had an argument like a niqht before we broke up cause i didnt see him for like 3 weeks then if we didnt hang out today (the day of the argument) i wouldnt get to see him for another week .. soo anyway .. i got mad cause he wouldnt hang out with me ( am i right about getting mad ?) and i made steph my friend talk to him .. but i was sittinq on the floor rockiinq back and forth and then i was whisperinq i can do better i need to dump him because he treats me like ass.. but anyway then he heard and got mad so i forgave him about not hangin out but he didnt really forgive me but i talked to him the nxt day when i was babysittinq and then he said that he was ten like messinq around and i was like suuureee ..and he goes why do you think im soo short .. i said i dunno maybe you have growinq problems then he said what do u tell your friends you go out with someone whose short and i said nahh i say i go out with a short kid & he got mad and hung up so i called him back and he said dont fucking call me again bitch ! so i didnt...
what should i do .. oh yeah by the way im 14 and a Female (link)
Get yourself a new boyfriend, and try to be picky this time. No shorties, because short people often times have short tempers. Next make sure this guy is in your grade, its very possible this guy was actually ten, but you can't be sure. Finally, make sure this new guy is in some way within close proximity to you. Normally, I don't approve of dating unless one of the people involved can drive or has some form of public transportation. Good luck, hope this helped.

-The Knight Owl


Can someone please help me? Preferably someone who knows what they're talking about. OK, I have this rash thing on my neck and arms, and I have no idea where it comes from. I have it for a while, then it goes away, and it comes back again! It doesn't really itch that much or anything, but my arms get all red and bumpy. Picture day is in 2 more days, so is there anyway I can make it go away or cover it? Thanks! (link)
It could be any number of things, the heat can give you a rash, dry skin, or what I get sometimes are boredom rashes, my skin will develop rashy blotches when my mind has time to wander. A tall neck or turtle neck sweater will cover it up, while adding that perfect bit of classy fashion for your picture. Not to sound gay..... Anyway, try using Hydrocortizone, it works well on rashes, and if that doesn't work switch body washes, sometimes people have mild allergies to certain chemicals in certains brands of body wash, detergents, or shampoos. Its normal, I wouldn't worry TOO much about it. Keep cool, try a new body wash, apply anti itch cream, and if all else fails, go for the sweater. Good luck, hope your picture comes out great.

-The Knight Owl


Well, things at home are not good for me. They haven't been for years, no I don't get abused or anything but I'm just not happy living here. I hate my living enviroment, and I really want to move out. I talked to my two best friends about it and they're really not happy with their familes either so we want to work as much as we can all of this school year and then next summer move in together (we have all of money problems figured out). Two of us would be 16 and one 17. My question is, what is the law for teenagers living together by themselves? We live in NJ and someone told me that you just need an adult to sign for you. Is that true? Anything is appreacited! Thanks. (link)
You need a court of law to legally immancipate you from your parents custody. That's all it takes, then you'll be a legal adult as far as going out and getting an apt.


-The Knight Owl


my hair is kinda frizzy. I dont usually blow dry my hair and i use herbal esscenses (sp?) shampoo and conditioner. What are some ways to make my hair less frizzy without getting that frizz ease stuff or blow drying (that takes a long time. i have a lot of hair)?????
i'll rate 5's for good answers! (link)
Well personally, Herbal Essences SUCKS! but hta's my opinion, I use Vive which is wonderful, it makes my long hair (I'm bi and I happen to care about my hair) nice and soft. Then I let it air dry with a hair tie. In a pony tail. That should work, I have the same problem, so when it dries and starts to friz I wet it, and smooth it out, that works surprisingly well. Just wet your hands and smooth out your hair. And switch shampoo and Conditioners. Hope that helps.

-The Knight Owl


What are some good songs by The Strokes, The Doors, and The Smiths? (link)
I don;t know about the other two but the Doors? Rock on. Here you go, Break on Through, Stranger, Mr. Mojo, and pretty much anything by them, I suggest buying the Greates Hits album, and see for yourself.

