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Madison
I have a really good friend, Madison, who I like alot... & I'm afraid 2 loose her... but I think I don't just LIKE her... I might love her... but I don't know... & her & I have had some problems getting through all of this, cos she said no when I asked her out... & yet I still love her... & its really confusing... & alot of her friends don't like me & try & turn her agenst me & keep her away from me, & lets just say, I'm not the best looking person in the world & I get alot of problems from other people cos I some how look gay or I'm just not attractive... & I really have problems with it... & so I'm trying 2 get my life back on track & try & get through all these problems I have... & I just want 2 know what I should do about Madison... should I try & move on...? or what...?
thanks so much!
-Cameron
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Trying to move on is your choice. Maybe you should ask her why she turned you dowm. Your appearance shouldn't have to change. There's this guy in my grade [Chase] and he looks gay, but is really the sweetest person I know. So if Madison is declinig you[r asking out] you should ask her WHY she declined you. That way if there's a good reason you'll know.
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Cameron,
This is off the subject, but I love your name. I've been reading the Left Behind books, and one of the character's name is "Cameron" called "Buck". I absolutely love this name. :P Now to the question.
Ok, it doesn't matter if you're not attractive or whatever. Gosh, like I am? Trust me, there are millions, trillions of people - girls, who are absolutely beautiful. Person* could like any one of these girls, but he doesn't. It is character that counts. Not the outside. Skin is only 1/16th of an inch deep. It could be ripped off in a single instant. If this happened, your whole apperance would be lost. There was a model, a female model, she was the most beautiful person (physically) that I have ever seen. But, she was in a car accident, and the car caught on fire. Her whole face was burnt off. She has no eyelids, so she uses eye drops every thirty seconds. She has no fingers, nose, ears, but only cavaties in her face. Her character has improved though! She is much kinder and understanding after her horrible accident. I still think this woman is a beautiful woman; if not on the outside then on the inside. Be this way! Be this alive! It doesn't matter if you're not the greatest looking guy! You're fourteen, alot is going to change in your life. Don't base too much of your life on appearance. Focus on your heart. Make sure your heart is right with God.
I understand this feeling you have. "Maybe I don't just like Person.. maybe I love him." - only in your case you love Madison. This is understandable. Close bonds are formed through friendship, and sometimes those friendships lead to "more than just friends". Tell Madison that you love her. On IM or in person, whichever you prefer. Tell her, "Madison, I honestly like you as more than a friend, but I don't want to lose your friendship." and if she doesn't like you in return, don't sweat it. She'll either realize her folly and come to like you, or you'll get over her. You sound like a really nice guy.. don't focus on what you don't have, but what you DO have!
Maybe she's not the right one for you. If her opinion is biased off of what other people say about you then she's not a true friend to you. I know that hurts... but it's the truth. I almost fell into this trap, with 'normal' friends. I thought they were my friends, that they liked and accepted me... but I was SOO wrong. Anway, accept change and be open to God's will.
Most importantly, Cameron, don't listen to what other people say! I know how hard this is, trust me, I know. My Sunday school teacher told me that she thought I was "abnormal" - to my face! Of course, she and I don't get along... but I've never told her that I think she's weird. *shrugs* I am weird, but that's still not something you TELL someone... is it? But the point is, I don't care what she thinks of me. I am called "goth" at my church. I am most certainly NOT goth; but I am "unique", "peculiar", "different" and "weird". I do not mind being called these things. I do not mind being called goth. Even though I'm not, it doesn't matter to me. Just because I wear dark blue jeans, black t-shirts and black high tops doesn't make me goth. I am a Jesus Freak. I am a really, really different Jesus freak, but that is what I am. - Follow this example. Don't think about what other people think about you! Follow your heart and what God is telling you to do! It is so hard for me to "follow my heart" because I am a skeptic, self conscious, and strange. But, do your best to follow your heart, ok? Please!
Don't give up on Madison yet, mmkay? Tell her how you feel about her, once more, and if she doesn't like you still, don't take it to heart.
Pray about this. God will show you through.
-FunnyCide
* name change
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Gosh, I hate people who completely judge a person on appearance, and if they don't look like Orlando Bloom, they are "gay". It's so stupid. All the guys I have dated have been unattractive, but really nice. People in this society will always look down on you if you don't look like a model, but this society has a lot of problems, so don't let that get you down. Besides, all those "hot" people will eventually get old and wrinkly, and then what will they have, if they were mean to everyone? NOTHING.
As for Madison, if you are really good friends with her, then she should know that you are a great person. If she's not interested, well, than that's that. BUT maybe you should just focus on being her friend for right now. Who knows? Maybe she'll she that you are a wonderful guy, even if you aren't mind-blowingly good looking. If she starts showing signs of liking you as more than a really good friend, maybe you should try again. Hope I could help.
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One thing you should definitely do is stay away from her mean friends! They have no respect and I'm hoping this girl Madison is nothing like them. If she is ignorant towards you, then move on and find someone better. Never say you're not attractive! Just get your life together, surround yourself with positive, nice people and stay friends with this girl if you can. A 14 year old guy? You needa start flirtin & havin fun! xo
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