Ok, here's the thing. At school I never be myself because honestly, I act really crazy at home and I'm afraid people are going to think I'm weird. What if they start judging me, or they don't like me? Should I just forget what they think and start being myself? And if I do, what if they start laughing at me?
If people start laughing at you while you be yourself, one of the best things to do is learn how to laugh at how ridiculous you are. Also, find ways to laugh at them back. If you like yourself the way you are and then OWN it, no one can touch you. Others who try can just be shut down. Don't let people think they have the privilege to judge.
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am Kumar from Hyderabad , India aged 27 years unmarried guy.
I have a problem. I am masturbating since 7 years on an average 4 times a
week from the age of 21. now i feel my penis became narrow in the base and
the penis size is drastically reduced,.the girth and length were reduced and
even if i have erection i cant last longer. the erect penis size is only 10
cms. i am very frustated and worrying a lot on this bad masturbating
habit.My penis has also been bent to the left side with right hand masturbation.
see in my case i lost penis hardness
which i had before starting masturbation at the age of 21 before 7 years
from now. my penis lookslike a child penis. i dont know whether i can
satisfy my wife or not..iam NOT GETTING
rock hard erections like what I used to get when I am 21 before I started
masturbating.
So would be great if you can answer my concerns and suggest me the possible
ways how I can getback my erectile stamina . ways how I can getback my erectile stamina . I used to masturbate watching porn movie and rubbing my penis for atleast 1 hour and then ejaculate. will this cause problem.my flaccid penis length is 6.5 cms-7 cms and erected penis length is 9.5 cms
regards,
kumar
Never in my life have I heard of someone changing the shape and size of their sexual organs, except in the case of those organs being made out of Play Dough. If your man bits aren't made out of this fun for all ages claylike substance, go to a doctor, dude.
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hey um..ok well my best friend and i are kind of like..drifting apart i guess. like she's still my best friend and she says i'm hers too but there's this other girl who like wants to be her best friend too. she always leaves me out on purpose in convos and w/e so idk what to do b/c my "best friend" seems like she likes the other girl better..i talk to her about it all the time but nothing ever comes out of it..helpp? =/
The hard thing about these situations is that really, if your friend truely doesn't want to hang out with you as much, there isn't too much you can do to change your mind. What you can do, though, is tell her you feel like you haven't been able to hang out as much because of this pther girl, who you think might not like you as much, etc.
If this girl is so needy for your friend's attention, she may just be really insecure, or else really used to getting what she wants. This can cause problems for you, because while your friend can have two best friends, it usually makes one of those best friends feel kind of left out.
ONe of the best things to do is not let the other girl's motives get to you. Keep being the best friend that you are, don't let this other girl make you shy away and become less close with your friend. Just be there - don't be mean to the other girl, but just be present in the life of your best friend. I don't think you think this, but remember: you don't own people, and when they drift away, there may be nothing you can do - but you can learn how to stand your ground, be honest with your situation, and move on if you have to. Sometimes people change and there is nothing we can do - and sometimes, with stickign around, an old friend will come back to be the best friend they used to be.
I hope it all works out for the best for you.
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my boyfriend of two years dumped me he sayed he does not know what he wants anymore. but recently he told me that he does love me but is not in love with me. i love him so much and am having a hard time getting over him help? But he on the other hand is partying and having a good time he says that he is hurting to, then why isnt he showing it? He just left to go back out of town and called to tell me he wanted to tell me bye and talk befor he left. but when we talked all he sayed was that he would call me when his plane landed. but flight was cancelled so we did not talk. another question he always acts mean toward me when we talk. help i love him and dont know how to get over him? i am 18 he is 22.
I know it's hard to hear and deal with. I've dealt with the same feelings and confusion, and it's hard when you feel like a relationship had been going great and then, all of a sudden it seems, the other person feels it's time to break it off.
The first thing to do is, just let yourself take it in. Need to cry? Then cry. Cry all you need to, if you have a close friend to support you, ask if they'll lend a shoulder. It's ok to be upset.
