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Hey! I am 14 and my sister is 11. So i have this problem with the relation ship with my dad he seems to play favorites with me and my sister, who is younger than i am. i think that the reason for this is because she is more of a "kiss up" and i just tend to be more stubborn(like he is). For example, i did 7 hrs of work at $5 and hr. and my sister did 2 hrs at $5 at hr. and she earned more than me. Any ideas of how to get my father to treat us like eqauls.
Also are there and jobs avalible for someone 14 (besides babysitting)
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One thing about this is that you cannot say what the right parenting way is. And a lot of parents will take it in that direction. Just like teachers, sometimes parents will play favorites. I know it's sad but true. You need to understand that you have to be your own person. If you suck up to your dad you're just acting childish because you want your way. Here's what I say about it: Do what you can do, for yourself. If you need to talk to your dad baout it, do it. You know what you have to say. But here's the trick: saying "you play favorites" will automatically make him stop listening to you. Instead think of it as an essay. The introduction you want to catch his attention. Be direct and to the point. " (Your sister's name) was working for you less than I was, I was just wondering why she got more money than I was. Am I not working hard enough or is she doing something better?" This will state your point without offending him.
Okay, when you have two people who have simliar qualities, they'll tend to fight over something. If you and he are both stubborn then both of you will just agree with your ways without wanting to hear the others. This makes perfect sense! Be sure to give him the chance to tell you what flaws he sees in the situation and without getting angry listen. I know that can be hard sometimes but you just need to learn how to accept peoples view points in life, good or bad. This way at least you'd be acting mature enough and that should be fairly recognizable to him.
As for the job, hmm. That's tough because most people won't hire too many 14 year olds. But looka round and see if you can bus at a local restaurant or lifeguard in the summer. Check your local area for jobs. And if you have older friends or family see if they can hook you up with a place you work at. If not youc an always start of by working at a sumemr camp or local community service center. At least you'll have something to put on your applications.
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Hey im also 14 and my sister is also 11. But shes a trouble maker and she seems to get most of our dads attention. Try to explain how you feel to your dad. I think dads always sorta favor the younger ones, thinking that their still the "babies" in the family. Just try talking to your dad and telling him how you feel. Sometimes that is just the best way.
I think you have to be 15 to work.. sorry
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I have that same problem but my sis is older. Just point it out to your dad everytime he plays favorites.
The legal working age is like 16 or 18 so sorry about that.
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there are jobs for people who are 14 my sister has a job in the summer and she is 14..
Man that must really hurt you when your dad does that!! And I know it has to be hard to talk to him about it but.. Does your mom live with you?.. If she does then tell her how you fell about it and she can maybe make you fell a little better about it or talk to your dad about it!! If not then you will have to go to your dad. Just tell him that you are so tired of him playing favorites and that you fell like he is treating your sister like he loves her more.. Just let him know how it fells no matter how awkard it fells or how shy you may be! I Promiss it will come out to be better for you in the end!!
GOOD LUCK!!
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