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Q: i have this boyfriend or basically did...but ok he broke up with me cause the feelings were there, and he nneeded time to mayb see if they would come back. and then yeah so we went to school and he seen me but didnt say anything and he told my friend that he didnt wanna get to attached cause he has college soon, and he feels really bad and really sorry and stuff and the thing i dont get is he told her"if we were met to be together then we will get back together" so what do u think?

please help ill rate!!

I think that the whole thing is something every girl goes through. Her boyfriend goes off to college and she stays back behind. I think you should give him some time to himself and just like he said if you were meant to be together you'll be together. Try looking around for someone to go out with but not to be serious with. He'll do the same thing when he goes off to college and only time will tell you what will be of you two.

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: My PC is being really odd lately. It's always been a bit off (too many convos open in MSN makes it freeze, or restart, or go black and white, that kinda thing) but it's getting worse. It keeps restarting randomly. I don't think this is a virus because I have Norton Anti-Virus (but it doesn't seem to work so great all the time...). Also, every time it restarts, the plug/socket makes this crackling noise. My mother says it's probably not a problem with the electrics because we have a circuit breaker, so if there was any danger the electricity on the whole of the floor my PC is on would cut out.
Does anyone know what is wrong or how I could make it better?

It is possible that there is a short in one of the wires. If so I would say try not to use it a lot and try to get it checked out at a computer store.

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: I have a problem my dog, just recently died and so we got a new puppy Razberry. But as he has gotten older he has become vicious. I just go into the backyard to try to play with him after school and i throw a ball or two. Then I go check if he needs more water in his bowl or not. But then out of the blew he jumps up bites me really hard in the back then I turn around and he bites me in the leg which leaves a scratch and a popping out bruise. Then i try to get away from him and out of the backyard but he keeps biting me. This has been happening for a while now and I dont know what to do to make him stop. I love my puppy and I dont want to give him away. He can be soo sweet to me and i can just tell in his eyes that he loves me too. I think he is just trying to play but doesn't know when to stop. I just would like any suggestions on something I could do to understand that biting me like that is wrong and it hurts. I have tried disciplining him but then he becomes more vicious and bites more. Please help me!
thnx a bunch!

Hmm when my old dog did that we normally would start to play vicious games with him. My dad would hit him (not hard) on the jaws and he'd try to bite back. Maybe you should try that, but be careful doing that. When he bites you try yelling at him tell him that it is bad to bite, if he does it again then hit him in the nose and lock him outside for a nite.

One thing is sure though, puppies will be violent and you can't get them to stop being violent, it just doesn't happen. You have to find something that will let him release his anger and energy. Try getting a squeeky toy or a bone let him bite on those.

Lots of Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: My friends and I are trying to get this one boy from my classical music class to start to appreciate rock music and rap music, pop music etc. He isn't responding to most of it and is giving answers to rap music like, "You don't know what he's saying!!" Is there an easy way to introduce him to this type of music?

Introducing people to music can be hard. I would suggest introducing him to some light pop, maybe JoJo or someone like that. If you want to introduce him to Rap try light rap... Not Eminem or anyone like that but someone who raps about life, not drugs or sex... Maybe TuPac...

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: ok well i started to like my best friend, and i was talking to him one day, and he asked me who i liked and i couldnt lie so i said it was him. acctaully, i asked him who he thought it was and he said he thought it was him, so i said it was. ever since then we've still talked and stuff, and things only feel a little different. today, i told him i didnt like him anymore. he asked me why and asked if it was because i liked someone else.. while in my head i was thinking aww i imed him back and said no, its because its screwing everything up between us. then i got booted off. but i dont know what to do, i wanna stop liking him but i cant!

You can't help who you like. It isn't possible. If you like him there is obviously an attraction there. It isn't rare that someone likes there best friend. Try to figure out what you two have in common. Think for a while about what's attracting you to him. You don't need to stop liking him though. Just sit down and talk to him about it, maybe ask him out.

Lots of Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: In school there are about 10 boys that pick on me they call me names and I hate it , Once I tried to kill myself but they laughed more Please help me!

Wales Bullied

First off I think that killing yourself is a bad way to go. Here lately I've been studying about bullies. I think that one of the best ways to get a bully to leave you alone is ignore them, let them say something to you but walk away. If that doesn't work try to get some help from a counselour, teacher, adult, etc. You could also try to humor the situation, if they call you stupid then just be like "Oh yeah I'm so stupid" and things like that, but whatever you do DON'T believe what they tell you. Even if you say it back to them don't think that it makes you stupid.

