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I feel like I am jealous of my friend, and that she is jealous of me, too. I am not sure if this is the case, or if it is, why we are both jealous of eachother. I don't know why, but we have been competing lately over the stupidest things like who has more friends, more attention from guys, and just attention in general. I feel like I should not be doing this because she is my friend and I don't want to think of her as some kind of competitor. I want to be her friend like we used to, back when silly things like this didn't matter so much and we never argued. It probably sounds like I am referring to kindergarten, but things were better just maybe a month back. But lately she has been putting me down and such, but when she does this, I say something to make her feel bad about herself as a comeback, but then she will do the same thing to be back. It only happens sometimes; and she starts it. I guess I am just asking for someone to tell me what I should do to get her to stop doing this. What can I tell her that will convince her that putting me down is not what friends do? And how can I stop from fighting back and putting her down when she does it to me? Any ideas why this is happening to me and my friend? What can I do?
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just don't say mean things back to her. be the better person to stop the competing. whenever she tries to outdue you just pretend like you don't care if she's better or not. i think that will make her stop. hope i helped :)
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I would just sit down and talk with her about everything that's going on. Just be like,"You know you're like, my best friend and everything but lately we've been going at eachother's throats it seems to try and make the other jealous, I don't know. I DO know that we keep putting eachother down and hurting eachother's feelings, and friends shouldn't be doing that to eachother. And I really don't want to be fighting with you and putting you down and what not. Can we just try and not to do it?" And just talk it out with her and try and resolve it and just let her know you're feelings on everything.
The reason you're doing it is because you're two teenage girls. You're going to be jealous of 340930493 girls, even your friends. And of course you're going to try and make yourself feel better about yourself by making the other girls feel bad about themselves, it's basically nature. We must "survive in the social jungle", bahah. Anyways. It just may be ( I'm just saying, not incinuating ) that you and your friend might just have some insecurities about yourselves and you find something in one another, some quality you wish you had.
You both just need to learn to remind yourselves to keep all your thoughts to yourselves, and replace them with thoughts of the good things about eachother, and all the good times you guys have had together and how you want to keep her as a friend, and not lose her. Even if a remark slips out of one another's mouths, even though you WANT to say something, shut it. Keep it to yourself, like I said. Just remember you don't want to be arguing. And if something is SAID by one of you, have the other let you know you're putting them down, and just apologize and change the subject and try and forget about it.
I hope I helped.
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