When you're not crying, though, think about the relationship. You say he was being cruel to you when you talked to him. Seems to me he was trying to push you away so you wouldn't like him so much anymore, making the breakup easier on him. Maybe he realised that he doesn't like you as much as he once thought, and instead of being honest and forward with you from the start, he waited until the relationship got too deep to simply turn back.
Well, think about it. Why would you need to be with somebody who obviously doesn't appreciate you? You don't. You can get over this, and you will. Let yourself grieve, but don't forget to start to get out, too. Go out with friends, especially in groups, and let yourself remember what it is to be single again. Do things that you'll have fun with. I know at first everything will remind you of him, but I promse that will pass, and soon enough you really won't feel that pain anymore.
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ive been having a crush on this guy but the problem is that he is the total opposite of me.
he's into rock and im into rap.
im not friends wiht his friends and he isnt friends with my friends. but we say hi to each other but other than that there is no conversation between us.
and i dont know if he even likes me because once i heard him say that he doesnt like ppl who listen to crappy music like rap.
so i dont know wat to do now?
You don't have to like the same things or be into the same people to get to know eachother. If you have a crush on him - why not try to get to know him? There must be something about him that makes you like him, so see if there are any possibilities. Don't just write it off as impossible because you come from two different worlds.
If you two ending up having some kind of connection, the music you listen to shouldn't matter. Thing is, you'll never find out if you spend your time worrying about that instead of doing something about it.
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I was wondering what I can do and say to get my ex-boyfriend back?
It seems like a lot of people ask this question, and there is always only one answer to give.
Unfortunately, if he really doesn't want to be with you, there is nothing you can do or say to really make him want you back. You can try to talk to him about why things ended, which you might deserve, but there's no way to change a person's feelings when it comes to this.
I understand it's hard to think about this when you're missing someone, but why are you so hung up on him? You may have had a good thing once, but think of it this way: it ended. It will probably stay that way. Now what is there to do? Start by keeping yourself busy. Go out with friends. Do things you love to do. Don't let the memeory of being with your ex make you lose who you are without him. Learn from how things went wrong with the relationship instead of being sad that things didn't go right. This should be a good thing! Work on yourself now, and don't put yourself off. You're too important to put your thoughts on trying to bring back something that didn't work instead of getting your own life back.
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BEWARE the people who think it's cool to punch and kick in 'circle pits'. I think these are lame, myself. It
s a bunch of guys in a circle who kick and punch and 'karate chop' eachother - its been catching on with kids around where I live, and it's really lame. Do not be like these kids.
Oh - and some pits will have skanking, if there's any ska at Warped Tour(I'm not sure about the bands, although I know there's some punk). Skanking is awesome. It's not violent, just awesome.
It's a little hard to explain. It's people moving their bodies to ska music, kind of like dancing with a bunch of people in a circle, but I really can't find a way to explain what it looks like. Usually people are slightly hunched over and taking large steps.. but that's a weird explaination. Sorry I can't be of more help. You'll probably understand if/when you see it.
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ok so here is the deal everyone knows i am Bisexual like everyone at my school knows. and i knew i was gunna get crap from people. But it has gone to far people are startin to make fun of me like way more and it gets more intense everyday. Not to mention people make fun of me because i watch wierd movies like "Hook" or "Aladdin" I mean sure i am male. but still why does it give people the right to say mean stuff i am also colored and people are being racial talking to adults doesn't help very much. what can they do. and i am out of ideas ignoring them doesn't help.
I know that being Bisexual is bad and i am trying to be straight and i am gettin close to just likeing females. and it seems that god isn't here for me i pray everynight hoping for a better life. and for god to send somone to know who i am. al i need is a friend. my dad lives in switzerland. and i never get to see him only in the summer. and it feels like my life is going down hill. my dog died we had to put him down. that still gives me tears. and all my friends seem to be going against me. because of rumors going around that i am dishonest. and what not i only have 2 friends. and i just don't know what to do it seems like i have run out of options.
can you help me like to find someway to get noy only my mind off but at least pray for me.
thnx a bunch
Monn
I know this is a late response, but I just came across this and had to answer.
