Member Since: December 30, 2004
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ok my dad and my mom are divorced and its alwayzZzZ hard havin divorced parents....... expecially when the dad has a girlfriend..... and you know my dad always focusing on her and not much on my sis and me he gives her liek everything in da world and wastes a lot of money on her!!! like i love my dads gf but i just wish hed look at me for a second ya know......liek he thinks im this lil perfect angel and im not and he'd know that if he knew me!!!! what do i do!!!! (link)
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Think of a reason you and your Dad can be alone. Invite him to something that just the two of you could do. Then tell him exactly what you wrote. Writing him a letter might do it too but be sure you do not critize the girlfriend because he would defend her. Just say that you understand he cares for her and you are happy he has someone in his life but....... Do not mention the money either, if he is smart he will figure that out after you fix your relationship. If you think your Mom would help, have her read the letter before sending it to make sure it is the right tone. You need to come from a loving child place, and not an angry one where you are putting down the girlfriend and him. It should sound something like,
"Dad,
I hope you won't be angry after you read this letter but I'm writing it because I love you and right now I feel you are not paying enough attention to me. I miss you a lot. I know you have a life and you now have someone you love and that loves you too, and that it takes time and effort to build a relationship with her. But, Dad, I stil need you as a father and friend. Could we please go out for a soda or dinner, just the two of us, and talk about this? I really want to figure out how I can spend more time with you. It won't be long before I'll be grown up and I don't want us to be like some divorced families that fall all apart when there are not visitation papers signed anymore. I am really hurting over this, and I hope you will talk to me because I do love you and miss you."
Feel free to use all or a part of it. But you should put it in your own words.
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i have hair down there. and me and my bf are ready for sex. he knows i have it down there but should i shave it??? (link)
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No. You should not be having sex at all. I can tell you are too young if this is bothering you. A matrue person would not be concerned with this. Please do not do it but if you are going to do it, go to Planned Parenthood and make sure you are protected. And you can ask them your question too. They will not tell anyone. But it would be better if you did not have sex right now. Wait, please, in later years you will be happy you waited.
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my family and i have a major probleam.... we get into arguments a lot!!!! i think it happenes almost everyday!! and i get pissed by my family so does anybody know how to not have an argument and juss talk??? (link)
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Go to the library and find the book "Dance of Anger". It will give you excellent advice on how to avoid them. Remember, it takes 2 or more to argue. If you are not a part of it, you can't argue. Walk away and go to your room after saying, "I want to fix this but not by arguing. When you are ready to talk to me calmly, let me know." Then stick to it. Don't let anyone harass you into a fight. Refuse to argue and eventually they will stop trying and finally talk to you.
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Okay, So i wanna get a flat tummy for summer, I know that lot of people ask this question as in "whats the best way to get a flat tummy" I know crunches are good and the sweet 16 thing, but, could you guys give me an estimate as to how long it will take, how many i have to do a night and how long it will take till i get a flat tummy, my stomach isnt fat, its just got a lil extra chub, OH and how do you get rid of love handles?!?! (link)
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Search online for the exercises that will help you. And do not do them every day. It has been proven you will get better and quicker results if you do them every other day. So have 2 routines. Do part of your body one day, the rest the next. It gives the areas a chance to rest and take advantage of the exercises. This really works too. Crunches have always been the most effective for your stomach. Love handles are the hardest to get rid of but if you are only a little chubby, try doing some toning exercises to see if they help.
Good luck! I am sure you will be a knock out this summer!
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Me and this guy are really close. And he did stupid crap in the past but says he doesn't do them anymore. He's at a party tonight and i can't help but fear he's gonna go back on all that he promised me. We are just friends so should I be this worried? And if he does stuff, should I care? He's only my friend. Not like he's cheating on me. But yet i sit hear trembling he's doing exactly what he said he wouldnt... (link)
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Sounds like you don't trust him because he has betrayed your trust in the past. There is nothing you can do if he does the same things again except protect yourself. If he was involved in drugs or other criminal activity, I would hope you would not get in a car with him. If he is stopped and drugs found, you will go to jail with him. Same thing on other criminal activity. Distance yourself from him until he proves himself. Don't drive in a car anywhere with him, talk on the phone, or at your house, don't allow him to talk you into anything that goes against what you know is right. If he is straight, these new rules won't bother him and he wil understand. If he gets upset and starts a scene, he is probably trying to hide something and then you should end the friendship to protect yourself.
Too many so called friends have sent their friends to jail for having drugs in the same car with them, or involving them in criminal activities without telling them what is going on. I know of one 16 year old girl who was sent to juvenile for 5 years because her "friend" asked her to wait in the car while he ran into the 7-11 - only problem, he was robbing it. She was charged too because the police did not believe she wasn't part of the plan. You can not be too careful today.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for just under two years. We've had our problems and worked through them - we started dating when we were still in high school. (I'm about to turn 18, he's about to turn twenty.) We've always been friends and supported each other, knowing that high school relationships don't tend to last very long. Things have been good lately in the sense that we get along, we spend time with one another and care about eachother very much - but lately I've been bothered about where our relationship is going.
