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Is is normal for the average teenager (only child) to cry at least once a day when she's by herself in her room. And being an only child has a big issue. I came to realize that I cry everyday. Sometimes more than once. I do it in private though because I don't want people to see me. I guess my biggest reason is my parents, and the fact that I'm sick of being the center of their lives...I've gotten to the point where I feel a lot of pain in me, but I can't take it out on anyone but myself. It all seems really stupid, because it all comes from my parents. They don't beat me, and they're not necessarily "overprotective" or anything, I just hate being the only one they have to worry about... I've gotten to the point where I don't know what to do. I can't even tell them I want to seek professional help, which is what I really want--thats how distant I feel. I don't know what to do....
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Honey, you do need to talk to someone. It sounds like you have reached the limit of your capacity to be your parents world. Talk to a trusted teacher, pastor, clergy person, uncle, aunt, or friend - any adult you trust and like - and ask them to help you talk to your parents about getting professional help. There are some free programs for teens your school might know about, and some churches and synagogues have free counseling if your parents cannot afford it or do not have insurance.
One thing that can help now is to start a journal. By writing down what you feel, you will help to release those feelings somewhat. And it will help you organize your thoughts about it all. While you are finding someone to talk to, try some relaxing techniques. Lie down on your bed in a comfy position, find one thing to focus on (a candle, picture, book), and start taking long, slow, even breaths. As you breathe in say to yourself "In comes peace and tranquilty", as you breathe out say, "Out goes despair and sorrow" Another technique is to do get in the same position, close your eyes, and start relaxing your muscles starting with your toes. Picture yourself floating in the sky or on a peaceful lake. As you float ou hold a rock on your chest, as you take your slow even breathes, you break off a little piece of the rock and throw it away. The rock is the despair and sorrow you feel, and as you throw bits of the rock away, you release those emotions. A counselor taught me these techniques and as weird as they sound if you will do them every day for a month, you will find you feel better. They will at least help you get some relaxation.
Also, find a book or search online for meditation techniques. Meditation is wonderful. It will help so much. After you meditate for 5 minutes or longer, you feel so much better.
You have a lot on your shoulders if you are crying every day. Just remember that this will pass. You will grow up, leave home, and start your own family - your parents will probably spoil your children rotten but grandchildren will alleviate your burden considerably. Maybe you could talk your parents into being foster parents to a small child who requires a lot of attention? You will get through this, and you will be able to stop crying.
Remember you are loved and there are many people wishing you all the best.
PrincessPhoebe
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you're officially a teen now! lots of us cry everyday. take me for example. we don't do it for other people to see us. we just do. i'm an avid thinker and once i get thinking about stuff. i don't stop till i know what it is i wanted to find and sometimes i get depressed and cry over it. what you can do is get out! hang out w/ friends! go to a movie! have friends over and watch movies! hang out with the girls! those will all make you feel a lot better! trust me! hope i helped! need anything else..ask me! *AliCia*
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welcome to being depressed. sit down with a thing of icecream and watch a funny movie! hang out with friends. go out with a buncha people! have fun ur only a kid once *hope i helped* love alwaiiz, ali *feedback is appreciated!
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I was in the sit. kinda.. not the sibs. part but like.. where i wanted help with my probs. So i went to my mom which was hard to do but it helped me alot and im now with Youth works and it really relieves alot of pressure off my shoulders. I think you should really try to get to your mom and talk to her about it. Because that could really help!! And how are your tears black.. but i'd say the first step is talkin to the parents, you need to talk to the people that are the source of the conflict to get over it, so talking to the parents would be the best thing to do, see where it goes from there, and then if things still aren't lookin very good, then seek professional help. (please rate) happy holidays ~trixxie
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Ask a guidence consuler in your school if they can help you get professinal help. You will need your parents permition though. Just remember they want what's best for you so don't be worried to ask. And about the sweatshirt thing use tissues or toilet paper.
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Hey. i understand how you feel because i'm an ony child too. i feel like i can never tell my parents anything because they have so high standards and believe me it's hard being asian...i mean asian parents except a lot. i would cry in my room alone too when things are bugging me. it's okay just let your feelings out is cryings the only way. my parents wont let me go anywhere because they are overprotected...but let them know that lately you have been feeling that you just have too much attention. tell them you want some space even if it means you have cancle a date with your parents. so you get some alone time to yourself because it's just the thing with people that needs some time alone. and be like mom dad i feel wierd inside and i was just wondering we i can see a phycstrist for a little it. see what they say. hope i help. take care. x3 SweetStar.
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Aw. Wow. It sounds like you're depressed. You need to talk to your parents about EVERYTHING you feel. Talking will loosen things up A LOT! And ask if you can get professional help, so you can bounce back! Good luck!
P.S. Use tissues, not your sweatshirt, lol.
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~
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Your depressed..and professional help is definately the answer. Im glad you WANT the help though..thats a great sign. Its the first step out of depression. You dont have to necassarily tell your parents you want professional help. In school, talk to the counselor or psycologist..whichever you have. Its confidential. If your school only has a guidance counselor..and not a psycologist..perhaps see if they can arrange for a specialist to come in and talk to you confidentially.
Best of luck..and i know you`ll get through everything ok. Stay strong
-melissa
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yes! it is depression! happens to almost everyone i know!
((x o ♥ Michelle))
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sounds like your depressed ... if you go to your school counsleir she can help with your feelings .. the person will also keep what ever you say private
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Every teenager goes through this. It is a normal stage, it will pass, I promise. Just look on the bright side of things and it will all pass.
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i think that you should talk to your parents and tell them how you feel and also tell them that you want to seek professinal help it will be better for you!!!hope i helped-tish
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well sometimes u just cant hold back the tears but i have cried a few times just about life dont cry to much try to think about something that just is fun and maybe try and talk to your parents and get a close friend who is sometimes like a brother or sister that would help too!!
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your the only thing your parents have i am an only child too. so i kno it feels pretty lonely. but i mean what's the problem.
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