Being Bisexual is NOT bad. You are who you are - and the ignorance and stupidity of others is NOT a reason to hide that. Bisexual men get the worst of teases in some areas - is there a GSA (gay-straight-aliance) in your area? Search online for glbt(gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered) events, clubs, activities, etc, in your area. Please don't give up. You ARE being dishonest if you are hiding from yourself. Hiding from that will only mean you are cutting out a hige part of who you are and potential happiness with someone you haven't met yet - all because the jerks at school have been taught to be homophobic.
Also, believe it or not, there are a lot of glbt kidswho are very religious - and know that God doesn't make people gay and then damn them to hell. One of these churches is the UU church. (Universalist, Unitarian). Try checking that out here (http://www.uua.org/CONG/index.php) - you can find out if there is one near you.
Being bisexual is not a choice, it's who you are. The kids at school are not god, and do not know god if they believe they can judge you.
I hope that your life has improved with this since your post, and if you ever need any help with this at all, please feel free to email me or drop aquestion in my inbox. You're not alone with these problems, I promise.
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Ok, yes I'm the same person that's been writing the rumor questions. My boyfriend isn't coming to school the last few days and I can't get ahold of him on the phone, so I decided I wanted this advice now. Today me and my best friend were walking around the school and we started talking to one of my boyfriend's friends. My friend had her cell phone and said that I should call my b/f. And his friend said, "he's half gay." And we asked how he knew. And he said "cause he told us." Do you think this is reason to believe he is bi? And if it is what should I do? I mean as long as he loves me it doesn't really matter much, but still...it's wierd!
Why don't you simply ask him? If he's told someone else, he should be honest with you too - and also, it might just be a rumour.
Honestly, I don't know why people get so caught up in talking about other people like that.
Also, I'm glad that if he is bi, you don't think it's some horrible thing. There's nothing wrong with it as long as you're honest with eachother. Maybe he was afraid to tell you, if this is indeed the truth.
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how do you know if your bi-sexual ?? because i think i might be but im not sure .. like whatsz a sign of it ?? cuz like .. id have no problem hookin up with a girl or like eatin her out or somethin like that .. idk why but i juss like think its not a big deal .. an could bi-sexual lead to like lesbian ? because seriously i dont have any problemsz with gaysz or lesbiansz but i jus dont wanna be one .. like bi-sexual ? eh aint that bad n i know i proly dont have control over it or not .. but can someone PLEASE HELP ME
i RATE G0OD !!
No, being bisexual does not mean that someday you will be a lesbian. Bisexual people like to have relationships with both men and women (NOT just have SEX with them..) and are real about it.
Now, if you think about it enough, you'll know the answer. Are you attracted to girls and boys? Would you have a relationship with a boy, but would also have a relationship with a girl?
Think about it. No one's rushing you. You have a lot to think about at your age, and sexuality is one of them. Oh - and there is NOTHING wrong with being bi. Why don't you 'wanna be one'? Is it becuase people you know around you don't agree with that? Is it because you're afraid to face it?
No one has control over their sexuality, and your sexuality can't be changed. You are who you are.
Whether you're bi or not, just realize that you're going through all kinds of changes right now. Do what you know is right, and please don't change what you KNOW is right just because others don't agree.
if you have other questions about this, drop a question in the inbox. no worries.
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I'm trying to learn how to play guitar, & I don't relly want to ahve to go get lessons, so I wanted to be self-taught, but I don't know any iste where I can learn how to play or know where to buy any books to learn how to play.
I don't know any chords or keys or anything, I am JUST starting so I'd need like the things what show you where to put your fingers & how to tune the guitar & stuff
so if anyone could show me a site that I could learn form or where to buy these books I would really appreiciate it!
& I was also wondering, should I buy an accoustic or a eliktic guitar? (I'm 14/M/TX)
thank you so much!
-Cameron
Just to add to the advice already given to you...