We do not and never have said the words "I Love You", and we both used to agree that too many people misuse those words, causing more problems. He has a bad past when it comes to "love" and relationships, but we've been together for two years. I don't expect him to love me necessarily, or to tell me he does when he isn't ready - but I sometimes doubt his feelings for me relationship -wise. We haven't been talking the same way we had been lately, and I tried talking to him about this and he just stayed silent, (his way of blocking out my questions.) The silence is getting to me. I've even tried asking him flat-out, "how do you feel about me?". He seems to think I shouldn't ask him, and won't tell me why he feels like he shouldn't answer. It's starting to make me feel like we've just hit the end, but we're so connected when it comes to being around eachother, we've been friends and more than friends for so long. In short, his actions are there most of the time, but the words are not. I sometimes feel as if after all this time, I've been with a stranger. We don't have 'fun' as much anymore, and he often seems completely enthralled with his thoughts and less enthusiastic about life in general when around me.
I really would like to be in a relationship where we can say "I love you" after being together for so long - or at least be able to be verbally affectionate. - But I don't want to force him or make him feel like he's being forced. I want him to be happy, too, but I sometimes feel I'm not getting the attention I deserve. Am I being over-insecure? Thanks for anyone willing to read this long thing, and help.
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Sounds like you need to reevaluate this realationship. It should be serving both of your needs and if it is not, then you must be able to talk about it and have a partner that is willing to do what you need to be happy. This might not be that relationship or it just might be ending under it's own weight of time. Not every relationship is meant to be a lifelong commitment. It is hard to recognize this and move on but to me, and from what you said about him, I can't help but feel he is taking you for granted and the both of you just might be caught up in being habits to one another and are not really lovers any longer. The habit of being with someone can mask a lot of problems for a long time. These problems may be rising to the surface now. If he will not go to couples counseling with you, go by yourself. You need help to figure this one out and if it is salvagable, then counseling will help you in that or in breaking it off.
Just because you have a long term relationship,doesn't mean you will have a happy marriage. I speak from experience. I married from a habit of being together and spent the next 16 years being miserable. Go for counseling and get the help you need to figure this one out.
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I have this friend in the 8th grade im in 7th and shes an only child and she thinks shes soo hot but shes dont wanna be rude but really ugly....she has this crush who has a boyfriend now and she thinks he likes her but he doesnt and shes just ugly im sorry but i cant help it I need help and shes always braging about her looks and clothes and voice and stuff.
friend dinial (link)
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Honey, I am not sure what you are asking. If you are upset because your friend thinks she is prettier than you believe she is, well, everyone is entitled to their own opinon. If you are asking if you need help because this is bothering you so much, please talk to your Mom or a trusted teacher. They can help you sort out your feelings. Unless your friend is doing something to hurt you directly; there is not much you can do about her except stay away from her as much as possible.
I suggest you be the bigger person and do not hang around her. That way you will not get upset.
The next time you write, you might want to proofread it. I was not sure what you were saying because you ran everything together. Try talking about one thought and then making a new paragraph for the next thought.
I hope you are feeling better.
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im designing a sweatshirt and i love horses and it is gonna have a horse saying on it.. any ideas... it needs to be kinda short
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"Ride 'em hard and put 'em away wet!"
That's an old horse saying meaning that the horse was ridden until he sweated foam, and put back in the stable without cleaning him. It also means someone who has finished a hard job and not showered. It also is derogatory in that someone saying that about, let's say a woman, is implying she is nasty. So I would consider not using it, and finding a book on horses to look through for something to put on the tee.
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What are the signs that let you know that you ARE ready to have sex for the first time? (link)
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You are an adult, with a job, living on your own, and you have known the person for a long time. You have both talked about the responsibilities of having a sexual relationship and what you will do if a pregnancy occurrs. You know who will be responsible for birth control. You know your parents would not have a heart attack if they find out. You feel loved by the person and love them as well. You are may not be planning a marriage, but you are planning a very long relationship and believe that if someday you do break up and do not see one another for 20 years and then meet one day, you will feel joy at the meeting and not regret. You do not feel pressured to have sex and if you are being pressured the person is not the right one for your first experience. You will be able to pay for the hospital bills if a baby is the results, and have the money to raise a child. You both have been truthful about former relationships and the possibility of transmitting diseases to one another. You do not feel guilty about considering having sex, and you are not sneaking around trying to find a place where you will not be discovered because you are living on your own and have your own place. You are independent of your parents, live away from home, have finished school, have a good job, and have talked about all the consequences with our partner. You do not dread the idea but look forward to it.
If you can say all this - then go for it. If not, wait until you can. There are enough babies with teen parents; more is not needed. Besides, this is the time for fun, not to worry about getting pregnant or hiding things. Take it from the voice of experience, it is better when you are grown up and independent. You are more relaxed and ready to handle it.
