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Q: when i was 9 or 10 my brother molested me. the molestation went so far i would even call it rape. while it was going on i told him no i didnt want to but he made me think i was wrong for not wanting to. afterwards he tried to have these sex talks with me about how to do sexual acts and what happens when guys get excited, i finally told him i didn;t want to talk about this with him. it took alot of courage but i hated it, i hated him. he told me if i told anybody he would tell them that i touched him, and that nobody would believe me. i felt disgusting, and i thought [still think] people will think i am disgusting for letting that happen to me.

now im 15 and it still horrifies me. i have never told anybody because im afraid they will think i am gross. i can never tell my parents, NEVER, because they will not believe me. He hides it so well and soemtiems i even wonder if he remembers doing it. once i braught it up, he acted like he didnt know what i was talking about and i sut up quickly, i didnt want to talk about it. I know it happened... but there is nothing i can do

now it is a huge problem b/c i have been dating this great guy for 3 months and i won't let him touch me. at first i just told him i was prude but when he puts his arms around me i freak, and once i decided to just ignore it and make out with him as uncomfortable as i was, he hand started to go up my shirt and i ran out of the room and started to cry hysterically. this shouldnt still be happening, but it is affecting me now more than ever.

i need this to go away
please help me forget about this and overcome my fear of somebody touching me. my bf is going to dump me if i keep doing this, he doesnt know why, im never going to tell him.

please help im desperate

What your brother did is terrible. It should have never happened. Nobody will think your gross , you DID NOT do anything wrong. You need to talk to someone about this. If you really belive that your parents wont belive you then talk to a guidance counsler at school , it's affecting you now and it's only going to get worse with time . If you feel boyfriend is going to dump you for not letting him touch you then explain what happened , get it off your chest to someone who cares about you , you'll feel a thousand times better and he should understand. What happened to you is something you will have to deal with the rest of your life and it will hinder you if you don't take action . Talk about it get it out there , your brother needs help . Even if you don't want to tell someone do it. You need help dealing with this , your 15 and nobody can deal with this alone. Your brother neededs help , if he did it to his own sister who knows who he could do it to , by going to someone and saying something it wont just help you greatly but it may infact save someone the agony that your going through and have had to live with from the horrible experiences that you had when you were little.

Q: I have this weird rash on which started me picking a tiny bubble on my middle finger. Then it got dry and some more tiny bubbles came and spread to my other fingers. I think it's Ezema or Psiasis or whatever they are called. I'm going to the dermatoligist and I need to know something...

Do you have to bring a physical?
Do you take one there? Like height and weight?
Do they draw blood?
I have a pretty sucky insurance it's Kaiser so I'm going there so anyone who has them too and went to the Dermatoligist there please help.

you dont have to bring a phusical and they dont make you take one , they may ask for height and weight but they probably wont measure you , you'll just tell them , they will ask for medical history and the name of your primary care Dr. sometimes in certain cases they draw blood but I highly doubt they will in yours because they're looking at a rash . I don't know anything about your insurance. but FYI the bubble on your finger was probably a wart and when you picked it the bacteria spread and caused other warts to apear. Ezema and Psoriasis almost never just form on their own out of nowhere. they are usually genetic and people who have it usually have it from the time they were born. I have also never hear of ezema or Psoriasis forming on a finger and if either of the skin conditions did it would probably be in an extreme ongoing case. ezema is normaly found on the legs or upper arms. Psoriasis is usually found on the elbows or knees .

Q: The other day my french teacher said when you dont eat breakfast you get more hungry during the day, and i used to never eat breakfast and i would always be extrememly hungry when i got home and then i would feel lousy because of all the food i ate. So for the last few days ive been waking up earlier and eating breakfast but I'm still just as hungry. I have lunch at 11:30 and get home at about 3:15. Is there anyway I can be less hungry during the day?|

Thankss muchoo

eat a bigger breakfast , have something small for lunch like fruit or a small salad and eat normal for diner

Q: does diet soda really stunt your growth? i drink it a lot and people have told me it stunts your growth. is this really true?

yes because it depelets calcium from your bones.

