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boyfriend of tow years dumped me
my boyfriend of two years dumped me he sayed he does not know what he wants anymore. but recently he told me that he does love me but is not in love with me. i love him so much and am having a hard time getting over him help? But he on the other hand is partying and having a good time he says that he is hurting to, then why isnt he showing it? He just left to go back out of town and called to tell me he wanted to tell me bye and talk befor he left. but when we talked all he sayed was that he would call me when his plane landed. but flight was cancelled so we did not talk. another question he always acts mean toward me when we talk. help i love him and dont know how to get over him? i am 18 he is 22.
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I know it's hard to hear and deal with. I've dealt with the same feelings and confusion, and it's hard when you feel like a relationship had been going great and then, all of a sudden it seems, the other person feels it's time to break it off.
The first thing to do is, just let yourself take it in. Need to cry? Then cry. Cry all you need to, if you have a close friend to support you, ask if they'll lend a shoulder. It's ok to be upset.
When you're not crying, though, think about the relationship. You say he was being cruel to you when you talked to him. Seems to me he was trying to push you away so you wouldn't like him so much anymore, making the breakup easier on him. Maybe he realised that he doesn't like you as much as he once thought, and instead of being honest and forward with you from the start, he waited until the relationship got too deep to simply turn back.
Well, think about it. Why would you need to be with somebody who obviously doesn't appreciate you? You don't. You can get over this, and you will. Let yourself grieve, but don't forget to start to get out, too. Go out with friends, especially in groups, and let yourself remember what it is to be single again. Do things that you'll have fun with. I know at first everything will remind you of him, but I promse that will pass, and soon enough you really won't feel that pain anymore.
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