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Well, I used to go out with a boy, and he was like my first kiss and everything. And I still love him and its been 8 months. But, he has a girlfriend right now. I know he would go out with me if I asked him, but I dont want to break them up. But, I think I really do love him and he means the world to me. We broke up because my friends were being really arrogant and kept telling me lies and false stories about him so I broke up with him. Do I brake them up? How do I get him back? Please help me you have no idea how much I miss him and would literally fo anything to be with him.
--me

If he likes you then it's not fair he's going out with this other girl. Talk to him about it. Tell him you still really love him, point out it's not fiar to the other girl if he still loves you, and I hope things work out! Hope I helped!

With love,
Amanda

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i have played basketball for 2 years now im pretty good but not the best well now i moved and i made alot of new friends i really wanna play basketball next year but they all keep saying no dont play only popular girls play ( im not a nerd or geek, im just also as my friends say not "popular" ) should i listen to my friends or should i just try out for the team

Try out! =] You shouldn't stay in just one clique in highschool! Every clique is greta for different reasons! You'll make great friends plus you love the sport! What could be better? Remember it's your life, not your friends. Of you listen to them and let them stop you from doing something you love, then you're letting them live your life! It's yours! Have fun! Do things! Live your life with no regrets darling! =] Hope I helped!

Much love,
Amanda

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ok well im 13 almost 14 and ive only had 2 boyfriends my whole life guys tell me i look hot although im 5'8" and all the guys at my school are shorter if they like me why wont they ask me out....?

They probably feel weird about the height. Don't worry about it too much though, because you will be in highschool soon and more guys will catch up to your height or be taller than you. =] Enjoy your beauty and height.. you won't be so tall soon! I swear! I have girls at my school who used to be that tall and we got to highschool and they don't look so tall anymore. You'll grow out of being taller than everyone! Hope I helped!

Much love,
Amanda

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hey guys well imma a well spoken person and well i hav a huge crush on this one guy ~n~ like well when i am around him i get really shy and i have butterflys in my stomache and when i am about to say something i have nothin to say....how do i stop bein shy around him?? and how can i make those butterflys stop holdin me back??
-penguin

Take a deep breathe dear. Even though he seems so great and perfect remember: he still has flaws just like you! Enjoy the butterflies! They're fun while they last and shows that you like him! =] About having nothing to say ask him how his day was, share a funny story, talk about where you are or what you're doing! =] Don't worry he doesn't think you're dumb! He probably feels shy. Whenever you feel shy remember the other persons human too and has just as many flaws and awkward moments as you! No ones perfect and everyo one always feels weird so don't sweat it! =] Hope I helped!

Much love,
Amanda

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14/f. sorry if this is realllyy long lol, ill try to keep it short.

ok so first off. i'm REALLY shy. like in school, everyone [well not everyone but some people who are really immature] tease me about "never talking" and this really pisses me off because just because i'm shy, quiet and well-behaved in school doesn't mean i never talk. infact at home and with my friends i'm so loud and talkative that they can't shut me up. =D but being shy is a huge problem for me that i can't overcome. anyone that i'm not really close to, i can hardly speak to. yeah if they say something to me i'll answer, but it's not like i'll go out of my way to ask them a question. and in school its the same way. so i'm gonna be a freshman. and like high school=new people. how can i overcome my shyness and open up to them so i can get more friends? because as of right now i have 2 best friends who i've know forever and i can totally be my true self around them, love em to death and can tell them anything. i also have a few other friends, not as close but i can still talk/hang out with them. i dont consider myself popular, even tho i think the cliques and everything are really stupid. this leads me into the second part of my question lol...