-The Knight Owl


Okay so umm... There's this guy I really like at the moment... He's really cute and has never had a gf! Which I can't understand... But anyway.. he works at the same place as me, he's so sweet.. I'm not sure he notices me much because he's like 3 years older but well.. he's my best mate's BROTHER... and well... what the heck should I do :S
Do I need to tell my friend or just let things run and see if there's even a possibility anything could happen...
lol whoops :( (link)
That's a tough call, that would make him twenty, which in itself has some moral issues. But he's your best friend's brother too? Jeez, you picked a winner. Okay, I'll see if I can help you out here. Before making ANY kind of a move, rules of engagement state that you MUST get permission from the friend. Its just good manners. Then providing you get consent from your best mate there, you will have to be in the same house with him and find some way to talk to him alone. He needs to be able to relax and with his sister/ brother or any family members for that matter it will just be too much pressure, so like spend the night at your best mate's house and then find some way to talk to this guy, flirt with him and try not to come off too strong. If he's interested he'll probably make the first move. I don't know how crafty you are, but you should try and get him to talk about his experience with girls and assure him that he's cute and that any girl would be lucky to have him, really stroke his ego. YES EGO! This has always been the sure fire way to get a guy's attention, trust me, I've seen it enough times and its happened to me enough times for me to be sure of this. GOOD LUCK!

-The Knight Owl


im a 15 yr old girl and i've all ready had enough of life and all the b.s that comes with it. i think people construct very tetarded realities for themselves that make life more complicated than it was ever intended to be by nature. is there any large association of people who feel the same way? i dont care if i have to trek half way across the world to find them. any taoists, buddhists, or peacable nihilists who just want to chill out and smoke the peace pipe in some sort of monastery? if you heard, lemme know. :) (link)
This question made me laugh just a bit. I don't think there is one person in the world who hasn't thought the same exact way. I think you just need to chill, find some people in your town who smoke the peace pipe and chill. Life sucks, I know, I've been there. But what you SHOULD try is meditation, finding ways to create inner peace when life gets to the point of violent screaming and thoughts of mass murder. Its a strange idea, but depending on how vivid your imagination is, creat a happy place in your mind that you can retreat to. I would start off with the image of some place peaceful, like a lake miles away from civilization, practically untouched by man. Myself? I created an entire world, that's how bad my stress levels got, there is an entire world in my head that I can escape to if need be. So try that, if it doesn't work then contact me further and I'll see if I can locate a monastery for you, I know of a few, but I don't know if they accept women and people under the age of 18.

-The Knight Owl


Well, this question is only for those who have serious answers. My hair really doesn't curl or scrunch. It just doesn't. What are some other non-boring hairdo's or things to do with hair besides straightening it all the time? Any other ideas that ACTUALLY work for most hair? (link)
Well, I'm guy, but my hair is long and I know what I like in hairdo's. Since you can't curl it and it doesn't scrunch (Lucky!) I would try dying it a light color and highlighting it, maybe get a conditioner with a glossing agent to add a bit of shine. Try experimenting with some various braids. And lastly, get a hair pin set, they're stylish and look professional, and this opinion seems to be a mass agreement from men, but they are very alluring. Good luck I hope I've helped in some way shape or form.

-The Knight Owl


okay so i am around 5'3 and i weigh around 130.. i have stomach fat and i have been doing crunches for a long time and they dont help that much.. my question is, what can i do to lose this stomach fat? (link)
Easy as pie, cut back on what you eat. Avoid sugary foods, like chocolate, switch to diet soda, keep doing your crunches, ut that does NOT really help to burn fat. All crunches will do is harden the muscles underneath the fat. So if you can manage try some fat burning exercises; running, biking, swimming laps. You want to sweat! You could try a low carb diet as well, this means little to know bread, some vegetables, no fruit, and red meat. What worked for me was one meal a day and limiting myself to one helping at dinner. I lost some fast poundage, but I also did a daily work out consisting of swimming, biking, running, and weight training. It worked for me, but I was throwing in the weight training and crunches to get buff. So stick to the calory burners, Running, biking, and swimming. Good luck.

-The Knight Owl


I am always annoying my mom! I always try to have some stay over and she says no then i ask y and she gets mad! the only reason she says no is cuz i ask her all the time! Can someone help me solve this problem?!

-Unknowm (link)
Dear Unknowm,
The easiest way to avoid this is stop asking, try and be sparse in your sleep overs, or better yet stay over their house. Try going a month without asking then ask, I think your mom is just sick of you springing these stay overs on her. Sometimes all she wants is a little peace, quiet, and privacy. And she can't get that with your friends spending the night. Hope this has helped.