Q: Okay seriously, I'm a freshman in highschool & I can't take the pressure of grades. In middle school I was a straight A student, perfect in everything, just what my parents expected of me. Highschool, I'm taking Spanish for the first time, Algebra 1, and Pre Ap English. (These are the classes I am doing HORRIBLE in!!) Pre Ap English is obviously harder than normal enlgish, it's adavanced, and we don't really need to talk about that class because I'm getting better in it.

Now we get a midterm report on our grades which must be signed by our parents, & I am terrified because I got a 60 in Algebra 1, and a 68 in Spanish. I don't know what to do! My parents don't ground me, they just yell and yell. They tell me how important it is to go to cllege, etc. I KNOW it is, I'm just so scared to dissapoint them. The thing is, I KNOW I can at least bring my grade up in Spanish (and hopefully a little in Algebra) by the end of the marking period. But when I tell my parents this they won't believe me, they'll be so pissed that I'm failing at *this* moment they won't care about anything else.

MY QUESTION IS -- How do I just get it over with and show my parents the report? They also KNOW I get it & it must be signed, so of course they'll have to see it. What can I maybe say to them to calm them down, or not have them yell as much? I have so much pressure on me, it's unbearable. I'm sreiously about to break down, my parents scare me so bad when it comes to grades. Please, please help me.

well before the midterm report comes out say to them i need help. maybe they can get you a tudor and you wont have these problems. it will also show them you care about you grades. talk to the teachers and ask if you can come in before or after school for help with anything you dont understand to get your grades up.

Q: my friends have been bugging me about how i have been taking 6 - 8 advils a day. they think i have really bad headaches because i tell them that. but sometimes i take them just for the heck of it.. my friends think that one day i will o.d. but i told them i wont. i also said i stopped taking them, but i havent.. i just dont want them to worry.. do you think im addicted? i dont, but i was wondering what you all think.

yes , you have to stop because advil can ruin your stomach and hurt your liver over time . if you dont need it dont take it .

Q: I decided this year to skip over the bikini for a one piece bathing suit because I have a chunky stomach...but I have no idea where to get a cute one at!! All the one pieces I see are all ugly. I really dont want to wear a bikini because I feel self-conscious but I may have to resort to that if I cant find a good one-piece, something cute and sexy. So please help me! Thanks everyone who helps!!

try victoria secert , neiman marcus and delias. they always have cute one pieces

Q: What do you think is the average age to get your first kiss?

14- whenever your ready

Q: I'm a guy, and junior in high school. I am constantly worried about everything in my life. For instance what I'm going to wear, is my dad mad at me, am I depressed, what my grades are, is my mom alive, just everything like that, even if my friends are mad at me. I worry about everything it drives me nuts all of the time. And when I'm worried about that I can't concentrate on the important things like grades, am I doing the right thing in life, and just crap like that. I told my mom I worry too much and I even worry about her grown up things like who is going to buy my car does she have enough money in the bank. I need some help hear what do I do?

i know , you stress about everything , your like me. i worry did my mom pay the bills , are my grades ok , things like that . i learned i'll just eat my self up inside unless i chill out . the only concerns you should have is you and your grades . its not your job to worry about the other things .

Q: recently, ive been cutting. i cut because i have so much emotional pain, it relieves me when i cut. it makes me forget all about my emotional pain because i focus on the physical pain. well, just this morning, i found myself thinking of suicide. this afternoon during health class too. We were talking about cutting in health class today and i just wanted to die. i was so uncomfortable. only 2 people knew about me cutting in my health class besides me but i still wanted to die. I dont have a boyfriend. I dont think im pretty enough to. My life is fucked up. no one cares about me. my parents are never home and when they are, they just yell at me. They always fight too. But the thing is, i wouldnt trade my life for anybody elses. its the way that i know life. I wouldnt trade it. and im serious. I wore a belly shirt to school a few days ago. Bad choice. some people saw my cut i made on my stomach and they said stuff to me. No one understands me. They think that i have the ideal life and they even tell me that. i dont. every one thinks i am perfect (or have to be) becuase my dad is a pastor of a small hick church... which i hate. I dont believe that shit. w/e. i wanted to stop cutting until today. i did it again today. its just a bad habit. any suggestions? anything anyone wants to say to me?? yes i have contemplated suicide. several times.