there's this boy i like. it'll be 2 years that i like him in july. he, unlike myself, is pretty popular. always flirting with other girls, hanging out with the guys, etc. now, this isnt one of those cases where the unpopular girl just like the popular guy because he's hot and everything and never talked to him before. i used to talk to him. he actually considered me his friend. he actually LIKED me. it all started in the summer before 7th grade.. when he actually wasnt as popular [this year he kinda changed and has been hanging out with a different group of people] anyway, he told me he liked me online and we talked. i started to like him, told him i did. in november of 7th grade, he asked me out [online and through my friend however]. and here's the turning point. i said NO. why ? well, he would've been my first real boyfriend, i'm really shy [as i said before].. you see, it was easy talking to him online, because it wasn't face to face. in school though, it was a whole different story

i dont know what happened. after i turned him down, we still talked for a while [which had to be really awkward for him] after a while though..he just lost interest in me i guess..and our conversations slowly got boring. and we didn't know what to talk about. and he hardly said anything. and i did most of the talking. it was the same in the summer before 8th grade. i became almost obsessive in a way. i was IMing him like everyday. and he would hardly say anything. then 8th grade started and i just said to myself "this isn't going anywhere" and i gave up. i seriously haven't talked to him online since like september or october.

but now, i'm going into highschool. and i really want to start talking to him again. do you think i have a chance left? i mean.. september was a long time ago. it would be really awkward iming him and i'd have no clue what to say. it would probably be like those days where he hardly say anything. "hey..hi..whats up..nm u..nothing..cool" and so on. that's what our convos were like. i dunno. would iming him again be a good idea? ughh there's like so much more to the story but it would prob. go on forever..what should i do? so sorry it was so longg!

I'm just going to say one thing dear... you are SO going to get over your shyness in Highschool! =] Believe me! I used to be as shy as they come and you will grow out of it so soon darling. =] Don't sweat it!

And about the boy... IM him again! But change your routine.. he probably felt dumb because he thought you liked him and he liked you a lot and then you turned him down! Explain to him that you liked him but you were sooo shy that you didn't want to feel wierd. He'll appreciate it hon! I swear! So just talk to him about that whole situation, and maybe mentin you like him again. I hope things work out! I hope I helped!

With love,
Amanda

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does anyone know the lyrics to circle circle dot dot by jamie kennedy?

i cant find them anywhere.
that song is the best/funniest.

Chorus)
Circle circle dot dot (uh huh)
I got my cootie shot, (uh huh)
You think that girl is hot? (uh huh)
I think I'd rather not. (uh huh) uh huh (okay) okay (okay)
I'll fuck her anyway.


{Jamie Kennedy}
Circle circle dot dot, (uh huh)
I got my cootie shot, (uh huh)
I think that booty's hot, (uh huh)
I'd give it booty song,
that booty's so i'll make it drop to the drop drop to the drop drop to the make it drop,
to the floor
lets get more,(a huh) Okay,
gimme some more.

[Stu Stone]
we getting drunk now, with the shot shot to the shot shot to the shot shot
We going chase these not double stamp it no erasies with the bap bap to the bap bap
here comes the bouncer dont get caught
kindly introduce me to the friends that you brought
uh huh (uh huh)ok (ok)
I'm having fun today


(Chorus 2x)

{Jamie Kennedy}
Yo circle circle dot dot
yo this shits workin' please dont stop
now kindly please remove your top and please dont sa y that your a cop
Show me yours Ill show you mine and we'll play doctor until nine
uh huh (uh huh)ok (ok)
girl you drivin me insaine

[Stu Stone]
Sane in the brain to the don't please to the menday
I spend should the spend spend to the plenty
we could do it hard we could do it gently
everyday i pretend-a caraventlae
if you want Stu skis you can rent me (rent me)
if you want to see the piece check the pant leg
uh huh (uh huh)ok (ok)
come on everybody say

(Chorus)
Circle circle dot dot (uh huh)
I got my cootie shot, (uh huh)
You think that girl is hot? (uh huh)
I think I'd rather not. (uh huh) uh huh (okay) okay (okay)
I'll fuck her anyway.
uh huh (uh huh) ok (ok) its time to hit the breaks

[Stu Stone]
shake that shit yoshake that shit
dont fake that shit dont break that shit
Shake that shit yo shake that shit
Shake that shit yo shake that shit..
uh huh (uh huh) ok (ok)uh huh (uh huh) ok (OKAY!)


