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my birthday is going to be hell, please tell me what to do
last minute i decided to have a birthday party. everyone i love is getting together to go to this cool club sort of place. My friend, lets call her Orchid, and her boyfriend Tom (now ex) were invited. They broke up bitterly. I think Orchid blamed me, even though i had nothing to do with it. Orchid's friend Bee was also invited. The invite and RSVP was after the breakup. Tom said of course he'll come. Orchid said ok, and so did Bee over the phone. Tom and Orchids parents varified they could come. Bee convieniently said she was out right now and that her mother was working. Then that her mother was sleeping, all of which she said online. Bee kept saying that she was worried that Orchid and Tom would fight. I said that both had a choice to say no. She kept going on about how she doesnt want them to fight and stuff. I said it doesnt have to do with her. Bee was typing unusually slow, so I think she was either with Orchid and were thinking together of what to write or that she was copy/pasteing the whole conforsation.
Now the night before, when I went over orchids house for her to sign something about the party, she didnt let me in. she opened the door a half inch and didnt even smile at me. Bee was there as well, but seemed nicer. I called Orchid to ask her why she was acting "all weird" andgoing on, that if shes mad she doesnt have to come. She said it was just bad chinese food.
Then today rolled around. Finally my mom got fed up (because we need to know how many r definitely going for transportation reasons) and called Bee's mom. She was home, and awake unlike Bee said. Bee's mom said it was fine, that her daughter can go and that her daughter was out with a "friend"
Orchid hasnt called me. When I called her she said, "we can hang out tomorrow. tomorrows tomorrow so i'll call u then" Tomorrows here and she didnt call me. she said that shes worried that I will feel uncomfortable that herself and Tom wont be talking. I said i dont care, to just keep their mouths shut and enjoy the music. She was like "sure Tori (my now fake name) nothing will happen". she said 'sure' like she was writing me off or something. I cant explain it, but it just didnt sound right.
Orchid also said "for my party when Bee was mad at Lea (another one of my friends) I didn't invite lea cause I didnt want to start trouble." I said that their wont be any trouble to start.
My thoughts: i think Bee and Orchid are going to pull out the last second and r just looking at my party as a game. OR that they r using me to see the band and for the free entry ticket (my mom is paying for everyone to enter).
btw, another one of my friends... lets call him Rob, said no to the invite. I found out later that he, Orchid and Bee were pranking one of my friends all night. Now Rob decided that he wanted to go. I lied and said I couldnt get him a ticket because throughout this drama he has been mean to me. Orchid at one point screamed at me (over the boyfriend thing that was about 4 days ago) so loud i couldnt make out what she was saying. Bee called me bad names. I had nothing to do with Orchids and Toms breakup (as Tom knows) Orchid agreed this was a 'misunderstanding' but didnt sound sincere. I think Orchid just wants to blame someone so she decided to blame me.
Question: if orchid and bee do show up, i think they'll cause trouble and team off. I want to just uninvite them at this point, but I dont want to be mean. I dont know what to do. And believe me, I may have writen alot but I just skimmed the topping of the drama thats been going on for the past week.
i'm turning 15 and i'm a girl. i wrote alot so u can get a clear understanding of whats going on.
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Dear "Tori",
You're 15 so I promise the drama will die down soon. =] (I'm almost 16 and I only have issues every once in awhile! =)
Here's my opinion: Rob, Orchid, and Bee are not your friends. You shouldn't hang around them. I'm not saying ignore them, but you shouldn't invite them to do things or make it a habit of talking to them. They sound like they like making peoples' lives miserable.. don't let them do that to yours.
As for the whole party issue uninvite them. Tell them that you don't like the way they treat you and that you wouldn't like them to come to your party. You have to say this nicely and with respect of course, and don't lie. Lying makes everything worse. But don't worry. You aren't being mean! You are just trying to keep your special day special! Nobody can blame you for that.
If you're scared at what Bee and Orchid are going to say, don't worry about it. You don't want them as your friends anyways, so what does their opnioin matter to you? It shouldn't. You are who you are! You're a great person so don't worry about them. They'll eventually grow up.
Sorry I know this is getting kind of long... BUT... don't worry hon... I know this is pretty hard stuff to do, but you need to be honest with yourself. Don't let people push you or your feelings around like that. You'll look back in ten years and you won't even care about those 2 girls anyways. Do what you feel is right, and take some chances for yourself girl. =]
By the way happy 15th Birthday! I hope your special day goes well, and remeber: Have fun! =]
With love,
Amanda
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If it is going to make you feel uncomfortable about the whole thing then I suggest that you tell all those people involved that they will not be able to come. Stick to those friends that you know will be able to help you enjoy your birthday. Ask your parents to come up with a second list with you and if you cannot say anything then ask your Mum to call for you. Whether or not they feel hurt or sidelined is not for you to care about - just as they haven't cared that you are trying to organise a nice evening out together to celebrate your birthday. Your parents are there to support you so ask for their help. Have a lovely 15th birthday. All the best.
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Your friends are immature, drama loving idiots. You should just univite all of them, I am dead serious. If they come and start trouble, have your parents inform them that they will have to leave.
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