well , you know you do have to stop . you'll endup geting a skin eating bacteria and die , but apparently thats what you want. you have to find a diffrent way to let go of stress . bite you nails , play with your hair , paint , exersice anything but that play flaf football , you can tackle even when your a girl !. life does suck when your parents are never around and when the decide to show their faces they yell because your their outlete . and your right , it does suck when everyone things you have a great life and they cant really see the big picture that your truly misarable . heres my advice , most highschools require you to have service hours to graduate, so go to a hospital and read to the elderly or the little kids . it will definetly make you feel better , you can feel needed and no one will judge you . the kids in the hopsital will be your reason to want to stop. they will need you because their parents probably arent there when they need them and they are scared . i know this sounds really dumb but if you want to talk just send it in a form of a question.

Q: I wake up in the middle of the night or around like 3 am usually and get up and just drink so much. Like this morning, for instance, I remember getting up and drinking two cans of coke a cola and then a glass of chocolate milk and then just going right back to sleep. I usually do this very fastly. It seems like i cant control it, i just get up and do it without thinking. But i dont even wake up when i need to use the potty!!

Is this/Am I Normal?
What should I Do?

you may be dehydrated , try sleeping with a fan on or a thinner cover . if your always drinking in the day like you do at night you may have diabetes . talk to your doctor.

Q: Why is it that some peoples bodies reject their piercings shortly after they are done?

they are allergic to the metal.

Q: please help me! ive been crying like crazy for 2 days!

im in an ap class and we have to read 90 pages by tuesday and our test is tuesday over those 90 pages. i have to make 3 outlines over those 90 pages, and they have to include certain vocabulary. however im done reading but some vocabulary i couldnt find and there are some questions she wants us to answer about them and i dont know the answers! i cant simply reread everything! and on my first ap quiz today i FAILED! and im not good at all at the essays that we have to do. i am going crazy i cant stop crying because im so afraid that im going to fail! im crying right now! please dont tell me to see a therapist or councelor! ive asked my parents to drop out and they said that i cant because i need a challenge and the school requires a signature and they call the parents to confirm it! i am extremely worried and i seriously cry so hard because im so afraid that my gpa will be ruined and college will not be available to me anymore. please help me i need so much help! my mom doesnt know im crying but she knows that i get worried about failing. PLEASE HELP ME!!

tell your parents to get you a tutor , AP is hard.
try it for another week though w/ a tutor . ask your teacher for a recomendation. your teacher will probably refur you to another AP teacher that works in your school which is good because they know what you need for the tests and follow the curriculm. they usually charge 25-35 dollars an hour which is cheap for tutoring. or you can ask your teacher if you can come in earlyer or after school for help from them which is free. best of luck.

Q: How old Should a child be when they start dating?

when they're mature enough to drive . like 15 or 16 , and you have to be sure that dating wont consume their live and there grades wont drop . you also have to be sure that they wont fall under peer pressure when they start dateing.

Q: To Start, What is a college Transcript?
What do colleges look for? If I started off my freshman year with grades of C's and lower, will colleges look at that too?

Also if you could, Will you please give me the ways you study effectively? Like, where and little tips you have. Thanks. Finals are coming up and I sure would appreciate the help.

xo Lance

a college transcript is what gets sent to the colleges you choose senior year . all your grades are on it from freshman to senior , all your final grades from freshman to senior are on it all the classes you took , the credits you recived your , service hours , your GPA , SAT writing scores and any detentions or suspencions go on it too. colleges look for good grades , lots of service hours like from voluntering you should aim for at least 500 , colleges look to see if you have any special hobbies if your active in the community if your on any sports teams . effective studying can be done where ever you find peace . you need to study more than one night before a test . even if a test isn't comming up review everything you just learned that day then the next night review everything you learned that day and the day before so it stays with you and studying won't be so hard . take notes even if your not asked .