The most important thing you can do with learning any instrament is learning how to play using your ear. This means recognizing the sounds you're making - even if you can't read the music yet. The best tthing you can do before you even start lessons or diving into notes is learning how to remember where the sounds are when you use the guitar. Don't worry so much about where your hands are at first, and make up your own little songs. Eventually, you'll be making up more complicated ones on your own.
This is really the best thing in the world you could do.
To find out about tuning, there are good places on the web (search in google) that will tell you basic stuff such as what the strings on the guitar should be tuned to.
Acoustics can be more difficult (sometimes) at first than electric because you often need to press down harder - but are also a lot cheaper than electric most of the time, if you just get an acoustic with nylon(plastic-looking) strings often found as 'beginner' guitars. It's my suggestion that you go with acoustic first because you'll be able to practice anywhere, anytime - and also will get much better once you get the hang of it because you started out having to train your fingers with an acoustic, and also because if you find that guitar just isn't your thing, you haven't wasted as much money.
all the luck.
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i want to buy my new nephew a rolling stone tee shirt. but i've looked in some websites, they don't have it for new born babies of 0 to 3 months. doesn't anyone know in what web site i can find it? or go to?
I'm not sure about sites that have shirts for babies really. Maybe you could make one? Just buy a plain T shirt for the baby, and buy transfer printer paper and print out the logo from your computer (that you might be able to get from the internet) and iron on the transfer to the shirt.
(Well, just thought I'd give it a try helping, though I'm sorry if this is of no help to you.)
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Im going to Warped Tour and it'll be my first time going to a concert like this (my parents finally let me go!) Anyways, I was just wonder if you've been in a mosh pit before. Whats it like? And like what happends. Will I get hurt? Just like full detail and everything about! Thanks in advance!
Basically, it's a ton of people in one area who are just pushing eachother, somewhat violently. It's Warped Tour, so it's not going to be TOO heavy - and there shouldn't be anyone with knives in there at all.
Ronlina's Moshing tips:
Just push back.
Oh - and please wear sneakers or (laced up) boots. Boots are less likely to fall off, of course - but neither will your sneaker unless you get really crazy.
Watch for falling people.
- watch out for bigger people who are about to step on you.
If you decide to crowd surf, be careful about where you land.
Don't go near the center unless you want to get more rough. Pits are usually more rough toward the center and less so near the edge.
BEWARE the people who think it's cool to punch and kick in 'circle pits'. I think these are lame, myself. It
s a bunch of guys in a circle who kick and punch and 'karate chop' eachother - its been catching on with kids around where I live, and it's really lame. Do not be like these kids.
Oh - and some pits will have skanking, if there's any ska at Warped Tour(I'm not sure about the bands, although I know there's some punk). Skanking is awesome. It's not violent, just awesome.
And if there's anything important in your pockets, put it in a pocket that's really safe or else don't bring it. Only bring the essentials.
So hey, have fun.
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I know this sounds stupid, but can you grow from drinking milk every day? Will it assist in your growing period while you are a teen? I'm medium heightwise, and I heard that milk can help.
Contrary to what many people believe, Milk that you buy in a supermarket is not good for you. Milk farmers inject their cows with hormones to make the cows bear more milk- but these hormones are not really good for growing teens. Also, the protien in milk takes out calcium from bones - and inserts less calcuim back into the bones. It's an interesting myth that milk helps bones grow, long term.
What's better is to eat plenty of green, leafy vegetables - such as kale, spinich, broccolli, lettuce, etc. They have lots of calcuim and none of the bad stuff.
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what are some good fruits to eat to get healthy and lose wieght ?
All fruits are good to eat - but don't forget about your vegtables, too. Cutting down on fatty and processed and hormone filled foods such as meat will do wonders for your health, too.
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Ok, i'm 15 years old and i've had my period for about two years. It's VERY irregular. I'll skip two months and then get it, and crazy stuff like that. It's never the same time of the month either.. not that i can really remember since there is so much time between periods. I'm 5'6 and i weigh 105. I'm skinny and some websites say im underweight and to go to a doctor. I eat though! I just have a fast metabolism and exercise. Do you think it's because of my weight? Does that sound unhealthy? Why is my period SO irregular STILL after two years? haha thanks.