Circle circle dot dot (a huh) I got my cootie shot, (a huh) You think that girl is hot? (a huh) I think I'd rather not. (a huh) a huh (okay) okay (okay) I'll fuck her anyway. Circle circle dot dot (a huh) I got my cootie shot, (a huh) You think that girl is hot? (a huh) I think I'd rather not. (a huh) a huh (okay) okay (okay) I'll fuck her anyway.

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last minute i decided to have a birthday party. everyone i love is getting together to go to this cool club sort of place. My friend, lets call her Orchid, and her boyfriend Tom (now ex) were invited. They broke up bitterly. I think Orchid blamed me, even though i had nothing to do with it. Orchid's friend Bee was also invited. The invite and RSVP was after the breakup. Tom said of course he'll come. Orchid said ok, and so did Bee over the phone. Tom and Orchids parents varified they could come. Bee convieniently said she was out right now and that her mother was working. Then that her mother was sleeping, all of which she said online. Bee kept saying that she was worried that Orchid and Tom would fight. I said that both had a choice to say no. She kept going on about how she doesnt want them to fight and stuff. I said it doesnt have to do with her. Bee was typing unusually slow, so I think she was either with Orchid and were thinking together of what to write or that she was copy/pasteing the whole conforsation.
Now the night before, when I went over orchids house for her to sign something about the party, she didnt let me in. she opened the door a half inch and didnt even smile at me. Bee was there as well, but seemed nicer. I called Orchid to ask her why she was acting "all weird" andgoing on, that if shes mad she doesnt have to come. She said it was just bad chinese food.

Then today rolled around. Finally my mom got fed up (because we need to know how many r definitely going for transportation reasons) and called Bee's mom. She was home, and awake unlike Bee said. Bee's mom said it was fine, that her daughter can go and that her daughter was out with a "friend"
Orchid hasnt called me. When I called her she said, "we can hang out tomorrow. tomorrows tomorrow so i'll call u then" Tomorrows here and she didnt call me. she said that shes worried that I will feel uncomfortable that herself and Tom wont be talking. I said i dont care, to just keep their mouths shut and enjoy the music. She was like "sure Tori (my now fake name) nothing will happen". she said 'sure' like she was writing me off or something. I cant explain it, but it just didnt sound right.
Orchid also said "for my party when Bee was mad at Lea (another one of my friends) I didn't invite lea cause I didnt want to start trouble." I said that their wont be any trouble to start.
My thoughts: i think Bee and Orchid are going to pull out the last second and r just looking at my party as a game. OR that they r using me to see the band and for the free entry ticket (my mom is paying for everyone to enter).

btw, another one of my friends... lets call him Rob, said no to the invite. I found out later that he, Orchid and Bee were pranking one of my friends all night. Now Rob decided that he wanted to go. I lied and said I couldnt get him a ticket because throughout this drama he has been mean to me. Orchid at one point screamed at me (over the boyfriend thing that was about 4 days ago) so loud i couldnt make out what she was saying. Bee called me bad names. I had nothing to do with Orchids and Toms breakup (as Tom knows) Orchid agreed this was a 'misunderstanding' but didnt sound sincere. I think Orchid just wants to blame someone so she decided to blame me.

Question: if orchid and bee do show up, i think they'll cause trouble and team off. I want to just uninvite them at this point, but I dont want to be mean. I dont know what to do. And believe me, I may have writen alot but I just skimmed the topping of the drama thats been going on for the past week.

i'm turning 15 and i'm a girl. i wrote alot so u can get a clear understanding of whats going on.

Dear "Tori",

You're 15 so I promise the drama will die down soon. =] (I'm almost 16 and I only have issues every once in awhile! =)

Here's my opinion: Rob, Orchid, and Bee are not your friends. You shouldn't hang around them. I'm not saying ignore them, but you shouldn't invite them to do things or make it a habit of talking to them. They sound like they like making peoples' lives miserable.. don't let them do that to yours.

