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Q: How do you make a guy aquaintance like you again if he's liked you before? Preferably fast, to the point where he's ready to be snatched up and locked in quickly.
He used to like me and I don't know why he stopped. What would catch his interest and lure him in? I think I've gotten a little louder. Do guys like quiet girls? Or girls who are the life of the party? His last gf was really, really quiet and he adored her. He has a gf now so whatever she's like, I have to surpass.
Cause I swear I cannot wait much longer.
Don't compare yourself to his past girlfriends. Every guy is different, and they all like different types of girls, but who knows? You obviously caught his interest before, it can happen again. If he's worth the effort, he'll see what a totally amazing person you are, and even if he likes girls you are the opposite of you, he may change his mind. I tend to go for the tall dark and handsome types, but I've fallen for blonde guys before!

Q: I have a really good friend, Madison, who I like alot... & I'm afraid 2 loose her... but I think I don't just LIKE her... I might love her... but I don't know... & her & I have had some problems getting through all of this, cos she said no when I asked her out... & yet I still love her... & its really confusing... & alot of her friends don't like me & try & turn her agenst me & keep her away from me, & lets just say, I'm not the best looking person in the world & I get alot of problems from other people cos I some how look gay or I'm just not attractive... & I really have problems with it... & so I'm trying 2 get my life back on track & try & get through all these problems I have... & I just want 2 know what I should do about Madison... should I try & move on...? or what...?

thanks so much!
-Cameron
Gosh, I hate people who completely judge a person on appearance, and if they don't look like Orlando Bloom, they are "gay". It's so stupid. All the guys I have dated have been unattractive, but really nice. People in this society will always look down on you if you don't look like a model, but this society has a lot of problems, so don't let that get you down. Besides, all those "hot" people will eventually get old and wrinkly, and then what will they have, if they were mean to everyone? NOTHING.

As for Madison, if you are really good friends with her, then she should know that you are a great person. If she's not interested, well, than that's that. BUT maybe you should just focus on being her friend for right now. Who knows? Maybe she'll she that you are a wonderful guy, even if you aren't mind-blowingly good looking. If she starts showing signs of liking you as more than a really good friend, maybe you should try again. Hope I could help.

Q: I have to make some kind of food for this international festival at school, our country is mexico. I have to bring something that will feed a lot of people and all the basics are already taken. Chips and salsa and cheese dip and quesadillas and rice and tacos are already taken. I need something thats big and easy. Any ideas would be very helpful, thanks!
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I am Mexican! A Spanish tortilla is really good. It's basically a big omelette with chunks of potatoes, and whatever else you want to put in it. It's thicker than an omelette though, so you may need to get a recipe off Google. There are a lot of good Mexican food sites out there. If that doesn't work, you can always make guacamole!

Q: I like this guy at my school, and I don't know if he likes me. He's shy and doesn't talk to girls, so I don't know if he would like me and how his personality would show it. He always looks at me and stuff, and he's so cute, but how can I find out he likes me without actually asking him? Please answer if you have a solution.
Invite him and his friends to do something (movie, lunch...) with you and your friends. If he seems interested, then, sure, he probably is interested. If he doesn't seem too thrilled with the idea, he probably doesn't like you. Either way you'll have your answer, and hearing "No, I can't go to the movies with you" is better than hearing "No, I don't like you".

Q: my boyfriend and me have been going out for a lil over a month and i still dont feel anything for him, hes totally obssesed with me and i dunno what to say to him without hurting him because hes a really good friend of mine! I feel like im just stuck in a bad relationship. Some people keep saying stuff like i cheat on him all the time which i dont, im just a natural flirt and i cant help it!..id really just rather be single for awhile because spring breaks coming up and i dont wanna have to be tied down! Does anybody know what i could say to him that wouldnt hurt his feelings? :(
Oooh, I've been in a couple of those one-sided relationships. Just say you think it would be better for both of you if you saw other people. Tell him that you don't want either of you to be unhappy, and you feel like this relationship isn't working out for either of you. Be nice, courteous, and make sure you don't come off as being selfish and mean. Hope it helps.

Q: Title ses it all... I want to believe in myself i actually think i do a bit. If someone says i have a hudge nose i wont just take it ill say something back like no way i dont its perfect! but then later when im on my own i'd get really up set about it and self consious how do i get rid of my self-consious and just show every one "you get what ya get so get over it" kinda talk.. becuase my friend melissa is kind of like that but i just cant seam to click like that..
lush me x
Don't spend too much time thinking about what every one else thinks. Everyone you know now will eventually fade out of your life, and it won't matter what they think. The only thing that truly matters is what you think. If you think your nose is perfect, but someone else says it's huge, who cares? YOU know it's perfect. Most people only say stuff like that because they are afraid you might be thinking the same stuff about them. So keep your head up, and don't listen to the negative stuff people say.

Q: i want to act as a career but everyone doupts me my confidence is low what should i do
If you enjoy acting, you should go for it, no matter what anyone else says. You are the one who knows you best.

Q: OK, well there is this guy who i really really like and he has a gf. I really like him and i want him and his recent gf to break up really bad. Should i tell him i like him or just wait to see what happens?
Something like this happened to me. I told him that I liked him, but then he started avoiding me. I think you should just wait it out, and settle for being friends for now.

Q: i look for porn sites on google with my computer...everytime i get on google and i type "p" and the word porn will then flash on to the screen...i dont want to get caught!!! how do i clear the history??? plz help!
Don't look at it, moron.

Q: I went to a dance last night and had a BLAST! My friends went up to the kid (Ive admired from a distance lets say for like 2 years! lol) and they asked him (Logan) if he would dance with me and I guess he said yes (I wasnt there though.) So, the next slow song came on and he asked me to dance. =) Yay! And we both seemed to really like it and I could tell he was nervous which happens when you like someone right? But, then I kept trying to get his attention on the FAST dances. He would be right next to me and not even look over @ me! I mean, all these other guys told me I looked hot nd stuff byt Logan didnt even care! I was so mad. I was dancing with all my friends and we were dancing really dirty ..lol but obviously it didnt get his attention. ANyways, he didnt ask me to dance at all again the whole dance! So I danced with other people but he didnt dance with any other girls so thats a good sign?? At the end of the dance, my friends dad picked me and my friend up because I was sleeping over her house. And, we were stuck in traffic for like 3 seconds, and i saw mike with a few friends and he looked at me and i looked at him from the car and i smiled and he smiled back! We used to flirt all last year, but then he got really popular and wasnt in any of my classes. DO you think he likes me?! i hate boys ..what would you do NEXT if you were me? I dont know what the next step is for logan and me ..or if there is one at all . SOrry its long!
It just may be that Logan doesn't like or know how to fast dance. You said he got popular, maybe he just doesn't want to ruin his "image" by flirting with you, in which case he's not worth it anyway.

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