PrincessPhoebe
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Is is normal for the average teenager (only child) to cry at least once a day when she's by herself in her room. And being an only child has a big issue. I came to realize that I cry everyday. Sometimes more than once. I do it in private though because I don't want people to see me. I guess my biggest reason is my parents, and the fact that I'm sick of being the center of their lives...I've gotten to the point where I feel a lot of pain in me, but I can't take it out on anyone but myself. It all seems really stupid, because it all comes from my parents. They don't beat me, and they're not necessarily "overprotective" or anything, I just hate being the only one they have to worry about... I've gotten to the point where I don't know what to do. I can't even tell them I want to seek professional help, which is what I really want--thats how distant I feel. I don't know what to do.... (link)
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Honey, you do need to talk to someone. It sounds like you have reached the limit of your capacity to be your parents world. Talk to a trusted teacher, pastor, clergy person, uncle, aunt, or friend - any adult you trust and like - and ask them to help you talk to your parents about getting professional help. There are some free programs for teens your school might know about, and some churches and synagogues have free counseling if your parents cannot afford it or do not have insurance.
One thing that can help now is to start a journal. By writing down what you feel, you will help to release those feelings somewhat. And it will help you organize your thoughts about it all. While you are finding someone to talk to, try some relaxing techniques. Lie down on your bed in a comfy position, find one thing to focus on (a candle, picture, book), and start taking long, slow, even breaths. As you breathe in say to yourself "In comes peace and tranquilty", as you breathe out say, "Out goes despair and sorrow" Another technique is to do get in the same position, close your eyes, and start relaxing your muscles starting with your toes. Picture yourself floating in the sky or on a peaceful lake. As you float ou hold a rock on your chest, as you take your slow even breathes, you break off a little piece of the rock and throw it away. The rock is the despair and sorrow you feel, and as you throw bits of the rock away, you release those emotions. A counselor taught me these techniques and as weird as they sound if you will do them every day for a month, you will find you feel better. They will at least help you get some relaxation.
Also, find a book or search online for meditation techniques. Meditation is wonderful. It will help so much. After you meditate for 5 minutes or longer, you feel so much better.
You have a lot on your shoulders if you are crying every day. Just remember that this will pass. You will grow up, leave home, and start your own family - your parents will probably spoil your children rotten but grandchildren will alleviate your burden considerably. Maybe you could talk your parents into being foster parents to a small child who requires a lot of attention? You will get through this, and you will be able to stop crying.
Remember you are loved and there are many people wishing you all the best.
PrincessPhoebe
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Hey every1,
I'm here to talk about my friend, Emma. We were eating lunch today and she started talking to me on how she thinks she's starting to loose her memory. She's 15 years old, and I know you loose your memory of old age and stuff...but she's 15 YRS OLD! Emma was telling me how she see's a friend of her's, but everytime she see's her friend, Emma can't remember her name. And Emma was telling me that it's not just that one girl...there's more ppl that she can't remember their names. Also she was telling me how she forgets what she did in the past week. She kinda remembers but it's hard for her to remember. Like she can remember what she did in 3 days ago, but a whole week she can't really remember. I asked Emma if she remembered what she did 2 weeks ago, and she couldn't remember. Is she really loosing her memory? Should we be worried? Is it really worth going to the doctor? Please answer me because I have NOO clue.
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Has Emma suffered a trauma lately? Or a serious illness? If not, this might be a sign something is going on and she should go to her parents, tell them about it, and ask to see a doctor. If nothing else, she will alleviate her worry about it.
As young as you both are, I don't think it is serious but when something bothers you that much it is better to check it out. Just the stress of worrying can damage your health. If it does turn out to be serious, she will be catching it early and that is very, very important. Don't let her put off seeing a doctor. Besides, at your ages, you should start yearly physicals and start learning how to care for yourselves - what to watch for and what to do if you do get sick. It won't be that long before you are on your own.
Take care and good luck,
PrincessPhoebe
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I have an oral presentation to give on monday (it's powerpoint) and i'm terrified... like this is one of my biggest fears ever. Whenever i go to give a speech or something my voice starts really quivering and shaking and it sounds like i'm crying. Is there any way to stop this from happening? also... any other advice on giving speeches would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!!! (link)
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Practice in front of your family and friends. I had the same voice problem and found an over the counter herbal stress reliever helped take the edge off the nerves.
Until you do this enough to get use to it, it will bother you. Try to give presentations as much as possible; I can now get up in front of thousands and it doesn't bother me at all. But when I first started, I was a basket case.
Good Luck - and remember - after it is all over, no one will even remember in a year, so don't sweat it.
PrincessPhoebe
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about a month ago..my neck was very itchy..so i started 2 scratch it..nd it got 2 a lil scab..nd i would always peel off the dry skin..and now its like really big!..and dark nd wont go away..i keep puttin my clearasil ultra 3 day acne treatment..and well iono..i juss kant stop peeling tha scab and it just gets worse! any advice? (link)
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Get thee to a physician where tests can be run - you could be incubating an alien life form! If you keep peeling the scab, the poor little bugger won't be able to mature enough to burst through your skin and take over the world.
Seriously, go to the doctor. Sounds like you have a patch of eczema or have irritated the area to infection. He'll be able to give you something to clear it up.
PrincessPhoebe
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