As for the whole party issue uninvite them. Tell them that you don't like the way they treat you and that you wouldn't like them to come to your party. You have to say this nicely and with respect of course, and don't lie. Lying makes everything worse. But don't worry. You aren't being mean! You are just trying to keep your special day special! Nobody can blame you for that.

If you're scared at what Bee and Orchid are going to say, don't worry about it. You don't want them as your friends anyways, so what does their opnioin matter to you? It shouldn't. You are who you are! You're a great person so don't worry about them. They'll eventually grow up.

Sorry I know this is getting kind of long... BUT... don't worry hon... I know this is pretty hard stuff to do, but you need to be honest with yourself. Don't let people push you or your feelings around like that. You'll look back in ten years and you won't even care about those 2 girls anyways. Do what you feel is right, and take some chances for yourself girl. =]

By the way happy 15th Birthday! I hope your special day goes well, and remeber: Have fun! =]

With love,
Amanda

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Can you please tell me how old you were when you went on your first date, and the first time you made out??

I was 11 when I went on my first date, and I was 13-14 when I first made out.

With love,
Amanda

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I'm really nervous that this weekend at the beach I will get my period. My mom hasn't got me tampons yet cause I haven't even had my period for half a year. I can't go in the ocean and stuff though. And I am really scared I will get it over the fourth of July at the beach when MY WHOLE FAMILY is there. I want to perticipate in stuff and not worry about my period. What can I do?

Hey hon,

Don't worry tampons are everywhere... =] as dumb as that sounds they really are. Many gas stations and restuarants even have tampon dispensers... =] so just bring some change for the little machine and calm down! You'll have a great time at the beach! =] And always remember if you still feel uncomfortable about the situation go to a friends house and ask for a tampon that you can carry along with you! =] This is vacation hon! So just have fun at the beach and keep smiling! Hope I helped!

With love,
Amanda

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Ugh I feel like a retard... i met this guy and we started talking on the phone and he was just so sweet so i started liking him... and it seemed that he liked me too... and today i was like im really starting to like u and guess what he didnt say anything, he doesnt like me i feel so stupid and i just want to cry... like i really like him and i feel like i was lead on. What did i do wrong?

Hon,

You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes things like this just don't work out, and that's not your fault. One of two things could've happened.

1. He likes you but didn't know how to tell you.

2. He didn't feel the same way, but appreciates your friendship too much to hurt your feelings.

Either way he still cares about you. For right now enjoy the friendship you have with him, and who knows. Maybe one day in the future everything will work out like your fairy tale. As for right now, relax.. don't worry. If he means that much to you, thenit's just great having him in your life. =]

Hope I helped.

With love,
Amanda

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There is this girl named Megan in my school.We've been friends 4 a while now. but, every once in a while, we start fighting. This is the second BIG fight we had this year! She says im annoyig and i follow her around! She tells me off and writes me mean notes, but if i say ANYTHING mean, seh'll show it 2 her friend Kaitln and they'll both be up in my face. Last night i wrote her an im and i started yelling @ her to leave me alone. She printed out the part where i yelled @ her, but left out all the swears and mean things she said about me. I'm only in the 7th grade, and i dnt want thins going on 4 the rest of my life! i have tons of friends, but they dnt want to get involved in these fights. What should i do? Should I tell her off, or jsut ignore her? BTW, she thinks she is so cool and popular adn she says she has really expensive clothes, but the'r really from old navy and khols. She lies A LOT, so i'll ahev to have proof of what she says. Thanx, i really need some help!