Q: Why does everyone think you HAVE to believe in something? Do you feel it's wrong to not put faith in a religion? I'm not religious in the tiniest bit. I know some people think that you never know what you're missing out on until you try it. However, I've never even cared or have been concerned with trying to find religion in my life. Why is religion so important?

you don't have to be religious . the big deal about religion is that people need to belive in a higher power. they need to belive that their not alone in the world and they have someone to talk to .they need explanations for things that science can't answer . with out religion there would be chaos . religion stops people from hurting each other because in the back of their heads they know if they do something wrong they will get punished .

Q: hey im a guy...and no im not planning on getting an abortion. i was just wondering something: why is it that girls/women abort children instead of adopt them? i know there are plenty of reasons why, but is there one (or more) that would overshadow the case of giving birth then putting the baby up for adoption. looking for a girls point of view on this, because even if the girl didn't want the baby, would there be something wrong in giving it away instead of killing it? thanks, will rate.

some times it is selfish because they don't want to ruin their figure . but there are plenty of good reasons . haveing a child may actually kill them . for example you get pregnant at 14 and your body is too small to carry the child . another reason is the child may suffer from some disease that the person is carrying like HIV and they don't want their child to suffer . they may have also been drinking and drug use before they knew they were pregnant and will cause birth deffects . another reason is they may not want the child going to anothers home . not all adoptive parents are fit to have a child . the mother may not want the child traveling from foster home to foster home because many foster parents unfortunatly accept kids just for the money and abuse them .

Q: Ok so i wanna be an actress!!!! i have done comunity theater, I am a good actress and I wanna live in NY. But my mom...Im only 13!! She wants me to go to college so i thought, i will go for an arts degree right? Wrong!! she wont pay for an arts degree and college is way more $ than im gonna be able to aford and i know, i should'nt be thinkin bout college at 13? right? well my mom says i really should be "focusing on my future"?!??!? what does that mean? I wanna be an actress sooooo badley! what should i do?

ps. Please help!!!

your mom wants the best for you . you should be thinking about college now . for example if your mom let you talk only art classes in college and you went out there and for some reason didn't make it big you could be come a " starving artist " and have nothing to fallback on and make a living and your mom doesn't want that for you. at college you can minor in the arts and have a buisness major or something like that so incase it didn't work out you could do something with a steady pay . if your mom wont agree to that then get a job and pay for a arts course on your own !

Q: My little brother is driving me crazy!!! He hits me when he gets mad and leaves bruises! and he wont leave me alone! i have a lock on my door except its a hook lock so he just unlocks it! I would tell my mom but every time i tattle she gets mad at "me"!!! Im 13 and its because h's 10 and her little baby! its driving me crazy and i need help please!!!

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its normal behavior for him but i know how you feel, you hate it . i started to realize why my brother hit me , he wanted attention . play with him for an hour and talk with him , he wont hit you as much and he may start to respect you as his older sibling . and the lock , leave it open , its a game to him when its locked to him its just another way of getting you mad and getting your attention . leave it open and he will feel more welcome and bother you less.

Q: Hey guys,
I was wondering if anyone on here has gotten a tattoo around their bellybutton before. I really really want to get one there, but my older sis is telling me I have to be able to make my stomach tight or something like that? Is that true? Or does she not know what shes talking about? If anyone has it done, please let me know how much it hurt and if my sister's comment is even true or not. By the way, I already have one tattoo. It's on my lower back. I'm very good with pain. Thank you so much. If anyone has pics of nice tattoos for around your bellybutton, you can show them if you want.

it doesn't hurt much and your sister means if your stomach is flabby the tattoo won't look to great . it will look streched and old out but if you have a tight stomach it wont.