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too clingy
my boyfriend and me have been going out for a lil over a month and i still dont feel anything for him, hes totally obssesed with me and i dunno what to say to him without hurting him because hes a really good friend of mine! I feel like im just stuck in a bad relationship. Some people keep saying stuff like i cheat on him all the time which i dont, im just a natural flirt and i cant help it!..id really just rather be single for awhile because spring breaks coming up and i dont wanna have to be tied down! Does anybody know what i could say to him that wouldnt hurt his feelings? :(
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break up wit him.. he'll be hurt but he'll get over u.. if u dont like him dont pretend 2! x0o*
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I know how that is but see you acually might start to have feelings for him! If you dont feel anything for him break up with him. Its worse being with him and not liking him in that kind of way. Just break up and be friends and tell him that you dont want a boyfriend right now. x0
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I've always found that people take gently to the classic: "Listen, your a wonderful guy, but your just not for me! I really want us to remain friends as i really value you, but in a relationship its not working." Be really gentle and just be honest! Good luck!
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You've got to bite the bullet and do it, cause otherwise it's not really fair on him.
Let him down VERY gently and tell him that although you'd love to be friends, you don't see the relationship moving anywhere right now. Assure him that you haven't cheated on him and tell him that you're sorry.
He'll be upset at first but he will get over it-and this way you'll be free!
Good luck,
Sophie xxx
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this is sort of what happend to me and what i said is that "we could still be good friends it is just that we arent really right for each other, sorry" and if that doesnt work just try to talk to him about it and see what he thinks
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Oooh, I've been in a couple of those one-sided relationships. Just say you think it would be better for both of you if you saw other people. Tell him that you don't want either of you to be unhappy, and you feel like this relationship isn't working out for either of you. Be nice, courteous, and make sure you don't come off as being selfish and mean. Hope it helps.
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I think his feeling will be hurt no matter what you say.Just have to do it as nicely as possible
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hi, well i'm sorry to break this down to you this way, but no matter what you say to the person he is going to get hurt no matter what...but if you want to hurt him less as possible without being mean or anything like that...hmm i would say something like "i'm sorry but i dont think this is working, we're kinda to different from eachother and i see you more as a friend then as a boyfriend. i care about you a lot but i think it will be better if each goes their ways. i would like to still be your friend but if its hard for you now, i understand!" he might ask you why? what did i do wrong, or whatever...so like i said no matter what he is going to get hurt...just i dont know let him down as easly as possible...but sometimes just saying the truth streight up without giving excuses its better because a lot of guys prefear that so you could just be like "i'm sorry i dont see this is going anywhere...i dont really feel about you the way i use to..." or something like that. good luck..xoxo effy
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Aw. Howbout this? It's easy as this.
'Lookit, you're really nice... and I would so never want to break your heart. But I find it even more dishonest to sit here and let you think I feel the same way when I don't. It's too deceitful. I never cheated on you, and I want to stay good friends, your a really nice guy.'
Something along those lines couldn't hurt even the most sensitive guy! Sure he'll feel bad no matter what but not because of anything you said, just because the fact alone he broke up with you. Remember, it really isn't right to stay with someone just to make them happy. You know, your own hapiness is important as well.
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frankly, you have to be straight forward with him. just sit him down and tell him that you just dont feel as strongly about him as he does about you. leading someone on is just not fair to them. i know its hard, but its the best thing for both of you. good luck with it.
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Sometimes is normal for relationships to have unbalanced feelings. It is said that the best relatinships are based on mutual feelings. My advice to you is to just communicate with him and tell him that you dont want to be with him. In all actuallity its not fair for him to be so committed to you, when you dont feel what hes obvious feeling for you. Be straight foward with him, tell him whats on your mind.... and make sure you tell him that you dont want hurt him. My overall advice for you is if you dont like someone dont commit to them, its not fair because they can be putting all that effort to a relationship that really matters. THis way it works best for both of you, he can move on..... and so can you....
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Its definetly not nice at all to keep this relationship going while not liking him while hes having his obsession with you and while you're flirting with other guys. So, basically you should end it, because he needs to start the process of getting over you. Trust me, you'll feel better breaking his heart rather than being in this relationship. Anytime I wanted to break up with a guy, I never had guts, so my friends did it for me. I still think this is an ok thing to do, because then he doesn't have to deal with that akward yet depressing moment of you going to his face. You weren't cheating, but its still wrong to flirt with other guys while in a relationship period. It hurts peoples feelings. So makev sure that you still to flirting with that guy once you find him.
-TheTeenGirl
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