Lots of Luck,
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: Hey! I'm quite aware that this question was asked several times, but I'm throwing a party about 30 people, half boys, half girls.. we are all in our mid-teens... we wont really have supervision.. and I need some games that inclued interaction with the opposite sex.. you know?

Well Thanks in advanced!!!

How about you guys just hang out, dance, and if something is going to happen let it happen. Don't control the crowd, let it be like a club.

Have Fun!
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: I like this guy and recently I told him I liked him, but now i kind of regret it because I know he is going to act different around me and its not going to be the same. What should I do?

You should tell him how you feel. Express your feelings for him. Tell him that no matter what you hope that it won't change your relationship that you have right now with him.

Q: I have no clue what to get my boyfriend for his birthday, he likes sports, and xbox games, I dont know if he would like jewelry. Can anyone please help me?

If he likes sports then depending on his favorite sport buy him a jersey... or even a hat... I know a lot of guys who like jerseies... But not a lot of guys like jewelry.

Q: I just got my report card this past friday. It said that my grade point average is 3.95 which is really good. but when i started look at what i got (A A-) it said I had straight A's, A-'s A+'s and I was confused. I get to see my grade a week before they come out, and my science teacher said i was getting a B- then, on the report card it said A+...i don't understand that..can someone explain?
TarA

You shouldn't even worry about it. If they made a mistake that's their problem. Let it be is the best advice I can give you.

Q: i like this guy and he is sweet, attractive, and is so nice. He's funny and tall. One problem, got a girlfriend. He is so sweet tho and he pays more attention to me then his gf even tho i'm only his friend. Too bad his gf is my friend but not a really good one. He always flirts with me and i flirt back but is this ok?

When you flirt as long as you don't mean anything then it is okay. But if you guys flirt and mean something then I think he should leave his girlfriend and go with you.

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: I have just came back to school after my 2 weeks off and these girls are pushing me around and calling me names, they only ever stop when my friends are there im not fat nd spotty im just small is there a crime in being small?? caz i feel lke dere iz... and soon my m8s are all going on a holiday to france wiv the skool and we didnt have enought money as my mam and dad have just split up, plz help me i am down and depressed :(!

First off there isn't a crime to being small. I should know, I'm very small for my age. I'm over 21 and I'm 5'2 and weigh 95 pounds. If people are pushing you around and calling you names try to ignore them. When they say things like that say to yourself that they are talking about themselves and they are saying things like that because they feel insecure about themselves.

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: i really like my friend and i poured my heart out to him (after we told him i liked him 3 months earlier!) and he goes oh you still like me???? and so it was awkward for a while but hes been liek more normal anyway like this week is spring break and he hasnt been on so i went on an old sn and he WAS on so i found out HE BLOCKED ME!!!! i am so upset right now and i keep trying to get over him..please help me what to dO?!?! i am 14 female--hes 14 male

If he doesn't want to talk to you don't force him to. Maybe have one of your friends IM him and ask him why he blocked you. If he doesn't answer them then don't have anyone else IM him. Maybe he just needs some time to think about it. Give him some time and let yourself have some time to just think the whole thing over.

Lots of Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: I love my boy friend so much! He is one of the best things that has happened to me in a LONG time. I just moved more than 30 minutes away from him. My parents almost never give me a ride over there and no one in his house will give him a ride unless we pay them money. I love him but I feel like we are just growing apart. Should I break up with him or just see how things go?

It is very hard to keep a long distance relationship, even if it is a little more than 30 minutes away. Right now I'm in a similar situation. I have the love of my life but we both live far away. It would take me about a day to get to his house. I love him though. The point I'm trying to make is that if you both really love eachother everything will work out. I guess the answer to your question would be just see how things go.

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: Hey guys...well my dad is really mean to me sometimes and I'm really tired of it. He'll be nice to me one minute and a total grouch to me the next. What should I do? I'll rate 5's to GOOD answers!

I'm 14/f

I went through a few rough times with one of my step dads. It isn't easy having a parent that treats you like shit. If your dad is being mean to you I think that you should sit down with both your mom and your dad and tell them how you feel. Tell them that you feel like you're being treated like shit. If that doesn't work then sit your mom down and talk to her alone, ask her to go out to lunch with you or something and tell her how you feel. Ask her to do something that'll make a difference... or ask her to talk to him about it.