I think you should just let this "friendship" go. It obviously isn't going to work out, and your only in 7th grade! You shouldn't be dealing with this stuff. You have more friends? Hang out with them. Your time in 7th grade should be filled with happy memories. Good luck! ~*AmAnDa*~

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Okay, I went out with this guy in November, we didn't know eachother all too well, rushed into a physical relationship, and ended up breaking up in 2 weeks. We've both seen other people since then. Recently, we've hooked up and been talking more, now that we're both single. We've hooked up a few times recently and Im afraid that if i become emotionally attached to him again, he may not want to get back together. Question is, should I get back together with him if the subject comes up? Should I let him know that I may becoming emotionally attached to him again? Im 14/f he's 15/m

Well is it going to be another fling, or are you willing for a serious relationship? Think about it hun, your 14 right? So am I. Your only 14 once and at this age we're both so young. Are you ready for heartache at this age, or do you want to be happy and blissful? I honestly think that right now at this moment you should stay friends. Let your relationship wait awhile, and if a couple months, or maybe even a year, you feel the same way. Maybe you should try it. Good Luck! ~*AmAnda*~

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I really like this guy at my school. He showed signs of liking me, kinda, and I found out he has a girlfriend! I found out in his away message, and I know his girlfriend too. She's really nice, and she's 14. He's a year younger then her, and I'm younger then him. I don't know if this is about our age difference or what, but I started crying when I found out that she was his girlfriend. I don't know how I should deal with this, because I think I still like him. Any suggestions?

Ummm...wow. I know your pain. Crushes aren't easy things to deal with, but the best you can do is try and wait it out a little. Find a best friend who you can go and have fun with to take your mind off things. But chances are honey, their relationship won't last long. Give it time. Just let life run it's course on this thing. I'm very sorry. Good luck. ~*AmAnDa*

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Hi, I'm in 8th grade and about to graduate, I really like this boy and I wanted him to ask me to our last dance. Every time I'm around him I can never get the nerve to talk to him. What should I do?

Well think to yourself. Whats the worst that can happen? He'll say no right? Well won't you regret it if you don't at least try asking him? What if he does say yes? That would be totally exciting huh? I think you should take a few easy breaths walk up to him and ask him. You might regret it later if you dont. Good luck! ~*AmAnDa*~

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My teacher put us in groups and she put me with all ppl i basically hate! and i don't think we'll get anything accomplished cuz none of like each other! what should i do? thanks!

You are all gonna need to suck up your pride or explain to your teacher that you all have problems with the people in that group. Either that or don't expect a passing grade for this assignment. You can also try and start it and hope either your teacher notices no one is helping you or that someone will actually try and help too. Sorry about your sucky situation.
~*AmAndA*~

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What would be a quick way to lose a few pounds? I can't do anything outside because of all of the snow, and I'm not allowed to run for at least a week because I have a concusion. So what else can I do like inside?

If you just want to lose it for a little while go onto the Atkins diet. On that diet if you follow it you lose it fast, but once you start eating regular again you'll gain it all back. To put it off and keep it off eat well and try some exercise tapes or programs you'll stay with. Hope I helped a little. ~*AmAnDa*~

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hey just wanted tp say u give great adive

Thankyou very much! That means a lot to me! ~*AmAnDa*~

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Should You give Up on something if it makes u smile but... your friends dont like him very much...??

I don't think you should give up on him if he makes you smile. You know yourself better than anyone else so if it makes you happy stay with him, unless of course he is hurting you emotionally, your friends are probably concerned, but I think you should stick with him. Hope I helped! ~*AmAnDa*~

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14/f Hey well there is this one guy who i serioulsy really really really like...everyone knows I like him... even his friends most likely...well the problem is I have liked him for a really long time...and alot of ppl want me to get over him... but I dont know how... i tried looking at other guys but for some reason when i start to like another guy I suddenly stop and go back to likeing him...i have never gone out with him which really sucks cause i really want too... ok well we dont talk that much at school but we talk on the phone...ok usaully when i talk to him we talk for at least a half hour at least unless he has to go... well the other day i called him and i think he was being kinda rude...(i havent told anyone especially my best friends cause they dont really like him and if isay something that will just make me sad cause they will say good get over him and i dont wanna cry...cause that will make me cry...)ok back to where i was he said something that hecka made me sad...so i like hung up the phone and like started crying.... i wanna talk to him again but i cant tell him that he made me cry... cause i dont think he has realized how much i do really like him... also i know he doesnt like me cause i know who he does like and know that he wants to go out with her..(she has everything i want)ok so heres another thing i havent called him since then and yea its just been like 5 days and i dont know if i should even talk to him anymore on the phone cause he makes me hecka sad what should i do???

