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Bieng BI
ok so here is the deal everyone knows i am Bisexual like everyone at my school knows. and i knew i was gunna get crap from people. But it has gone to far people are startin to make fun of me like way more and it gets more intense everyday. Not to mention people make fun of me because i watch wierd movies like "Hook" or "Aladdin" I mean sure i am male. but still why does it give people the right to say mean stuff i am also colored and people are being racial talking to adults doesn't help very much. what can they do. and i am out of ideas ignoring them doesn't help.
I know that being Bisexual is bad and i am trying to be straight and i am gettin close to just likeing females. and it seems that god isn't here for me i pray everynight hoping for a better life. and for god to send somone to know who i am. al i need is a friend. my dad lives in switzerland. and i never get to see him only in the summer. and it feels like my life is going down hill. my dog died we had to put him down. that still gives me tears. and all my friends seem to be going against me. because of rumors going around that i am dishonest. and what not i only have 2 friends. and i just don't know what to do it seems like i have run out of options.
can you help me like to find someway to get noy only my mind off but at least pray for me.
thnx a bunch
Monn
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I know this is a late response, but I just came across this and had to answer.
Being Bisexual is NOT bad. You are who you are - and the ignorance and stupidity of others is NOT a reason to hide that. Bisexual men get the worst of teases in some areas - is there a GSA (gay-straight-aliance) in your area? Search online for glbt(gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered) events, clubs, activities, etc, in your area. Please don't give up. You ARE being dishonest if you are hiding from yourself. Hiding from that will only mean you are cutting out a hige part of who you are and potential happiness with someone you haven't met yet - all because the jerks at school have been taught to be homophobic.
Also, believe it or not, there are a lot of glbt kidswho are very religious - and know that God doesn't make people gay and then damn them to hell. One of these churches is the UU church. (Universalist, Unitarian). Try checking that out here ([Link](Mouse over link to see full location)) - you can find out if there is one near you.
Being bisexual is not a choice, it's who you are. The kids at school are not god, and do not know god if they believe they can judge you.
I hope that your life has improved with this since your post, and if you ever need any help with this at all, please feel free to email me or drop aquestion in my inbox. You're not alone with these problems, I promise.
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Howdy Monn,
I will start by saying this: Hook is an excellent movie. Robin williams was incredible in Aladdin. Have you considered that you just might be a Robin Williams fan? There isn't the slightest thing wrong with a man liking either of those. The whole men like only these things, and none of those idea is probably largely responsible for the problem.
Try out for the football team... Then tell them you like showtunes, suddenly you'll find yourself a male cheerleader instead of a star fullback. It is not fair, and it is not of God. What people at school have to say is irrelevant in the long run. What God has to say is important always.
I don't, even once, remember something in the Bible that would preclude singing Oklahoma in the shower.
Our society persecutes innocence. "If you aren't interested in girls at 14, you are queer!" Pardon me, but that is not true.
How much better off would we be socially, if only people who were ready for sex had sex?
Think about it. Better yet, read this board everyday and wonder why it isn't called www.sluts-by-13.com!
The happiest people I know are NOT the ones having the most sex. Generally the most miserable heartbroken wrecks are the most "experienced."
If you believe in Christ as your Lord and saviour, you will always feel as you do now, until you make a change. Your concscience is a wonderful thing in that it lets you know when you are in need of changing things in your life.
I can tell you one thing for sure: there are different kinds of prayer. If you are sincere about this, when any temptation strikes you, get on your face before God and ask for help.
It doesn't matter if it is a piece of cake when you are dieting or a lust that you know in your heart is wrong... When you are face down on the floor praying, everything else goes away.
Try it and see.
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... if I can do anything else for you: dangernerd@gmail.com
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P.S. No matter what: There is no cause to give up. You know the answer, you will win eventually.
