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my family and i have a major probleam.... we get into arguments a lot!!!! i think it happenes almost everyday!! and i get pissed by my family so does anybody know how to not have an argument and juss talk???
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Go to the library and find the book "Dance of Anger". It will give you excellent advice on how to avoid them. Remember, it takes 2 or more to argue. If you are not a part of it, you can't argue. Walk away and go to your room after saying, "I want to fix this but not by arguing. When you are ready to talk to me calmly, let me know." Then stick to it. Don't let anyone harass you into a fight. Refuse to argue and eventually they will stop trying and finally talk to you.
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whoa ya need to chill first then try to settle it by talking to your parents if your comfortable with that (which i dont think alot of people are) you can also try to avoid any triggers for an arguement too. for instance, i lock myself in my room and play loud music or just watch tv and play games alone so no one bothers me and theres no one to start a fight with.i think it would be best to atleast try to talk to ur parents but up to u*hope i helped*ara*
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Play a board game one night out of everyweek. Take turns by letting one person pick what you eat for dinner, one for dessert, and one for the game. Present this idea to your family. You have no idea how just taking one simple night out of the week for your family could help. Also you might want to try a family counselor. If you just go to a local church you can go and get counseling for free, and that could help sort out some of the problems you guys have been having. ~*AmAnDa*~
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I would tell your mom that you want to talk to her without fighting with her. Sit down and tell her how u feel. it shuld work!
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one night during a quiet period when no one is fighting sit your family down and tell them that you want to discuss the problems that you have without yelling. it will take a lot of guts, but it is almost certainly going to work. hope i helped.
**SpAz**
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what do U and your family argue about? if it's something that's easy to solve ten try to be calm about it. Hope i helped. feedbacks please.
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Well, that's going to take some time. Everyone needs to agree to this and make an effort. Find whatever the main cause of the arguments are and try to solve that problem. For example: if your mom doesn't like the people you hang out with because she thinks that they are a "bad influence" for you, see if you can bring them over your house so she'll be more secure with them being your friends. Try to consider your families side too. If you ask them to be more open minded and attempt to negotiate with you. Not everyone is going to agree with what you say, so instead of yelling or fighting just walk away and find something to do. Or explain why you think this is right for you. It will take some work, but hopefully this helps a little bit. :) Good luck sweetie!
Love,
Mandee
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