I've had a very irregular period my whole life - this is usually natural. If you feel it's a problem, going to your doctor to check it out is a good idea. That shouldn't have much to do with your weight
Now, your diet is a different story. While it may not be causing irregular periods, changing your diet may help a little. You do seem to be on the underweight side, but if you eat full meals and get a good dose of veggies, fruits and lots of grains, you're healthy, so don't worry about it. My brother does take protien shakes for his fast metabolism, but really it only effects muscle mass coupled with exercise (which will make you weight more) - but if you feel healthy, most likely you are healthy, and don't have to change a thing just because society tells you to.
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well i went to a concer like 2 days ago and i was in the mosh pit and i got thrown on stage...
i stood up and the band had stopped playing and everyone was staring at me...i feld so embarassed. but then i saw my bf in the front row and i started singing the song that they were playing... so they started playing the song again and i was up their the whole show..
the band called me the next day and asked me and my band to come with them on tour... my band is called the audio switch.
should i go on tour with them and miss the whole summer hangin wid my friends or play punk rock music with mental riot on tour?!?!?!
help!!!!
they both sound so awesome but bieng on tour with metal riot is a chance of a lifetime..
Woah, seriously? You've just completely loved out my lifelong fantasy. That's so utterly unfair. Are you crazy? This is a no-brainer. Feck the summer! Go play with the band, and tell me if you'll be in the New England Area of the states (that is, if you're from the states) so I can check you out.
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Hey i'm Leah and i'm 16/F. Okay, so me and my ex were together or almost 2 years we broke up like 6 months ago. We haven't talked for at least 5 months and we had a really love/hate relationship, but we were like eachothers best friend. I still LOVE him soo much and i've tried calling him but he wont talk and were not aloud to talk to each..his parents hate me and mine hate him were not aloud to be around eachother..What should i do? Should I just let go..?
I know where you're comeing from in a way. My boyfriend and I were together for two years before we broke up, and I'm still very attached to him, still think of him, still miss him. But - the best way to try and get over someone is to not contact him. He stopped calling and talking to me, and although it still hurts and is hard to move on, it's really probably what's best for both of us. Try to get out a lot, keep yourself busy, and get your mind off of him. With enough time, you'll be able to move on.
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my really good friend is moving june 22, and i want to do something special. im not sure i can have a party so...does anyone have any ideas? even if you have an idea for making something would be helpful.
Put together a hand-made scrapbook of different photos of you, her, and her other friends. A friend of mine did this for buds of ours who were moving out of state, and they really appreciated it. If you have other things (old drawings, notes, or general silly objects that hold memories) that you can add, that'd be great too.
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Okay so I'm thirteen years old and I just got my period yesterday. I was at a pool party that day and my friends gave me a tampon, instructions, and locked me in a bathroom trying to get me to put the damn thing in. It was ''regular'' size (Tampex with the yellow code or w/e) and it hurt soooooooooooooooo much! I had the tip in and then after that it hurt soo much, it wouldn't go in. I just bought Playtex ''Lites Junior'' or something and I'm too afraid to put it in. Help!
Tampons are a lot to get used to. I didn't even use them at all the first year I had my period.
But, it's not something that's impossible to do. Here's something you can do to get used to tampons a little easier.
Plan a time during a heavier day of your period (or in the middle - not on a very light day). Get out a tampon - it may be a smaller size if you feel more comfortable with that.
Noq squat, or sit on the toilet seatin a way that you can still reach yourself. take a deep breath, and try to relax. If you want, instead of squatting/sitting you can put one leg up on the bathtub, but I find sitting more comfortable.
Take that deep breath, and pull aside the opening to your vagina. slowly let the tampon slide in, and if it doesn't seem to want to go, don;t force it or get stressed out. Just slowly keep pushing, and relax.
After a few tries, it'll be easier to do. You'll get the hang of it and won't be nervous anymore - and you'll have a lot more fun at pool parties.
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