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Homophic.
I have a close friend who I usually get on well with. However, yesterday evening he told me that he is homophobic because he believes homosexual people mess up the whole cycle of life and they are selfish. I told him that people have the right to be who they want to be but he disagreed. Eventually I said that we could just forget it and agree to disagree but he wouldn't leave it. I told him I didn't want homosexual friends and refused to speak to him. I badly want to be his friend but he refuses to just forget our disagreement and not talk about it again. He just keeps saying that he is right and wont accept that it is a matter of opinion. I don't want to lose him as a friend, what should I do?
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Well this matter is a little strange. Honestly I have homosexual friends and homophobic friends. I don't think it matters if you have a homophobic friend and want homosexual friends. Yes, you are right it is a matter of opinion. I think that if he doesn't see that everyone has an opinion and that you just basically stated your opinion he isn't a good friend. Most likely he will get over it and forget your little disagreement (That is if he's a good friend.)
Lots of Luck
~*MaRiYa*~
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The beauty of a mature relationship with a friend is being able to appreciate contradicting ideas as well as opinions. I have no right in telling you are right and he is wrong., But I am entitled to my opinion. A persons sexuality should not define their character. We are all human beings and with that comes originality, and uniqueness comes in various shapes and forms.There is nothing worse than being common. Tell your friend that part of a friendship is having respect for one another, and each others opinions. Express to him that its not important who’s right or wrong. Try to talk to him, and its sad to say but if he doesn’t reason to your words than he is not worth your friendship, he cant imply you never tried to work things out....
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get him tipsy and bring him to a gay bar.
then watch the fun.
-hitler
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You are forgiven! You are right. He is wrong. But, you'll probably never convince him of that. I wouldn't bring the subject up again. If HE does, change the subject and just don't argue with him. If all else fails just walk away. Could be he just likes to argue. Let him argue with someone else! :)
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Do you mean you told him you don't want homophobic friends. Because if that's not what you meant then this question would make no sense. If he won't agree to disagree and if he won't let you have your opinion since you're letting him have his, then he's not the best friend to have now is he? People have their opinons and everyone has to respect that. There isn't much you can do since he's being hard-headed. (Sorry if I'm offending you by making these comments) Really all you can do is talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you have your opinion and he has his, you aren't going to bash him for his opinion, and then ask why you can't just agree to disagree. Everyone has their own opinions and if others can't respect that then they don't deserve your friendship. I know a few people that are homosexual and it's fine by me because you can't help who you fall in love with. But I do have my own opinions on gay marriage. It's against the bible, and marriage is between man and woman. If homosexuals want to be 'married' they can at least call it something else.
But before I get into it with my beliefs and stuff I'll tell you that you're best bet is just talking to him and asking him what his deal is. Hope it helps, sorry if it didn't.
<3 always, Kate
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some people feel SUPER strong about issues like this..so although i would feel frustrated that he wont put it aside, i would try and look the other way and talk to him..saying..ok i dont want that dumb topic to get in the way of our friendship..so lets just forget about it and move on..?
If he keeps pushing it..i personally would become verry frustrated for him not putting it aside..
but keep saying its only an opinion and every has the right to their opinion..
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maybe you should try agreeing with him to see if he doesnt talk about it but that doesnt mean you should friend with them just beacause of your freind
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well you should put your opinions aside b/c no matter how much you fight over, niether one of is completely right. its an OPINION. tell him your sorry for not valuing his opinion and you want to end the dissagrement and be friends. <3
drop it in my inbox if you need more detail or something.
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