Lots of Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: ok, i have a really good friend of another race that i had no doubt at all was gay. he was always checking out other guys and stuff so of course..duh, i thot he way gay. so we were really good friends and then all of a sudden he told me the DAY BEFORE april fools that he had had a really bad crush on me since the beguinning of last year. k, it TOTALLY threw me by suprise b/c i thot he was GAY!! so ne ways i though he was joking cos the next day was april fools but he wasn't kidding at all!!! so he kept stalking me and wouldn't leave me alone. he would always be like "have you though about it yet, you're taking FOREVER!!" but my mom just got home from the hospital from a really stressful and long-recovery surgery and she JUST now started walking. so i've been distracted obviously with my mom. so ne ways i was doing this filming project for school and he was stalking me the entire time. we were filming and he'd just be standing there looking around doing nothing, watching what we were doing when we all asked him to leave like 30 minutes ago, but he wouldn't leave. so finally we finished the project and i needed to change out of this crazy costume i was in so i told him "hey, i need to change into my regular clothes." an he just tood there starring at me, then he goes "well then?" like i was ACCTUALLY going to do it in front of him! so i told him he needed to go outside and he was all pissy about it. so then while i was changing i saw him STARRING AT ME THROUGH THE WINDOW WHILE I WAS CHANGING MY TOP!! oh my gosh it was so horrible! i felt so violated! and he's still been stalking me and saying "hey, how's your day?" to me in the hallway like we're going out even though it should be pretty clear to him that we're NOT!! so how do i tell this guy to get lost and leave me alone? i don't want to hurt his feelings, but then again he was starring at me while i was changing so i kind of do. ne suggestions? what should i say? i rate high

If he's stalking you then call the cops. Really if he's freaking you out that's the best thing to do. I've had many stalkers and I called the police. But before you go that far, if you know the guy, then tell him it's making you uncomfortable with him stalking you and that you want him to stop. Then if he doesn't stop call the police.

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: I have a close friend who I usually get on well with. However, yesterday evening he told me that he is homophobic because he believes homosexual people mess up the whole cycle of life and they are selfish. I told him that people have the right to be who they want to be but he disagreed. Eventually I said that we could just forget it and agree to disagree but he wouldn't leave it. I told him I didn't want homosexual friends and refused to speak to him. I badly want to be his friend but he refuses to just forget our disagreement and not talk about it again. He just keeps saying that he is right and wont accept that it is a matter of opinion. I don't want to lose him as a friend, what should I do?

Well this matter is a little strange. Honestly I have homosexual friends and homophobic friends. I don't think it matters if you have a homophobic friend and want homosexual friends. Yes, you are right it is a matter of opinion. I think that if he doesn't see that everyone has an opinion and that you just basically stated your opinion he isn't a good friend. Most likely he will get over it and forget your little disagreement (That is if he's a good friend.)

Lots of Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: ok i have been going out with this guy for like 2 months and i really like him, but we havent kissed yet, should i make the first move? and he doesnt call me..what is up with that? i think he is just shy, and there is this other guy that told me he likes me and i kind of like him but i dont want to brake up with my boyrfriend for him what should i do?

I think that if you haven't kissed your boyfriend yet that it could be a good thing. Maybe he wants to take the relationship slow, when a guy wants to take a relationship slowly it is a good thing. That means most likely he likes you for you and he doesn't just wanna go out with you so that he can have sex with you. If he doesn't call you, you should try asking him to call you and if he still doesn't tell him you'd like to talk to him once in a while. If he continues to not call you I think that you should go ahead and break up with him and try the guy that like you and that you like.

Good Luck
~*MaRiYa*~

Q: I have a cousin who puts my probles on here for the world to know! It's really annoying me..what should I do..I don't want to seem mean though..

Just ask the cousin why he/she does it. Be polite about it. And tell them you don't like it and ask them to please stop; if they still continue to post your problems then don't tell he/she your problems anymore.

Q: ok if a guys likes you and you like him ALOT.. but he hasnt asked you out yet.. how can you get him to stay liking you until he asks you out..cuz what if hes not poitive he likes you.. so how would you get him to kno for sure and get him really into you??

*thanx

I think that you should just talk to him, start to get to know him a little more. If you already know him pretty well you should try asking him out. I know it seems weird but if you think he likes you then you should try to win his heart. If he turns you down move onto another guy and don't let it bug you too much, no need to cry over a guy. Good luck!

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For a few years now I've been the one that all my friends come to when they have problems. At first I thought it to be annoying but soon after it all started I realized they were coming to me because I'm good at giving advice to them. For a few years I have been helping them with almost everything. I've had complete strangers come up to me at school and tell me their problems, asking me what they should do. One day this girl sent me an IM, she had gotten my SN from Xanga, she asked me what she should do. She wanted to kill herself. I won't tell you anything from our conversation simply because I don't talk about the problems people come to me about, all I will tell you is that she is still alive to this day.