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im a fourteen year old gurl. i have alot of freinds but ive never had a boyfreind and i think its becuase of my weight i dont understand why guys dont like me just becuase of that one thing im a good person and really does hurt. what should i do to help me?
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Guys are so shallow...
I have a friend too that has never had a boyfriend, probably because of her weight. The best thing to do is be yourself. Be nice to the guys and show them that u are a good person despite your weight.
The right person will come... just give it time :)
Hope I helped! -RiLeY
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Hey, it's definitely not you! I know from personal experience.. I am also 14 and "healthy".. In my school, though, a guy almost courted me, but I said "no" since I wasn't allowed to have boyfriends yet...
There's even a couple in school.. A basketball player and a not-so-thin girl..
It just goes to show that there are guys who can look beyond the physical appearance.. Also, there are some who can but just aren't right for you.. It's happened to me, too so I can totally relate..
Don't worry! Just be yourself and don't stress so much! ^__^ If the right guy comes, you'll definitely be happy you waited.. ^__^
GOod luck! ^__^
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If a guy is that dum enought not to go out with you because you think its your weight then there dumarses!!! You deserve someone that is special and will treat you special. So guys like girls that are curvy! and some dont. Thats just the way guys are, there awful and sometimes have big ego's!! Dont wait for aguy to ask you out you ask them. some guys are shy and the dont like asking other people out. I bet your pretty and skinny just ignore them.
luv roxie
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At your age, Boys arent mature enough to surpass superficial behaviors. I do believe you are a good person and I assure you that The right guy will come along..one that will accept you for who you are and even the way you look.Beauty is completely in the eye of the beholder. Just remember that you can always change your appearance, but a good heart is hard to come across. Love yourself, and then someone will come along to love you too. Patience is all that awaits you, but dont rush the wait will be worth while.
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Alright, well i am a guy so from my view, it isnt really the weight issue its what the boy likes. I mean if you have a certain personality certain guys might like then they will start hanging out, and talking with you my guess. After a certain amount of time that probably wont be long they will come to the conclusion of what they like in girls and see if you have what they like, and you will run into one boy that will hopefuly .. good luck
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well your 14 and dont woprry some girls dont have boyfriends still in there first years of highschool.. everyone will find somebody dont let things get to you.. you will find sombody you love eventualy just take your time and have fun with your freinds.. let this guy come to you!
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I'm not gonna tell you to diet because I don't know enough info. Boy's do tend to go for the looks at 14. They do grow out of it though. So don't let it worry you to much.
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well for one most guys are just attracted to sex
and all the things that it comes with. they are demented by the media and the think with their penis not their brain. not all but most.
what you can do is think about how good of a person you are. and get the "hey im here if you like me that's great but if you don't then go to hell" you can't change for people but you can change for yourself. and get involved with volunteer work, jobs, extra-curriculars.......etc..
and im sorry that guys are insinsitive toward others feelings
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i agree with everyone else. boys are stupid. they suck! i'm just like you i'm 16 female and bigger but not big big, you get it. you're 14, you have a LONG ways to go girl!
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im a 16/f and ive been a big person all my life...its hard and it hurts, but i try my best to be optimistic about it. I think to myself "if a boy likes me ..then i know he really likes me because if he wanted a skinny girl, there are tons of them"..so i would know that the guy likes me for who i am. Yeah many guys seem to judge girls on looks when looking for a gf. that will change as they mature and find out all the skinny girls dont always have what they are looking for..like a greeat personality,etc. Ittts very hard at times, ut we just got to wait it out until the guy who sees us for who we are comes along..i've only had one real relationship..but thats ok..i'll take the wait instead of getting played by guys who just date a girl for her looks.
hang in there...you arent alone! the boys will come to you eventually..for now..BE YOURSELF :)
-melissa-
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Okay, first of all, guys at this age can be VERY immature, most of them are, but some aren't. You probably are a great person, but guys are just really jerky and immature at this age. I think you should just wait because eventually a great guy will come along and you'll be happy you waited .. it will be worth the wait. trust me! hope i helped
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okay sweetie..alot of guys are assholes and you dont need to figure that out in a bad way.. um alot of guys dont look at girls for the inside.. they always worry about loos maybe not all of em but pretty many do.. um not trying to be mean but if your worried about your weight maybe do something so you can be happy with your weight and maybe some how get a boyfriend.. i mean if you like the way you are dont change yourself.. somebody will eventually except how you look and how you are in the inside too hun..much luv dez x0x0
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hey love, i understand your problem, i think its totally natural. so, dont care what people think of you. be a little spontanese. guys admire that. good lock 8]
xoxo
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ok so what your alittle over weight...big deal all of my friends that have had alot of boyfriends wish they were fatter because then you will really know if a guy likes you or not. Because he will not judge you by your looks but by your personality.
Just wait a guy will come along and like you for who you are so wait it out and good luck !
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hope i helped
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Hey do you have any guy friends?? if so ask then what they think about your weight! then ask your crush out if he gives you the anwser your looking for about the weight qt. Then ask him to come over and study or watch a movie then your relation ship will grow and you soon will be mobed with GUYS Jk. but you will have a boyfriend if you just take my advice.
P.S this takes time DONT rush these things!!!
...Kaile...
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If a guy can't get past your weight than it'shis fault and you should hit him with a smelly sock. He doesn't deserve you. Plus, your 14, take your time getting a guy. Just hang with your friends, and eventually somebody will come along.
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First of all, its not because of your weight. You're not fat, you're beautiful.
Don't worry about finding a boyfriend so soon. You're young and have the rest of your life to love.
Try loving yourself some more. Its hard for a guy to like you if you don't like yourself.
Or try showing the guy you like (or just guys in general) what a good person you are.
Be confident and optimistic. It'll all work itself out in the end.
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Its definatly not your weight. If somone doesn't like you cuz ur weight then they have a problem! You just hav't found somone for YOU yet and who likes YOU for YOU. Somone somday will come along. don't rush it! your 14, you got a while to go!
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I have answered a question somewhat like this before, and I'll repeat what I said for you.
I've never had a boyfriend until this year, 15 years old. So I know what you mean when you say you feel sad and worthless. That's exactly how I felt. You can't go out and keep thinking that about yourself though. You need to cheer up and make the best of everything. Guys and people in general will want to spend more time with you if you do. Not only that, but it'll make YOU feel better.
The truth is, we never know when we will find our true love. Some find it later in love and some may never find it. The only thing we can do about that is not base our lives on boyfriends and girlfriends. We need to enjoy life despite what we don't have. Everyone has lots of things they wish they had.
With excellent friends, you shouldn't need to worry 24/7 about getting a boy. With excellent friends, you don't even need a man to make you happy! Keep yourself busy. Go out with your friends, volunteer, community service, school activities, clubs, read, cook, clean, watch movies, all of that! It'll make you feel good, and you won't spend your time moping around all the time about a guy. It'll work. Happiness doesn't come right away, we have to work for it.
Don't think guys don't like you because of your weight. There are many beautiful girls (from all shapes and sizes and weights) that have never had a boyfriend. It's not because of their looks, it's only because they have not found the right guy. Or maybe there is the right guy...but he's just shy! So what you need to do is not worry. Just be yourself and be happy. You will find the right guy someday and you shouldn't feel bad about yourself just because he hasn't arrived yet.
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its not your weight. you just havent found the right guy yet its quick for others and its slow for others i had boyfriends wen i was young but that doesnt count cuz well i was young and stupid.... but im 15 now and i just got my first and last real love of my life wen i was 14. dont worry youll find someone who loves you for you so in other words dont change! your fine
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