-The Knight Owl


ok so the other night me and one of my guy friends were cuddling and then he kissed me. we made out that night but then when i woke in the morning i had a killer headache. i got up and my stomach was aching and i felt a little sick. but i couldnt get sick anytime i tryed. i had a fever and felt like i was going to pass out. my throat kills and those lymphno (i think thats how you spell it) things are swollen. my mom thinks i might have mono but she doesnt want to take me to the doctors. we kissed on a friday and today is monday and i still feel like this. when he called me he said he didnt feel well ethier. could i have mono? or am i just sick. and if i do how long will it last and if i dont get treated will that be bad? please answer i rate high. (link)
If you find all of your energy gone, to the point where you can't move or nothing then you have Mono. Otherwise its a case of the flu, its been going around this summer I hear. Drink lots of tea and OJ take two ginseng tablets and call me in the morning. Good luck,

-The Knight Owl


I use the words: incredible, awesome, beautiful and amazing all the time. I was wondering if you knew any words that mean basically the same thing, but are different? (link)
Prodigious, Phenominal, Fantastic, Superb. How's that?


on AIM what does

=P
:D

and other things like that mean ? i dont know what they mean ! or if they even have a meaning. ill rate 5's for any useful serious answers (link)
=P is a smiley face sticking its tongue out. :D is a smiler face with a great big smile.


hey, well see there is this guy...and he's really sweet to me on IM. then my friend tried to set us up. like she told him to get to know me, is what i really mean. and then he told her that i sound cool, but he wouldn't talk to me. i still wanna get to know this guy but how can i do that if he won't talk to me?
-can't get him to talk (link)
Well, you could keep trying, be casual about it, set up a get together with a bunch of people and try talking to him there. If he's just plain not interested, there's nothing to be done. Hope it works out.

-The Knight Owl


i'm scared beacause my Bf started talking about sex beacause we are in a serious realtionship and well i'm a virgin and hes not and i really dont kno anything about sex so wat should i do?
help plz i rate high (link)
These things are not always easy to sort out, it really comes down to are you comfortable with having sex right now. Are you saving yourself for the right guy, and if you are, is he the "right guy". Its gonna hurt the first time, I'm sure you know that. If its a matter of you just don't know if you're going to be any good, trust me, guys don't really rate girls on that stuff except for oral. If you are ready to sleep with him, then try telling him you really don't know anything about it and he needs to be patient with you. Or, if you want to keep him satisfied, try starting off slow before jumping right into sex. Try handjobs, and oral sex first. It will keep him quiet on the subject of sex for a while. Just ask him to tell you what he likes when you do these things for the first time, use him as sort of an instructor. I hope this has been helpful, I tried to cover all aspects of the subject, good luck.

-The Knight Owl


what is the best product to use on acne? (link)
Clearasil and dove facial scrubs worked best for me.


okay im burly getting sick and i dont want to get sick i hate getting sick is there any tea or any other thing i could do to stop it from getting worse?? (link)
Here is my remedy, Green Tea mixed with honey, ginger, and Ginseng. Drink about four cups of that though out the day and you should be fine.

-The Knight Owl


i am 30 yrs old and married last 3 yrs but my wife is not happy with me i cannot satisfy her because my penis is small 4 inch in size and thin and my stamina power is also weak please help me i am not happy in my life how i will be able to satisfy my wife (link)
All right, before going out and spending all sorts of money on ancient remedies, I want you to go out and buy a porno. Pay very close attention to the parts where the guy is eating the woman out. THIS is important, then try these techniques on her. I'd say that should solve the problems of your wife being unsatisfied. Sex is as much about giving than it is about taking. If that doesn't work, I want you to search on line for some products to increase sexual stamina, not viagra! Go to a GNC go to Chinatown, where ever you have to go, just get something. Good luck and god slow you down.

-The Knight Owl


13/f this is gonna be long. in the past two years i've had three really intense sex dreams where i wake up and i'm really sweaty and kind of shakey and i feel all tingly and stuff. the weird thing is that about a month after i have these dreams i have another dream where i will be in the delivery room at a hospital having the baby. one time i even woke up with cramps in my abdomen. this has happened for the first two times but i only had the last dream like two weeks ago. Are these dreams just a weird...really really weird coincidence or could they mean something?

K.A. (link)
Hmmmm, I wouldn't say that this is coincidence, your body is telling you something, and it is being loud and clear. When you enter puberty your body is ready to make babies, that's what these dreams basically are, your body and your brain communicating. The first part of said dream, the sex part, is telling you more or less, its time to have sex. And I'm guessing that the delivery dream is your body telling you that its now too late in your cycle to get pregnant. I don't have a hell of a lot of experience in the matter, but this has come up once before with me. I'll leave it at this, sex dreams are normal for any adolescent, but perhaps your body really wants you to get pregnant. Don't listen to it, and just let the dreams come they can't hurt you.

-The Knight Owl




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