Well your situation sounds unbelievably familiar to me. :-/ It sounds like you like him very much, but it also sounds like he's a little bit of a jerk. If he matters this much to you pray, either that or talk to one of your best friends and tell them that right then is not the moment to be critical of him. Tell them you just need someone to listen and to console you, not beat up your crush. I also think that you should call him back. Just don't get your hopes up and don't give him the oppurtunity to hurt you again. It sometimes takes a little while (or sometimes forever) for some people to see the good things they have right in front of them. I hope I helped a little and good luck. Remember: Don't keep your feelings inside. They well up inside, and make your heart feel like a heavy weight instead of the cloud that it is. ~*AmAnDa*~

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I am 13, and I am going back out with my X Boyfriend, I'll call him Alex. Now, In our past Alex and I have went out two times. The first time we went out, everything was perfect. I thought I ment my true love. And he was in love with me, and I was in love with him. Then one night Alex and I went out to a hockey game. Amazing nigh, i had the best time ever. I thought nothing else could go wrong. After we both went home, I got on the computer and he said something mean to my best friend, Leah. And I asked him why he said that, and he started flipping out on me, saying that everything he does is wrong, he never does anything write. And he started cursing at me. Calling me things, then he said why don't you find somebody else thats better than me. And I told him, there is NOBODY that is better than you, I love you Alex. Then he said that again, took me out of his profile and put an away message up. He came back about 10 minutes later, and said he was so sorry he didn't mean anything he said. I was so mad, I didn't know what to do. I wanted to say I was sorry too, but i couldn't, I told him I don't want to take his crap anymore. And his only excuse was, ''I only had one girlfriend before, give me a break.'' And then I was so mad that he broke up with me, I went out with my other X-boyfriend Josh. (that same day). And Josh and I went to a football game the day after everything happened. And I really didn't like Josh, I just wanted to go out with somebody to make me happy, and try to get over Alex. And when I was going out with Josh, I was still loving Alex the whole time. Then at the football game, I couldn't take it anymore, I needed Alex, after seeing him there and everything, I couldn't help it but to remember everything that we had. So at the football game i broke up with Josh and went back out with Alex. We lasted about 2 weeks (at the most) and he broke up with me, because he said that he couldn't stop thinking about me going out with Josh. And then about two months after that happened, he went out with somebody else named Ali. And when they were going out, i was so mad. I couldn't help thinking about what we used to have the first time we went out. And while they were going out Alex and I started talking again, being close friends again. And I started loving him more and more every day. And one day he was so mad, and he wouldn't tell me why. He said ''I only need one thing to make me smile in this world''. And i was thinking about it all night, he wouldn't tell me what that one thing he needed to smile was. And I thought that it was me, the way he said it. Because then he said, ''Why do you want to know, you wont be able to give it to me anyways'' And then I told him that i still love him, and I need him so bad. A couple days after that, he told me that that one thing he needs was me. He said he never stopped liking me. I couldn't beleave it. And now were going back out again. For the third time. I acutally think this time is going to work, and he tells me he loves me soo much, and everything else like that. And I beleave him. And that's what he told me the first time we went out. And I wanna beleave him, but I keep thinking about what he told me the first time. And im scared he's going to get me to love him again more and more, then break up with me again. What do you think I should do? Beleave him or not? XoXo **AmberO**

Well sometimes it takes a few times to get something to work. I have to admit that it is really hard to believe someone after they hurt you so much. If it seems things are going back down the drain just stay friends. Sometimes thats best even though you feel you need them for something more. ~*AmAnDa*~

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