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Hi. I'm 15, I've never had a boyfriend, a kiss, really anything from a guy. I'm fat, but I'm pretty. I have about 5 closeclose guy friends, that I get occasional hugs from, but it's not enough. I want a boyfriend, or even just a guy to like me (we dont have to be going out). I feel like a failure. So what, I'm fat? I know that's all guys look for, and I know alot of you are going to say, "You don't need a boyfriend!" or "You're still young!". But I'm going into 10th grade, and still so out of it. I don't know what I'm really asking for, I think I'm just confused & I feel like I've failed at life cause I'm a girl, but I've never had a boy.
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I was almost 16 before I got my first boyfriend. He was my first kiss, and I also slept with him. I regret it for the most part... I rushed into it too quickly because I had been "left out" for so long. I am sure you know what I mean. Honestly, you can't force anyone to like you. Stop looking and someone will find you. Good luck, and remember that you are pretty.. it's wonderful that you realize that. Most girls (boyfriend or not) can't realize it. Just keep your chin up, stay positive, have great self-esteem on the inside and out, and you will find someone that likes you for YOU!
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this is a tough one, ive had the same issues with the 'whats wrong with me? why dont i have a guy?'problems. but you know what? ive been there, and no matter what advice people gave me (including ppl from this site that i also asked) nothing seemed to help me. the only way you can get better is if you gain confidence with who you are and begin to feel comfortable in your own skin. its not an easy thing to do, believe me, but it can be done and when it is it feels amazingg! this is what i did: i relaxed and was myself and focused on my friends (both guys and girls). i tried to fix my flaws personality wise and tried to become a person i actually liked. eventually i began to attract those guys, and soon my best guy friend became my boyfriend (we've been dating for a year!!) ironically enough, it wasnt until i realized that i didnt need a boyfriend to be happy that i actually got one. i really hope this helped. leave me questions anytime if you need more help.
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Ok remember your always beautiful on the inside and fat doen't matter it's on the inside that counts. God made you that way and you should feel good about your self.
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you are not a failure! (repeat 10 more times). don't go looking for a guy... you are pretty and you are not desperate whatsoever! the right guy will come along and find you. I was in your position for a lonngggg time (yes, i'm fat too), and when i least expected it, the greatest guy became my bf. it's like he found me... i wasn't even looking anymore. just because you've never had a boy doesn't mean that you never will.... it's not too late or anything. i know it's overused blah blah but it's true! <3
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I'm not going to give you a typical answer that most girls will give you on here. I won't tell you that you're lucky you havn't dated and dealt with a break-up because that's something you want to experience.
What I'll tell you first is that you aren't a failure for it. You aren't a loser or anything less of girls who have dated and got their first kiss. Being 15 is an age where you really want to look into relationships, sex and everything good that really comes with boyfriends. You want to find romance and a guy who will really make you happy and make you feel like a beautiful person.
Second, you admit that you are overweight and pretty. There is honestly no greater gift than truly finding your beauty. If you can't love yourself, nobody else will be able to love you. Every girl has her insecurity here and there, but the important thing is to just try accepting it if it can't be undone or can't afford to fix it. If you can't afford to fix it or it's there forever, then it's meant to be there to make you the girl you are today.
Sometimes when we spend tons of time chasing after love and trying really hard to find it and can't seem to hold it or catch it, then you should wait until it comes after you. Make goals for your 10th grade year, not boy goals, grades and school activity goals. Was last year a drag keeping up with homework? Make a goal to stay caught up this year and work hard. Was there a lot of drama going on with your friends? Start over this year and make a goal to stay out of it. Is there a family crisis that's really got your family out of control? Do whatever you can to make sure you and your family is taken care of.
Whatever the goal may be, make sure it's a goal that's possible to achieve with hard work. If you really keep yourself busy, a lot of good and bad will come, but I'm sure the good will seem as worth your hard work. And that good might be a guy. I'm not saying that hard work and goals will bring you love, but if you begin to achieve things, you'll love yourself more and you'll accept yoursef more of the fact that you don't have a boyfriend.
A great goal for yourself (If you really want to) would be to lose some weight and keep healthy. Ask your family to help support you in losing some weight.
-TheTeenGirl
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