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my birthday is going to be hell, please tell me what to do
(i have asked this question to other people but so far noone has writen back): )
last minute i decided to have a birthday party. everyone i love is getting together to go to this cool club sort of place. My friend, lets call her Orchid, and her boyfriend Tom (now ex) were invited. They broke up bitterly. I think Orchid blamed me, even though i had nothing to do with it. Orchid's friend Bee was also invited. The invite and RSVP was after the breakup. Tom said of course he'll come. Orchid said ok, and so did Bee over the phone. Tom and Orchids parents varified they could come. Bee convieniently said she was out right now and that her mother was working. Then that her mother was sleeping, all of which she said online. Bee kept saying that she was worried that Orchid and Tom would fight. I said that both had a choice to say no. She kept going on about how she doesnt want them to fight and stuff. I said it doesnt have to do with her. Bee was typing unusually slow, so I think she was either with Orchid and were thinking together of what to write or that she was copy/pasteing the whole conforsation.
Now the night before, when I went over orchids house for her to sign something about the party, she didnt let me in. she opened the door a half inch and didnt even smile at me. Bee was there as well, but seemed nicer. I called Orchid to ask her why she was acting "all weird" andgoing on, that if shes mad she doesnt have to come. She said it was just bad chinese food.
Then today rolled around. Finally my mom got fed up (because we need to know how many r definitely going for transportation reasons) and called Bee's mom. She was home, and awake unlike Bee said. Bee's mom said it was fine, that her daughter can go and that her daughter was out with a "friend"
Orchid hasnt called me. When I called her she said, "we can hang out tomorrow. tomorrows tomorrow so i'll call u then" Tomorrows here and she didnt call me. she said that shes worried that I will feel uncomfortable that herself and Tom wont be talking. I said i dont care, to just keep their mouths shut and enjoy the music. She was like "sure Tori (my now fake name) nothing will happen". she said 'sure' like she was writing me off or something. I cant explain it, but it just didnt sound right.
Orchid also said "for my party when Bee was mad at Lea (another one of my friends) I didn't invite lea cause I didnt want to start trouble." I said that their wont be any trouble to start.
My thoughts: i think Bee and Orchid are going to pull out the last second and r just looking at my party as a game. OR that they r using me to see the band and for the free entry ticket (my mom is paying for everyone to enter).
btw, another one of my friends... lets call him Rob, said no to the invite. I found out later that he, Orchid and Bee were pranking one of my friends all night. Now Rob decided that he wanted to go. I lied and said I couldnt get him a ticket because throughout this drama he has been mean to me. Orchid at one point screamed at me (over the boyfriend thing that was about 4 days ago) so loud i couldnt make out what she was saying. Bee called me bad names. I had nothing to do with Orchids and Toms breakup (as Tom knows) Orchid agreed this was a 'misunderstanding' but didnt sound sincere. I think Orchid just wants to blame someone so she decided to blame me.
Question: if orchid and bee do show up, i think they'll cause trouble and team off. I want to just uninvite them at this point, but I dont want to be mean. I dont know what to do. And believe me, I may have writen alot but I just skimmed the topping of the drama thats been going on for the past week.
i'm turning 15 and i'm a girl. i wrote alot so u can get a clear understanding of whats going on.
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This is definately a difficult situation. If I were you, I would still invite everybody (except Rob). Clearly, these girls are acting stupid and just teaming up and being completely and unnecessarily rude to you. You should talk to them face to face. Especially Orchid since she seems like she is the root of everything and all of this drama. Just explain that you invited her and Tom before they broke up and you can't just be completely bogus and uninvite Tom. Talk to Bee and ask her why she is being rude. You can just come out and say that you think she is being rude to you and you just want to know why because none of this was really her problem to deal with. Its almost like she just wants to be involved in drama to get attention. Just tell Orchid if she doesn't want any drama, she shouldn't cause any because that seems to be what seh is doing right now. Tell her that you can try to separate her and Tom if it will make her uncomfortable. But then if they are just continuing to be rude and mean to you, just tell them that they don't have to go to your party if they don't want to. Say this without uninviting them because if you uninvite them it will just show them that what they were saying and doing was getting to you. Overall, I would just talk to them to see what they think about the situation. Message me if you need more help or have any questions! I hope you have a great DRAMA FREE party and that everything works out with all of your friends.
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