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babe, being bi sexual isnt bad. i absolutly HATE people who go against homosexuality. no im not gay but i absolutly LOVE gay guys. they are amazing. and im so so glad that you found yourself and that you know your bi sexual. dont change for anyone. you said you were trying to become strait but if thats you then do not change for anyone. those people who make fun of you are stupid insecure people who have to pic on you cause your stronger. you might not think your stronger but for finding yourself and letting everyone know your bi sexual is stronger then probibly any of those people combined. i really dont know what you can do to stop people from making fun of you. just brush it off cause what ever they say does not matter what so ever. and dont change like i said. if thats you and your bi sexual then thats how god planned your life to be. i will pray for you to have people stop being such idiots to you but i wont pray for you yourself to change because no one should change for anyone. good luck hun..
michelle♥
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I don't know what your religous views are, but being bisexual isn't bad, not in my eyes. Those kids have no right to make fun of you. You have done nothing wrong, those kids are being ignorant and immature. You should never have to apologize for who you are, as long as you feel comfortable with it and thats who you truly are. All those friends who left you because of the rumors aren't very good friends or they aren't friends at all, more so the latter of the two. You shouldn't have to put up with that.
I don't know the situation with your dad living in Switzerland, but if you really want to talk to him, I suggest that you buy a phone card or somehtign and call him up, it may not be the same, but its a start, at least you'll be talking to him. As for finding new friends...try searching for gay, bi, and lesbian communities in your area. That way, you'll be around people like you and you don't have to worry about any slurs being yelled at you for being who you are.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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You say you pray every night for a better life. From what you described, it sounds like God is answering your prayer. A better life in God's eyes means drawing you closer to Himself. It means bringing you to a place where you are ready to turn from the things that keep you separated from Him. He desires for you to know Him and you can if you will turn to His son Jesus. Only through Jesus can any person not be separated from God anymore. You say "I have run out of options". Jesus is what will make your life purposeful. He is an "option" that will never let you down. Jesus died on the cross to free you from your sins. You may feel alone, but you're not. Jesus is "a friend that sticks closer than a brother", the bible says. Tonight as you pray, ask Jesus to take hold of your life completely and give you peace.
I will be in prayer for you.
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Being bisexual ISN'T bad, no matter what people tell you. Thats the way you are, and you should accept it. But also remember, that bisexual means you like males AND females, so if it really bothers you, stay away from dating the males you have crushes on, and wait until that special girl comes along. If you are fully gay, meaning that you only like guys, then people will just have to learn to accept you. I know its hard, but life gets tough like this sometimes, and you sound like the kind of person that will be able to pull through this. I'm praying for you, and good luck. Hope I helped.
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Being bi isnt bad. Just tell them to shut up because its not like being bi is a disease people can catch!
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Dont worry hun theres nothing wrong with being bysexual i usto go to this camp and they were all bysexual i mean yess it did scear me but it whats in the inside it not if you like girl or boys or both !
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Hey, first of all being bi is not bad. You can't help the way you feel. The best thing for you to do is to stick with your friends when you are around the people who are being mean. Ask them for support and because they are your friends they will be there for you. The reason these people are being mean to you is because they see you as an easy target and you are probably not the first person to be teased by them. Next time they say something, just laugh and say something like 'come on guys, have you got nothing else to talk about yet?' I know it's difficult to ignore them but if you react angrily then they will see that they've won and continue. Some people tease because they are unsure themselves of their true feelings. You are far better than the people who are teasing you and it is also a known fact that bullies are the people who are actually the most unhappy. I hope I have helped a little
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ugh. people suck. i have so many friends that are bi, and i have alot more friends that are bi, and are against bi people. i dont think being bi is wrong at all, im not bi but ive done things with people of the same sex lol. the people who are actually your real friends you need to be real happy about that because it shows that throughout it all those are the peopel that matter to you, not the ones who are trying to make your life a livign hell. there was a rumor going around my school that i was a lesbian so i know how you feel (somewhat), and you shouldnt try to make yourself like straight. If God made you Bisexual, then so-be-it. I get really pissed when people say shit about people who arent straight, i mean seriosly...theyre just bi...ugh..its just another characteristic bout that person. its like hating someone with brown hair or making fun of someone wearing shoes with uhh pink shoelaces=), but really being bi isnt uncommon, theres more bi people than you think. i didnt know one of my really good friends was bi until at least a couple months of knowing her, i really wouldnt have known. most of teh bi people i know are proud about it. just like being proud about what heritage you are, you should be proud of who you are and how you are. i know it seems hard, but teh teasing might go on for a while, but eventually it will be old news..and im sorry about your dog, too. feel free to im me, too.
<3, me
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